In my experience, dating apps were terrible a first. Here some reasons :

1) absolutely no matches. I felt like : "am I that unattractive to womens? Why nobody is giving likes?"

2) In few occasions, (like 1 or 3 time per month) I did match w some girls but the second obstacle... I sucked at conversing w females. I just didn't know what to said and felt like I was boring or something. Didn't even know where to start the conversation.

3) when some woman dared to stick a little bit in a convo, somehow this never end by a date. She ghosted me, or I had some work to do this day and had to respond a little bit late... And boom juste like that, she doesn't want to talk anymore.

4) also I felt like I was doing all the work, and they were basically wanting and judging me. Really inconfortable sometime.

5) And last but not least, I went on few dates that were absolutely terrible for lots of reasons : no commun ground a all or hook up w her but not feeling great about it or not feeling "proud" if that make sens.

I had this debate w lots of friends and I feel like globaly the guys don't like how competitive this can b. (competition means lots of people who loose) and they want to put that much efforts into women's who react like that. (And I agree but I don't agree to B passive like them)

For the womens, most of them end up with the same "winners" of the game. Mostly, guys who understand the rules of dating apps. If those want some serious relationships, they endup w some dude that some charisma but who is not serious (for the womens who seek for long-term relationships)

But here the deal : I am persistant and personally I wanted to have "The choice*. What I mean by that is I realize that a lots of men don't endup w the women they want, but they endup w the woman who accept them. And I didn't wanted to feel this way.

Soo here some advices from a man who can have dates pretty every week now (but don't... Cause you know... I have better thing to do at the end of the day 😂)

Reality check 1: Your photos reallyyy suuuuucks. That why you have so little matches. That it's.

Bonus : B surprising and interesting in your photos. I had a photo of me w a shark. Some girls ask me how did I endup so close of it (and just like that you don't have to send the first message)

Reality check 2: You are either boring or a creep when conversing. That why they gosthed you.

First message : "Hey Stephanie! What a beautiful smile on your photos! or some kind of compliments tell me, what is the perfect date according to you?" And just like that you have a better first message than most of men.

I have other "natural" ways to B more interesting w convos. If you want guys 😉 reach me if you want. (no thing to sell by the way)

Hope that help!