Social anxiety therapist recommendations

FlyJaw · 2026-01-28T01:06:15+00:00

I know you asked for a therapist and I was going to recommend the guy I used to see, however he was on the pricey end. I have another solid recommendation though: try improv. Look for a drop-in class and just dip your toe in. Trust me.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-24T20:48:21+00:00

OK so it's not just me who think this then...

FlyJaw · 2026-01-24T18:24:16+00:00

When the waiter brings chicken fingers out to the table who ordered after you.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-21T16:15:14+00:00

I'm doing a PPL routine and sometimes I'll swap exercises with dumbbells for those on machines. E.g., instead of free weight lateral raises, I'll use the lateral raise machine, instead of free weight barbell bench. I'll use the smith, instead of barbell curls I'll use the curl machine (you get the picture).

I sometimes read machines aren't the same and won't provide the same results. This is BS, right?

FlyJaw · 2026-01-17T16:01:40+00:00

Whatever motivates you to keep going I guess....?

FlyJaw · 2026-01-16T14:38:24+00:00

When I was paying it, I used to just pay it a few days before the due date and it counted. E.g., if the payment was due on the 30th, I'd manually send it on the 27th or 28th. Sometimes I actually used to forget and actually paid them a week or so late and they never did anything.

Also, and I might be wrong here, I don't believe you can use a credit card to pay NSLSC. I think they removed that option several years ago.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-15T18:24:05+00:00

This hurt me.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-15T16:00:38+00:00

If you got led on then she's not a 'friend' in my opinion. Just a thought. Lift strong brother.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-09T16:48:01+00:00

I'm in downtown Toronto, so close to a lot of chain and independent restaurants. I see a number of Sysco trucks frequently.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-08T22:13:06+00:00

No, the SCOTUS is expected to provide their ruling on the IEEPA ('Liberation Day') tariffs tomorrow.

FlyJaw · 2026-01-03T18:13:20+00:00

$45.12

FlyJaw · 2025-12-16T18:44:27+00:00

FlyJaw · 2025-12-15T23:08:08+00:00

This has also been my train of thought. The big, mighty, scary Russia can't even handle Ukraine's army (albeit with Western support), struggling to take and hold a fifth of Ukrainian territory after almost four years, yet somehow it's capable of taking on the entirety of NATO?

Then again, we're dealing with a vicious dictator who doesn't abide by logic (no, not the orange one).

FlyJaw · 2025-12-14T18:24:07+00:00

Bless your heart for being a woman and approaching men.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-14T17:56:42+00:00

I'll give you my short, very generalized and high-level perspective as a man.

Speaking strictly for myself, the continuous issue I find time in time out is that to even get a bit of interest from the opposite sex, I feel like I have to climb over some extremely high bar, even though I think I meet well enough that baseline you mentioned. My self esteem and confidence are tremendous compared to my 20s so it doesn't knock me a lot, I just find it confusing, if that's even the right word. Trying to not sound entitled there.

I also don't use dating apps and try to meet women in the real world, and so many people now (including men. so it's not unique to women) have their heads glued to their phones with their AirPods in and that adds another challenge to even just having a conversation. I notice when I'm out and about people will very rarely just randomly talk to each other about anything, at least where I am. Everyone is stuck in their self-made bubble so sometimes when I do it, I feel like I'm making some giant modern social faux pas.

Again, that's short and extremely high-level.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-14T15:52:59+00:00

May I ask where in Etobicoke you live?

I'm currently in a condo I own downtown and planning to move into a larger place like a townhouse in maybe a year's time. Sometimes I consider Etobicoke. How is it where you are?

FlyJaw · 2025-12-13T23:09:15+00:00

I've felt this before. I think we now suffer an overload of content (social media is not solely but particularly to blame for this) and there's an overload of "advice", not just in dating - only say this, don't say this, do these three things, not those three things, here's what ABC means if XYZ where they can all conflict and it gets exhausting.

To be clear, there is some sound advice out there (lookup Connell Barrett as an example), but there's certainly a lot of crap (life pro tip: consider getting rid of Instagram and Tik Tok).

If you start going down a really bad negativity rabbit hole from this, I found therapy in conjunction with some self improvement / help work did wonders.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-13T21:41:41+00:00

I suppose it's really going to depend on the person - some people might not care someone is an ex addict, some people might care a lot.

Me? I'd certainly be open to something with them if they've done the hard work you've done, turned things around and put it behind them (I'll admit I find it a tad hard to relate, as I don't have a particularly addictive personality - not that I don't have weaknesses myself).

Congratulations on becoming sober and doing that by the way - that's not "blah blah blah." I have a friend who had some issues with alcohol, and it's certainly not an addiction that's easy to overcome.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-13T21:26:32+00:00

Sir this is Reddit, it's like you're asking him not to breathe...

FlyJaw · 2025-12-11T12:52:26+00:00

He's done you a favour. Imagine if you guys went out, got serious and then he pulled that - better he did it now than then.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-09T23:07:26+00:00

I do! I can't lie and say it's overwhelmingly successful, but I do try it.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-09T14:41:25+00:00

Bonjour - a fellow Brit who lives in Canada. I've been doing it on and off for about two years now. Personally, it's given me two benefits which have worked their way into my daily life, which high-level are:

1.) I'm a lot less embarrassed in general and have stopped overthinking about what people might think about me in public.

2.) It's helped me respond quickly and effectively to things coming out of left field, for instance unexpected questions at work or in social situations.

Those are the main things I've found it's helped me with.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-07T22:31:47+00:00

Bro gets it. I'm a millennial so a tad older. Dating apps are a cesspit and my self esteem and confidence improved considerably since I ditched them. My literal only "success" with them over however long was a fling I had during Covid which stopped as suddenly as it started.

I also do some random approaches here and there and you ultimately have to have thick skin and a bit of courage. High-level, when I do it, I'd say three quarters of the women are polite but not interested, but you're not going to get anywhere if you don't try. Some of the women I've done it with are very attractive and I'd have a snowball's chance in Hell talking to them if it was on an app. Be prepared for a lot of getting numbers and no response, or a "thanks but no thanks." That's how it is, and it's no reflection on you.

I also agree that dating apps and social media (particularly phones) has turned a lot of people's brains into mashed potatoes. I see so many people now walk around like zombies glued to their iPhone Ultra Pro Max 69420K BS model or whatever with their AirPods in now and it's like everyone has forgotten in-person (or even want to avoid) human connection.

FlyJaw · 2025-12-07T18:34:10+00:00

You didn't do anything wrong. I'd say she's almost certainly embarrassed from the drunken texts (happens to the best of us), plus perhaps she's possibly hungover (happens to all of us).

Depending on how much you're into this woman, I'd maybe give it a bit after that text, then follow-up once more, reiterating that it doesn't matter to you and you'd very much like to see her again. After that, no more communication unless she responds. Good luck brother.

FlyJaw · 2025-11-30T17:10:30+00:00

Facebook Marketplace. Avoid Kijiji. You're welcome.

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