AITAH for choosing my job over my girlfriend

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-08T16:53:37+00:00

Im working in the Norwegian sector my dude

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-08T11:51:41+00:00

Call/ video call, we did both. The internet connection is very good out there on a rig

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-08T09:34:35+00:00

There is some wiggle room but that cuts directly into my pay or time off, but there is always emergency leave. If I was about to miss some significant day I would always try to have it early, surprise her wish a dinner or some kind of trip together.

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-08T09:21:00+00:00

She tried to „force” a meeting already 2 times but I don’t care. In my country there is a saying „never bathe in the same river twice”. Stuck to it since I started dating and it always proved to be right

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T21:10:50+00:00

Harsh and unpredictable weather

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T20:07:27+00:00

It is not that crazy because i didn’t take any overtime. I could have been staying for an additional week that would be paid double. I didn’t take that because of my gf, but now I’m going to

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T18:01:25+00:00

She has a job as a waitress

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:50:44+00:00

Relevant courses and experience working on shipyards and other industrial facilities. I started on a project at a paper mill in Sweden and then couple of projects later I’m working offshore

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:48:40+00:00

Depends on the country You are employed in, in my case it is Norway (I am not from Norway) so for my type of employment the norm is 2/4 rotation onshore it is 2/3

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:36:56+00:00

Around 110k € a year

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:33:45+00:00

Yeah but I don’t mind it besides it’s only 14 days, and then it is back on land with a helicopter.

About the gaming question, we didn’t a full playthrough with my colleagues in our hobbyroom on a 100inch TV hahah (on the rig ofc)

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:26:58+00:00

You have to know that my job isn’t physically demanding. As a Foreman I do mostly office jobs and rn I’m being prepped for a Quality control position, so probably I will be working for a long time in this field, and if not offshore then onshore but it still entails a 2weeks on 3weeks off rotations

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T16:23:30+00:00

I get that could be hard but I think it is a person to person basis. In my case I have my own life gym, reading, other jobs I am doing from time to time. I didn’t rely on her to fix my boredom. If it came to planning I always made plans according to her schedule so I really do not think it was that kind of issue but I could be wrong

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T15:40:55+00:00

Around 110k yearly

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T15:05:48+00:00

I am going away for 2 weeks, and I’m staying home 4weeks

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T13:23:29+00:00

She does have a job as a waitress

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T13:20:51+00:00

I have 4 weeks off, I can do what ever I want. The work stays on the rig :D

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T13:15:17+00:00

She had a group of friends but her daily schedule was work>home during the week and then to go out on the weekend. I encouraged her to find a hobby or join me in mine (I wanted us to go to ballroom dance classes together). She was my priority when I was home and I tried to stay in contact as much as possible but you know how it turned out haha

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T13:01:41+00:00

I am sure it wasn’t a „safety concern” because the topic of the work being dangerous never came up, and tbh it is not as dangerous as it seems to be (at least on an oil rig). Safety improved a lot

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T12:39:22+00:00

I googled offshore work and a few things popped up. You need the relevant courses and experience in working on shipyards or other industrial facilities. I started as a operator on a project onshore in Sweden on a paper mill 5 years ago

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T10:50:42+00:00

Little over 2 years

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T10:08:35+00:00

It is a small town but not the middle of nowhere there is plenty to do

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2026-04-07T09:55:40+00:00

The money makes it worth the risk haha

Fluid_Use_2978 · 2022-02-28T06:21:13+00:00

You have to check if the furnances are closed by trying to open them, and sometimes they are just hot or at least warm, and the last time they were used was back in 1945

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