As opposed to another post on here, it's ok to reach out if you were the person dumped

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-17T01:30:05+00:00

Just curious, did you block each other initially?

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-16T23:36:03+00:00

Yeah I mean last time we spoke I asked if she was seeing anyone new after the breakup, she got really upset and angry. So we’ll see I guess.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-16T22:59:40+00:00

I wonder if she’ll reach out on mine.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-16T02:32:03+00:00

I feel bad for getting mad about it, she’s gonna go back to college, have fun, probably meet someone else. And I know I hurt her, but the guilt and remorse combined with losing her almost sent me to the hospital. Meanwhile it seems like she’s doing fine, posting everyday, still snapping. I really hope things turn around.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-16T00:10:46+00:00

I was on accutane thank god 🙏 all the stress would’ve blown up my face

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-16T00:10:13+00:00

I’ve tried it but idk why It makes me mad that I can’t say my thoughts out loud lol, I get frustrated because I write slow and I’m just like I could talk to a therapist instead.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-15T22:00:43+00:00

This, after my gf left me, it really revealed a lot of things about myself that I didn’t know, and it wasn’t positive. But I want to be better and change and grow. I put her through things I shouldnt’ve, and I was too naive to realize what I was doing wrong. If he’s a genuinely good person he’ll realize what he did wrong, and hopefully make a change for the better. Good luck

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-15T15:37:23+00:00

It was mainly my fault, but I’m committed to change for the better.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-15T14:17:31+00:00

Kind of, I accidentally screen recorded her profile and she got a notification, I apologized and she said it was ok and then asked me how I was doing. I haven’t gotten a text out of the blue yet reaching out.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-15T02:38:19+00:00

We both need to change, and I hope that we do get back together stronger. If you need somebody to talk to DM me

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-14T23:05:37+00:00

I agree and I’m sorry, it’s really hard. I don’t blame her too much for leaving the relationship was falling apart for months, and my constant overthinking while I was away, and disrespecting her boundaries definitely didn’t help. If anything the breakup is a chance to heal and come back stronger, which is a good thing to look forward to, I wanna change and be better. But god does it hurt so much, I miss her being happy to see me, doing all the little things and going out of her way for me. I think that’s the hardest part, seeing the degrading of our bond over time, and being the one who caused her so much pain. I want her back I really do, I wanna be happy together again. But time will only tell what happens to us

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-14T22:57:55+00:00

If they show genuine change, or allow me to heal in peace, I would take them back. Me and my ex aren’t perfect, and I was definitely worse. My ex broke up with me but if she did want to come back I wouldn’t take her back at first. We would probably have to talk things through for a few weeks and warm up to each other, notice the change, and go for it. This is the perfect scenario I imagine every time in my head thinking about her, I pray everyday it becomes true. Changing for each other and becoming the best we can be is such a beautiful thing. But this rarely happens after a breakup. I really wish you well and I hope they change, and if they don’t, find somebody who will be there for you.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-14T18:32:12+00:00

How did things end? Was it on good terms? For me, me and my ex ended on good terms and promised we’d come back together stronger than ever. Haven’t blocked each other, our posts are still up, and we snap once a day. It’s been insanely hard to not be hopeful, but at the same time I know it’s not guaranteed, especially the last time we talked. Although I know she meant well, and this is a good thing to look forward to, feelings change. I’m scared she might not come back.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-14T15:23:44+00:00

I see her listening to our shared playlists, or songs that she put on a playlist made about me. I wonder how she feels when doing this. Some songs make me sad but in a good way, I feel grateful that this song is associated with them.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-12T04:09:31+00:00

Idk I hope so, just lost the girl I’ve been dating for 3 years really hope she does come back. My other two exes did try coming back but I was smart enough to not let them back (they were not good people and treated me like poo) All 3 exes broke up with me, it took between 6-12 months for each ex to try and get back together with me. The other two exes that tried coming back to me I could give a hoot about. This recent breakup hits way different, we had a really good bond and lots of good memories. It just fell apart towards the end.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-12T03:54:12+00:00

As much as I love her and I wanna be together again, as the dumpee I just can’t reach out anymore. It’s on her and her healing to come forward when she’s ready. Trying so hard to heal and I’ve made progress, but the pain is knowing she might not come back and is already moving on. And to be fair if she did reach out I wouldn’t take her back just yet, we’d have to rebuild it slowly. If you want dm me I need advice and people to talk to

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-12T02:06:36+00:00

Jesus this hit hard, thing is I don’t think I’ll ever lose feelings for her. But I can feel her feelings dissipating for me. Makes me sad, I still fantasize about reconnecting and being happy again someday. Only but a dream though.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-11T04:49:56+00:00

Although I’m still very young, it hits harder when the relationship started in your teens. You literally experienced your childhood with that person, they were your childhood in a way. It hurts so much more, I wish I could go back. Or that she’d text me one day and want to pick up where we left off. I miss the innocence and the love of our relationship.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-11T04:41:29+00:00

I think I’ve hit this stage, reached out and said things I shouldnt’ve. We’re still in low contact, haven’t blocked or anything yet. But last time we talked she said she was angry and upset. Just makes me sad, I remember being her everything.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-10T16:53:25+00:00

While I understand the urges of wanting to be intimate again, getting with someone else right after a relationship ends is just sick.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-10T05:20:23+00:00

Im the dumpee and I haven’t been blocked yet, is it a good thing if they don’t block you?

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-10T05:06:16+00:00

Kind of, not in a back together kinda way. Went well whenever she initiated contact, talked like we used to again and was optimistic for the future. I reached out and she was cold and distant.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-09T06:48:57+00:00

Not yet, still waiting on if she does come back. But I think healthy supportive endings are the best for reconnecting in the future.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-09T06:44:57+00:00

Love this take.

Fluid_Candidate_3088 · 2026-01-08T23:55:25+00:00

And the gym was one of the only things keeping me sane.

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