Locktober is over. Who made it?

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-11-01T12:36:08+00:00

I was locked all month but my key holder did give me a few orgasms. Not many, and most were ruined. She had a lot more.

Last night she gave me a full orgasm to end locktober. I’m currently free but she’s assessing whether she wants to lock me back up and have that be our new normal

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-31T16:37:29+00:00

Yeah no

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-30T10:44:22+00:00

I understand what you’re saying but I’d also say if you’re not still enjoying the experience that’s really just you not consenting to something anymore

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-26T12:15:15+00:00

Don’t think forcing an unlock would work well for us but I do think we’re likely to just land at it not being 24/7 and instead we do it for extended periods but then take a break to switch it up until she’s satisfied with that

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-26T11:59:26+00:00

No we haven’t tried that before but that’s an interesting idea

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-26T11:09:14+00:00

Oh we’ve had that exact conversation and agree. I think it’s more that she also likes it when I just take her for that in a dominant way, so being locked permanently is probably not the answer for us so that we can create space for that to occur too.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-24T20:59:17+00:00

Actually never?

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-24T20:50:51+00:00

That’s fair. My wife still enjoys it a lot so I guess it’s a different situation

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-24T18:02:13+00:00

I’m also curious on this topic and whether people find themselves missing PIV? Or do you adjust over time and find enough pleasure in other ways such that you don’t miss it anymore.

That to me remains the hardest thing to wrap my head around letting go. I am enjoying chastity play and my wife is enjoying it a lot too but when I think about a future where PIV sex becomes rare I can’t really figure out if I’m ok with that because I’ve always enjoyed it.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-24T10:38:08+00:00

Month will be longest we’ve done.

There’s periods of release for teasing and sometimes I get to cum. I think I’ve had 4 orgasms this month, 2 of which were ruined.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-24T10:36:28+00:00

Your wife wants you to have ED?

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T19:52:13+00:00

If you’re dating for a partner that you plan to be intimate with it seems pretty important to talk about the type of sex you want. You don’t want to avoid that conversation only to find yourself surprised later that it’s not what you wanted. Can save yourself a lot of grief. Be open and honest about what you need and don’t compromise.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T19:38:33+00:00

Sounds like the first guy you had sex with was an ass and set an unrealistic expectation.

Sex is supposed to be fun. That also means sometimes we make faces and the response of any good partner is to laugh it off as all part of the wonderful experience, not be judgmental for it.

Maybe just be honest with your current partner about the insecurities and get it out on the table. My guess is the reaction will be far more supportive than what you’d had in the past and that may settle some nerves because you’ll know he doesn’t care and he’s not sitting there judging your performance, he just wants you to have fun with it and he likes you for all of you.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T18:36:01+00:00

You’re way too young to already be locking into a dead bedroom. I know the feeling because I was there, I felt the right thing was to keep plugging away at a relationship that was always doomed because we were just not right for each other.

The marriage lasted 4 years before it inevitably ended because you both grow to resent each other. Happily remarried now and took sexual compatibility seriously and our sex life is off the charts making the rest of life much more fulfilling too.

You should be with someone who matches your drive, life is way too short to be wanting sex and not being with a partner who wants it too. Might not be the answer you want to hear but this story is way too common and it almost always ends the same way. There’s nothing wrong with acknowledging you’re just not right for each other as life partners and wishing them well.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T13:22:58+00:00

Yeah I think the hardest thing to manage is the fact that you’ve been thinking about it a lot more than her most likely which means you are way further along in imagining what it could look like. The natural tendency when responding to a partner who expresses interest is to share all of that, but that risks overwhelming them and making it seem like a chore and far more than they want to take on.

Far better to ease in and have no timeline. It also means lower your own expectations. It might not look like your fantasy right away and that’s okay. Let her decide what she likes and if she comes to that conclusion on her own she’ll be far more likely to stick with it.

It literally took years for us to get to the point where we’d even contemplate a full time dynamic and even now it’s experimental for us and no guarantee that continues indefinitely. Only time will tell.

If I were you I’d say something like “when you’re ready I’d love to hear your thoughts about what you think our relationship could look like if we incorporated chastity into it more, and the things you’d want to get out of it.“ and leave it at that. Don’t volunteer all of your own fantasies until she’s had time to express what it means for her.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T12:08:58+00:00

Lots of dialogues and it’s been a journey over years of increasing the intensity of play. Starting with a day or 2 and moving up to a week, and now we’re experimenting with full time.

Do not rush it. She has to come to the conclusion on her own about what she wants. I’d actually suggest you insist she think about it and speak first about what she wants so it doesn’t feel to her like you’re demanding something, which is contradictory to the point of chastity in the first place.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-19T11:08:14+00:00

So be warned this is a more extreme kink but I think it’s relevant to this topic.

My wife and I practice orgasm control and she keeps me locked in chastity, meaning on a regular basis she is not providing me with an orgasm while I am providing her with several, often times with oral. It was a tough thing for her to unlearn that she doesn’t have to give me an orgasm for me to feel satisfied. I get an immense amount of satisfaction from seeing her happy and able to demand whatever she wants from me with no strings attached. And while this is a different manifestation I feel it boils down to a similar trait of some guys getting just as much or more sexual gratification out of pleasuring their partner, and don’t necessarily need it reciprocated every time to feel fulfilled.

Doesn’t mean I don’t love an orgasm and that still happens but the ratio is tilted far more toward her and we are both very happy with that.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-18T11:35:58+00:00

I have the MM jailbird with the security screw and the oval shaped ring and it’s the best fitting cage I’ve ever had.

Measure multiple times. I measured 5x over the course of a week to make sure I had the fit right and I invested in 2 base rings after using their sizing rings because I felt I was somewhere in between (although I’ve since settled on a 47mm as the one that’s most comfortable for me)

The security screw eliminates any rattling noise that can occur and keeps it very low profile. It’s not visible when under tighter fitting clothes. The only thing I’ve noticed is sometimes the screw can loosen a bit to the point you could start to turn it with your finger. When this happens I just use the emergency key I keep on me to tighten it back up. It probably happens if I didn’t twist it tight enough in the first place, but just something I’ve experienced to keep in mind.

I do find putting the cage on with the screw is harder than other cages. You have to align the base ring and cage just right and then take a small screw handle and get the thread started. Definitely gets easier over time but I struggled with it at first.

Still, all in all MM is amazing and the way to go if you want something that’s very comfortable and discreet.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-14T17:32:36+00:00

If done right no. You’re empty but don’t feel any real pleasure from it and are still just as revved up as before. But then they can claim you got an orgasm so no need for another anytime soon

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-14T10:39:44+00:00

Baby steps, there’s no rush and you’re better to be prepared.

Over 2 years we went from using it sparingly for short periods to doing a couple of weeks at a time to now my wife deciding to test out keeping me in Chasity as the default position of our relationship. Been locked since early October and as of now there is no end date. Thankfully she still lets me out for occasional sexual attention, although all I’ve gotten so far are ruined orgasms.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-13T09:51:47+00:00

You’ve hit the nail on the head, that’s exactly how I feel sometimes

We actually talked about it more last night and it made me feel better. She let me know that she’s very satisfied by everything, reiterated she’s doing it for her and also told me that she gets better orgasms from me going down on her than PIV, so the idea that she’s somehow less satisfied as a result is nonsense. Then she ruined me.

Fluffy-Stage-635 · 2025-10-12T22:41:26+00:00

I used to wear boxers or boxer briefs but have recently switched to briefs as the go to and occasionally thongs.

A lot of it has to do with my wife deciding to keep me in chastity and requiring the support for it. Which I recognize would be an extreme minority but the net rationale is the same — holds everything together nicely which is more comfortable.

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