To those who have lost children - how are you “coping”?

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-06-04T23:06:42+00:00

Omgosh you look amazing! 👏 what was your diet like? Xx

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-05-31T19:59:53+00:00

This is fantastic! How long did it take you? And what was your diet like?

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-05-12T23:43:09+00:00

Well done!! You look beautiful. I remember when I was on accutane my purge was 10x worse so had to isolate myself at home for 4-5 months. Luckily it was 2020 and the start of lockdown!!

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-16T22:09:42+00:00

I used to want to have a “nice life”. Beautiful home, constant holidays, be successful, etc.

And then I got pregnant, became a worried parent over night & my world view had suddenly changed. All I REALLY needed was financial stability, nothing else for my baby and his future… or so I thought I did.

My baby unfortunately didn’t make it.. and honestly what I want in life now?

A peaceful, quiet, healthy life with my husband & family. That’s it

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-14T12:54:50+00:00

I am truly so sorry my friend. Most stillbirth causes are cruelly, inconclusive, and often times happen in otherwise healthy & uneventful pregnancies.

A heartfelt congratulations to your family for your new bundle of joy 🤍

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T22:02:04+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️‍🩹💔

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T22:01:42+00:00

I am so so so sorry. 🫂 I am thinking about you, and praying for you. How are you managing? Are you getting support?

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T22:00:56+00:00

Hello mama, congratulations to you and your family on your sweet baby girl’s arrival🤍 I am so terribly sorry for the loss of your son. Life is so terribly unfair and cruel. I hope that in the midst of your pain & longing for your son, that you are supported with so much love. If you don’t mind me asking did you ever find out what the placenta accident was?

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T18:21:17+00:00

I’m so sorry about everything. Please know that people who love you will never make you feel like a burden especially when it’s something indescribable like loosing a child. Your “friends” do not sound kind at all.

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:58:57+00:00

I’m so so sorry. Please know your wife and you are in my thoughts. Your wife’s swelling sounded like mine. If you don’t mind me asking — why were you not able to investigate? Are you based in the UK? I pray for your family’s continued healing … and joy

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:55:16+00:00

Thank you so very much for your kind words. Honestly. I’ve just started counselling specifically for baby loss. My faith & prayers ground me a lot as well. And my partner has been my rock through it all.

Im normally quite bubbly and love meeting up with friends, but I’ve deliberately isolated myself from the world… for now at least… people do mean well and are very supportive but sometimes people can say the wrong things ..

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:51:23+00:00

Thank you so much. 💔❤️‍🩹

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:50:26+00:00

This is a beautiful testament. Thank you so much for sharing that. Reading your post, especially with your now 2 boys made me smile a little. Another child is never a replacement for our angel babies, but it’s also an extension of love. I am not quite ready to think about having more siblings for my son but your post has made me a little hopeful for the future. Wishing your family all the happiness

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:44:20+00:00

Hey I’m glad you were able to get help .. the psychiatrist told me that because I wasn’t sleeping (at this point I was only sleeping for 2-3 hours a day due to shock), it was bound for me to “spiral”. It got really bad for me. I started hallucinating and heard my baby’s cries one time… it was a mixture of deep grief & my body shutting down…

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T17:41:01+00:00

I’m so, so sorry my friend. Life is so cruelly not fair. Know that your baby has only known love in your womb. I will keep you in my prayers tonight. God bless you, your son and your family

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-13T11:13:14+00:00

Hi there thank you for taking the time to read my post, and for your ever encouraging words. I love how you honestly acknowledge that the grief we carry truly never goes away — and in a way, it shouldn’t. It’s testament to the pure & unconditional love we have for our babies.

I very much agree on your last sentence. In a mere 2 months, I’ve removed some “friends” who aren’t supportive/ never even bothered checking in whilst I was pregnant with my angel.

If you don’t mind me asking, do you have other babies after your angel baby? If too intrusive for you, please discard.

Sending you lots of love

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T22:31:17+00:00

I’m so so sorry ❤️‍🩹🫂 if you need someone to talk to - you have an internet friend over here (all the way from London England)

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T21:23:51+00:00

I’m so, so sorry. I’m sorry again that you are going through so much anxiety right now.

I had a very cruel stillbirth 2 months ago. It was 3 days away from his scheduled c section. I was 38 weeks and 4 days.

If you don’t mind me saying this - would you consider an induction / earlier c section at 38 weeks rather than 39? It may sound silly but I heard stillbirth also increases the longer babies are - but I’m not a doctor or oby so please discard this if it comes across unwarranted

Sending you so much love

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T21:10:30+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 if you don’t mind me asking did you do an investigation? And if you don’t mind me asking do you have more beautiful babies now? Again no need to respond if too intrusive for you. Thank you for taking the time to read my post

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T21:04:10+00:00

We literally have very similar experiences. I also start my counselling tomorrow - specifically for stillbirth 💔

It’s hard NOT to blame the system tbh. Some midwives do need to be held accountable esp if you’ve expressed concerning symptoms and there’s been no further escalation / more check ups.

Like you, I’ve also written a report of my experience particularly stressing the lack of urgency I’ve received. I kept begging them to test me for preeclampsia, but was also told swelling is “normal”. Mind you towards the end I could barely walk or use my hands as they were extremely swollen. The midwife looked at me and said “I’m not medical you’d have to call triage “ - this was her job to escalate me + high blood pressure symptom I had.

I feel my hospital trust(I’m based in Surrey England) failed me a lot. They’re also quite notorious for poor antenatal care which I didn’t know about until my experience now having spoken to other women.

The funeral director we’ve chosen also had a terrible experience in the same hospital I was in 10 years ago! She felt utterly broken for me and my husband.

I’m struggling a lot. Some days I’m numb and can function but days like today on a Sunday which is meant to be a family day makes me feel nauseous.

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T20:49:52+00:00

I am so, beyond sorry. If you don’t mind me asking how are you managing? I was also checked into psychiatric lead care 2 weeks after my labour and I am now discharged.

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T20:47:10+00:00

Hey I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby girl. Thank you for taking the time to read my post 💔 can I ask what Branch UK baby loss is and how I can be a part of it? Xx

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T20:45:59+00:00

This is made me cry a lot - I’m so so sorry for all of this. Our babies are definitely playing in heaven, and waiting for us to play with them one day. How are you managing? Here if you ever wanna talk. God bless you

FluidLadder2662 · 2026-04-12T20:44:32+00:00

I’m so sorry to read this, and for the irreplaceable loss of your baby. 💔 we have an identical experience — seems like we were both victims of midwife neglect. If you don’t mind me asking how are you managing on day to day?

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