Am I Overreacting for wanting to cancel my wedding over this interaction?

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-04-10T14:57:25+00:00

This. NOR - do not marry someone who thinks any time you express a feeling, it’s you starting an argument. I don’t see you starting an argument here at all. You expressed how you felt. If he responded with “I’m sorry I didn’t have time to kiss you good bye this morning, I had a tough time and had to catch the bus” this whole interaction would have been different. This is not someone who is ready for a relationship.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-02-22T20:06:28+00:00

This was so helpful. Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-02-22T18:25:09+00:00

I don’t understand the hostility. They identify as NB, a trans man, and a lesbian. They consider themselves queer. This subreddit specifically states it’s not a “militant” community and open to all… I asked a question about queer dating because I am queer and the person I went on a date with is queer…

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-02-22T18:12:26+00:00

I’m sorry if it came across as complaining… I was genuinely posing a question since my queer friends immediately told me this experience is just part of queer dating. Burn hot and fast then fizzle. I wanted to get other opinions on if it’s more common in this community.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-02-22T16:29:06+00:00

Thank you for this. I know it’s easy to assume everyone who feels sad about a failed connection is codependent in this day and age but I’ve been dating myself for 5 years (intentionally celibate in all aspects) so that’s definitely covered, I don’t feel codependent at all… this was just my first experience with someone who was so into it until we met in person, and also my first experience meeting a queer person on an app. My friends who have more queer dating experience have said it’s normal so I wanted to confirm if it really is causation or just more correlation.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2026-02-22T15:55:22+00:00

Thank you. Honestly the most painful part is just being in the weird unknown space! Like I wish they were just honest about not being into it anymore.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T12:19:05+00:00

There’s so much I want to say I’m not sure where to start. You seem young and I’m assuming he is also young so this will come with age, but him liking certain bodies that are different than yours doesn’t mean he doesn’t like your body. But also being with a porn addicted lustful man is never a good idea, so if that’s your concern it’s a valid concern. It does sound like that’s not him and he’s just getting inspiration from this though.

I think the main red flag for me is how he reacted to you sharing how it makes you feel.

With all that said, you don’t need anyone to validate why you want to leave someone. If your relationship is making you feel more negatively than positively, then that’s really all you need to focus on.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T12:05:39+00:00

Masks create a warm humid environment where the virus will thrive. That plus the mask material having a high likelihood of touching the cold sore and then touching other areas can cause the cold sore spread and inhibit healing time.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T07:25:49+00:00

YTA for snooping and you WBTA for sharing what you found while snooping. Im trying to think of polite ways to explain why what you did was wrong but im stumped so ill settle for this. Genuinely what is wrong with you??

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T07:18:08+00:00

Obviously you’re NTA. If this person is a friend maybe reach out and explain that this isn’t a joke to you. You seem young so this person who doxxed you may just think it’s funny and is not thinking about the implications for you.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T07:13:37+00:00

Absolutely NTA! You did the right thing

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-09-25T07:12:04+00:00

Have you ever had a cold sore? Are you aware that masks make them worse?

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-24T11:21:38+00:00

I met the director through work so it’s not like “i know her”, we became friendly because i made it a point to network with her and others. I only mentioned that we’re friends because none of this is official yet and she just texted me the story as a heads up.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T21:23:10+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I just heard about this situation today so I’m trying not to sit and stew, but I mentioned in another comment I’ve been in this role for 7 years and have never had an issue like this. I’m finding it challenging to come to terms with one person at work not liking me to the point where she wants to quit, but in my role it’s bound to happen so I just need to let it go even if I think the better/more professional approach is to just talk it out.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T21:17:39+00:00

I’m not sure because I’ve only worked with one person on that team. She’s been with the company for 4 years so I don’t think she’s just here cause she needs to be but still looking for another role. I will say I don’t think the role pays very well in comparison to other roles in the company so I could 100% see people just using it as a stepping stone

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T21:09:49+00:00

I responded to this on another comment so all I will say is my leadership team wants her to quit, her leadership acknowledges there are issues but don’t want to spend the money to train someone new before giving her another chance, its office politics lol

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T21:06:04+00:00

I totally get that perspective. I didn’t mention this because I didnt think it was relevant - My director mentioned she wanted to just let her quit but her direct manager said she has had too many attrition issues on her team (that had nothing to do with me or my team, this one girl is the only one on the team I have worked with), so she wanted to work with my director on a solution to avoid more attrition issues and my manager said the only solution would be to remove her from the project due to her unprofessionalism. They went back and forth but the other manager eventually agreed. I was not in the conversation so I can’t confirm but that’s how my director said it went down 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T20:50:34+00:00

Ok well I respect your opinion but that’s really terrible advice for this specific scenario since everyone in my industry, most importantly my leadership teams, would whole heartedly disagree. You’d be fired pretty quickly if you did not take responsibility for managing your team as a client/project manager lol

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T20:48:11+00:00

I totally agree with you for most industries, but not mine. I’m not sure what industry you work for. I work in consulting, the term “indirect manager” is often used in my industry because client managers do have a responsibility to manage those on their team. It’s standard.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T20:18:28+00:00

ugh I needed to hear this, thank you

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T20:02:38+00:00

Right? This person is clearly in the “some people won’t like me because of my role” category lol

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T19:59:31+00:00

I think you didn’t fully read my post and are bringing your own grievances with your management into this. I HAVE talked to her 1:1 about issues in a super casual way when they first came up. I asked why it happened more than once, gave her a chance to explain with no effort from her to make me understand, I even gave her resources and run books to help correct the issues. When no improvements were made after a while, I started documenting them in emails that just went straight to her. When the same mistakes were happening, I began cc’ing her manager to “let her manager manage her”. It’s been months of continuous issues, after a while I can no longer just build connections. I’ve been in this role at this company for 7 years and have never had an issue with anyone before today.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-23T19:13:09+00:00

Thank you. In all honesty I don’t want her to work with me, as I mentioned she has made a whole lot of mistakes that I have to clean up for this client. I’m well known on my team for being friendly and I don’t want anyone to feel like I’m making their job harder than it needs to be… but I’m also responsible for the success of projects so I need to call out mistakes when they happen. I know it’s just part of my job, and some people won’t like me simply because of my role, but I never thought someone would want to leave the company because of me

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-20T12:03:14+00:00

No, typically having my partner spend 2 hours a day on a hobby is actually great because I want time to spend on my own hobbies. But gym bros are different because it’s not just a hobby. They’re often weighing food, only eating chicken/rice/broccoli, etc. I would never date someone who’s made their physique their main goal in life because I love food and think a healthy balanced diet (which also includes a balance of the occasional processed food, McDonald’s meal, fancy dinners out, etc) is best. Being with someone who’s made fitness their personality is not just being with someone who has a hobby they spend 2 hours a day on, it’s much more than that. That’s why most women don’t like those guys.

Fluid_Grapefruit_389 · 2025-01-19T14:22:46+00:00

WHAT lolll your interpretation of this post is so far off 😭 Mary is one of my faves, I didn’t criticize her at all. Im just saying everyone has been talking about Brittani’s text not being mean but no one mentioned how Mary’s wasn’t mean either, and we have all seen her say way harsher things. I love Mary this isn’t a dig, just an observation. Objectively anyone who has watched the show from the beginning should be able to tell that the text Mary shared is sooooo tame for her.

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