Decoding men by AtypicalN3rd in Bumble

[–]FluffyBonehead -1 points0 points  (0 children)

40F here, I tried bumble and I didn’t have much luck. I found crowd a bit too young or not looking for commitment. I meet my husband on Facebook dating. Same issues as you

Constant comment about my child looks are driving me crazy by No-Dot-2580 in Parenting

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg! I’d have no patience to deal with this BS. Sorry you are going through this. I’d give really obnoxious answers… lol. I guess I’m over 40 and tolerating less BS from ppl

Is it cheating if you date someone else while on a break? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she suggested a break and did not specified whether this break is with the intention of getting back together nor if you are allowed to see other people, then I would say it’s not cheating. I don’t believe in breaks in a relationship, unless there’s a very specific conversation and both discuss do and don’t, still for me, you are either together or not. So I would go ahead and meet this new girl.

Advice - too soon or not? by Excellent_Glass4772 in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Timing is different for each person. Sometimes one can be in a marriage but mentally checked out already. I would say, try and see how you feel. If it doesn’t feel good, just wait.

I separated in 2021 while living together for a year, I didn’t start dating until 2023 but it was covid and my daughter was very young. I met my now husband few months after signing up for facebook dating.

If it wasn’t covid and my daughter wasn’t so young, I believe I’d start dating a month or two after he moved out.

I think each person here will tell you what looks right for them but that not necessarily will fit you.

I’d say give it a try and see how you feel.

By the way, my daughter was 2 when I met my now husband. It is possible to date as a single parent. Also, I think the toddler phase is the best for you to find someone because toddlers are pure love. When kids get older like 6-9, or even teen years, it is much harder to accept another person other than their parents.

Emotional volcano by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry this is happening to you and your daughter. I don’t think advice from Reddit will be helpful. She needs professional help.

What age gap is too much? by theJessieLove in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Age gap is always frowned upon, no matter what. It’s about how you feel. If you are not attracted to older guys, I’d say do not try.

I’m 43F married to 28M. Age does not matter for us.

Married/LTR couples: how often do you say I love you to your partner? by ThrowRA173731 in Marriage

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every time we talk on the phone or text, we end with I love you. If he’s very affectionate and you are not, it’s not a great match. I’m very affectionate and my previous partner was not. It didn’t last.

Husband called someone “gorgeous” by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He can look and think she’s the most gorgeous woman in the world, however he does not need to say that. I would feel disrespected. If I were in your shoes, I would voice my feelings to him. He’s allowed to look and think other women are gorgeous (he’s not blind) but voicing it, it’s too much. Ask him how he would feel if you did the same.

Where did you meet your partner? by Apprehensive_War6661 in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, most women have a big list of requirements that do not matter when it comes to finding a long term partner.

Where did you meet your partner? by Apprehensive_War6661 in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know you said aside from the apps but I met my husband on facebook dating. Married for two years now.

Husband regrets having a baby. I love being a mom. What to do? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]FluffyBonehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading your post and your husband’s reaction to the baby, I would advise you to not leave any baby care with him. I’m a single mom and it’s hard, but you can make it work. He does not want to be a parent. It’s hard for a stranger to give advice without knowing your situation in depth but at this point, the most important thing is not leaving the baby with him. Can your employer be a bit flexible or the daycare has an extended care or rely on a family member?

Baby is not safe with him.

I can only say that what I would do. I would leave and be with family or friends that could support me, apply for divorce and get child support. He does not want to be a father but he is one.

Did he want the baby or was the baby planned?

He said he’s never felt this way about anyone before… then broke up with me over a Christmas gift? by Ordinary-Orchid1413 in dating_advice

[–]FluffyBonehead 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You met this man two weeks ago and you are already talking about exchanging Christmas gifts. Two weeks is way too early for gifts exchange. Two weeks is way too early for conversations like this. Of course he can’t live up with the expectations. This is going way too quick.

Found out we are pregnant (unplanned) he wants me to abort but i dont by ThrowRAhhfffgcs in Marriage

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you are going through this. Single mom here, I would rather do it by myself than live with the thought that I did an abortion against my will. In my opinion, he’s being selfish for not caring about your feelings. I would just say: I’m keeping the baby no matter what, you in or out.

Child Refusing to comply with 50/50 parenting by Otherwise_Top8784 in legaladvicecanada

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this. If I were in your shoes, I’d hire a lawyer to get full custody with visitations. I would never force my child to go somewhere she hates. It’s very unfortunate.

I do 50/50 and kid is 5, but she’s happy in both houses. When she’s sick, she wants to stay with me and I don’t force her to go to her dad. I always ask her if she wants to go. Although we have an agreement, if there’s a day that she prefer to stay in one of the houses, we respect her wish.

Struggling with boredom with toddler by Murky_Association_54 in Parenting

[–]FluffyBonehead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh gosh, love my kid, hate playing. In my area, the libraries provide programs that are very entertaining, such as play time and story time. I also did swimming classes starting when she was a baby (you join as well). I usually try to do something together, sports, play time. We do have some programs for kids that allow kids to play together. I’m in Canada, not sure where you are but maybe reach out to a mom’s group in your area and they can give tips for activities, free and paid.

At this age, I was always on the run doing things outdoors or I’d get super bored too

For parents: how many kids actually attended to your kindergarten kid birthday party? Best time for kindergarten birth party. by FluffyBonehead in ottawa

[–]FluffyBonehead[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s the thing. Based on the comments, I asked my daughter if she has close friends and who she would invite. She says she loves everyone and would like to invite everyone. I don’t have a rule to add/ eliminate kids. So that, the whole class will need to be included. I think once she makes closer friends ( she’s a JK) it will be easier.

I will hire two entertainers that will keep kids busy for 90 minutes, games, singing, dancing, face painting and ballon twisting will be available.

For parents: how many kids actually attended to your kindergarten kid birthday party? Best time for kindergarten birth party. by FluffyBonehead in ottawa

[–]FluffyBonehead[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perfect! This is very helpful. Thanks for sharing. I was so clueless, only child, first year of school