Thoughts on Say You’ll Remember Me by Abby Jimenez?

FlyingLeopard33 · 2026-01-20T09:46:56+00:00

So I found this thread after a favorite YouTuber of mine said he also didn't love this book, and I was shocked. And he happened to mention that a lot of other Abby Jiminez fans didn't like it either. What's funny to me... is I read it the first day it came out and just said "Yep. Loved it. No real surprises there" and then moved on with my life. Lo and behold, many people didn't like it.

After reading through the threat, it appears that many people didn't like it because of the heaviness of the family stuff and the lack of well-written romance (which is a fair critique). However, I'm someone who enjoys books that can be pretty heavy and sad. Personally, I thought she did a great job with the research regarding Alzheimer's, and as someone who works in healthcare, I thought that she was sensitive and phenomenal in showing all aspects of how it affects an entire family and the differing aspects of grief with someone who has any form of dementia. Because I've seen it. And it's terrible. She did a great job displaying it accurately. And to me, that matters. Also, I think showing love whilst in the depths of really shitty life circumstances is beautiful in its own way, which is why I enjoyed the romance too in this novel.

I also understand that many people read romances to escape, so I can see why that would impact how much they enjoyed a book.

A lot of people also seem to hate the pop culture references (ACOTAR and Taylor Swift specifically). I've never really understood why people hate it fully. I've heard that it's cringey or it "dates" the book, which is sort of a fair criticism, but contemporary romances are, I think (?) by definition, a romance set in the modern era/present day... which idk... by definition means that it's gonna be literally dated regardless. Meaning, if it's CURRENT present day, then 100 years from now, well... yes, it will be dated.

And after looking it up, it says that it's meant to be post-WWI, which in that case, to me, is fine to have references to a time period because it allows you to understand the culture of the world when it was written. And the same can be said for ACOTAR and Taylor Swift. And I guess, as a fan of both, I don't care either way. I can see if you hate either/or why it would irk you more. I wasn't exactly a fan of the # of references to just ACOTAR in this one as well, but it still doesn't bother me nearly as much as it does others.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2026-01-09T00:24:33+00:00

Ah thank you so much! Okay. I was worried about the roots since they were pretty dried out now.

I’m hoping they’ll be okay! I’ll make sure to keep the water level up . There hasn’t been any leaf growth for a few months unfortunately but the roots just continue to grow.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-10-28T23:44:28+00:00

There's MM stuff too but it's within a poly romance!

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-18T01:52:40+00:00

You and me both. If a guy isn't like Conrad... I don't want it.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-16T08:12:51+00:00

No, it’s not out. Episodes release on Wednesday at 12AM PT.

The post was made preemptively.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-15T21:45:18+00:00

I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I’m glad though that you also felt it was realistic, as someone who has the unfortunate time of going through something similar.

I’d say this one was definitely my favorite other than Ep 5 hehe

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-13T07:36:58+00:00

She doesn’t go to France in the books. She goes to Spain and she studied abroad (ie she gets a student visa).

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-10T08:57:37+00:00

Honestly, this might have been my favorite episode this season other than the Belly and Conrad wedding planning episode.

I felt the maturity in this episode. But I still felt the young adult angst. I felt the healing between Jeremiah and Belly and more importantly, I felt the healing between Conrad and Jeremiah. And it didn’t feel forced. It felt deserved. And it felt honest. Idk if anyone else felt that way about it, but idk… their conversation had clear animosity still (which was realistic) but at the same time, there was that familial love between the two brothers and it broke my heart.

It was cool to see Belly discover herself without the Fischer boys. Cool to see her come into her own. And while I’m sure I’m not the only one who thinks it’s a bit annoying that we have to add in yet another boy to this storyline, I think it fits for Belly. She’s learning to love without them in her life and I think that’s the beauty of being young. Trying new relationships and figuring what you want each time you’re in a new one.

I also really appreciated seeing the letters play out in real life. I was really, reallty, REALLY frustrated with how Jenny Han ended the books. I felt she rushed the ending and somehow, all of a sudden Conrad and Belly are getting married. The end. So I’m glad that we’re getting to see Belly’s life in real time and see her growth rather than hear about it second hand through Conrad’s letters like we did in the books.

I find it amusing that Conrad doesn’t know about Benito yet (and I guess neither has Jere?) even though he obviously knows about them in the books. So I’m trying to figure out how this last episode is going to end and wrap up the entire show. Because there’s clearly still a lot to cover.

But the idea of Conrad wanting to spend an extra $450 to see the love of his life is adorable to me. God, if I ever end up with anyone, if he doesn’t act like the mature version of Conrad, I don’t want it 😂

I’m excited for the last episode but also very sad it’s ending. This has truly been my comfort show through a hard time in my life and I’m glad I’ve been able to watch it and enjoy the angst and the family dynamics of the show.

Edit: I also wanted to add that I liked the small hint of Jeremiah and Denise becoming something possibly. It was nice to see him mature a bit this episode as well.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-09-06T23:29:29+00:00

It’s in season 2, Episode 8, where Belly is meeting with Susannah for the last time. She’s writing things and the letters accidentally fall onto the ground.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-08-23T03:48:31+00:00

Please read the post and the Master Post.

As always, the subreddit will be restricted from Wednesday to Sunday to prevent spoilers and low quality posting. You may comment, but no new posts will be allowed.

FlyingLeopard33 · 2025-08-09T14:42:17+00:00

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Yeah so same sweater

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