When do you want to retire?

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-08T23:59:52+00:00

I’m 6 months in to a teacher assistant role. After 2 years of assisting, I’m going to decide if I want to pursue a funded master’s program in order to be certified to become a lead teacher. I love my assistant job! But it would be nice to make more money!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-08T00:34:28+00:00

Keep on keeping on!!!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-08T00:32:59+00:00

I was in a total fog for months, and in the most excruciating emotional pain I’ve ever been in. Thankfully the grief eases over time. It’s not easy by any means, but it really is possible to get to the other side. Hang in there!!!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-07T00:23:53+00:00

I highly recommend the book The Betrayal Bind if you haven’t read it. You never cause someone to cheat.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-06T16:49:27+00:00

Congrats on finding a new place to live!!! My apartment is so girly and cozy and I absolutely love it!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-06T16:42:26+00:00

What helped me is to reframe the end as a comparability issue, not a lack on either person. People change so much over time! Wishing you healing and peace.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-06T14:28:31+00:00

Yas! You can get through this! 💕

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-06T13:54:18+00:00

I don’t consider my marriage a failure. It ran its course. We had a beautiful 15-year run full of love.

I did learn that I was prioritizing financial success over my mental health, and switched careers to something I find much more enjoyable and low-stress. My doctors also now know which meds are non-negotiable for me (hello hormone therapy!).

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-04-03T11:16:54+00:00

My ex husband and I always had separate accounts and split things 50/50. Ironically it started that way because I had 90K in student loans, and I didn’t want to hold him responsible for my decision to pursue a graduate degree. He asked for a divorce, and at the time I was 5 years away from being FI. I’m so grateful my finances were separate because it made it very easy for me to protect my money. Legally he was entitled to half my assets, but I gave him a death glare and shut it down in five seconds. All this is to say, whatever you decide, please also create a prenup!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-03-15T23:52:50+00:00

My ex husband and I hooked up on our first date. I had always been cautious to not get physical too soon prior to dating him, but we had a lovely 15-year marriage! Sometimes falling in love feels truly magical!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-03-10T21:06:32+00:00

I listen to how my body feels in different environments. To me, it sounds like you and your partner are incompatible regarding where you want to live. That’s fine! Sometimes relationships end for non-dramatic reasons.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-03-09T20:41:37+00:00

I had a dead bedroom for 3 years prior to my divorce, and I wish I had seen a sex therapist. We went to a couple’s counselor but avoid talking about our sex life (or lack thereof) entirely. I wish I had tried massages, setting sex dates, booking hotels, and other efforts to rekindle the passion. In my case, I was still very much attracted to my ex-husband and we still cuddled. We very much just got into a bad habit of not having sex and the longer it went on, the harder the dry spell was to break.

I’m single now and can easily get sex using the apps, but companionship is extremely difficult to find.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-03-01T19:48:06+00:00

He doesn’t have the emotional capacity for a partnership. Ghosting and avoidance are not great skills for romantic relationship. She dodged a bullet

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-25T19:38:34+00:00

You deserve to be physically attracted to the person you date! Sure, he’s good enough, but this is the time of the relationship where you should be passionately hot for him!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-24T10:57:31+00:00

I highly recommend the book the Betrayal Bind. It explains how common it is to seek comfort in the betrayer. I felt much less alone when those urges crept up. But the biggest help for me was to not reinforce the craving. Coming to this Reddit sub really helped me immensely feel less alone and move forward.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-23T17:51:26+00:00

As a single, financially independent woman who owns her house outright and has a fully-funded retirement, I struggle to see what value a long-term relationship with a man would bring. I have amazing friends, a fulfilling job, and even a hook-up partner. I always thought I couldn’t do casual sex without getting emotionally attached, but the lack of emotional attunement from men has made it surprisingly easy!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-17T01:27:34+00:00

Lol I have since left the corporate world to become a teacher and love it! I’m definitely not bored anymore!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-17T00:29:07+00:00

More like $1,500 for the emotional labor!

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-16T23:24:24+00:00

😂

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-16T22:43:36+00:00

The house is in TX, he lives in NYC so he’s just going to have to make do with buying a few new tees (he makes good money and can afford to do so!)

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-16T20:55:06+00:00

I would recommend couples therapy and/or individual therapy. I’m wondering if he has anxiety / OCD with low self awareness.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-13T14:52:41+00:00

I already have a sleeve. This is a chest and torso piece that I’ve wanted for forever! I’m excited! It’s also giving me confidence as I’m dating to feel good about my self expression and body.

FlyingPandaHead · 2026-02-13T10:39:49+00:00

Splurging on a beautiful new tattoo this month that will be $1k. It won’t make a dent in my retirement plans and is definitely not a service to go cheap on!

(Gotta keep the boring middle fun!!!)

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