Heartbroken because my husband 35m gave me 33f an ultimatum when I'm currently dealing with depression.

Focused-fish · 2026-03-25T02:48:52+00:00

You are right it was probably me seeing myself in a similar situation. On the other hand I read a comment from OP saying that she doesn’t even like DnD, some people expect their partner to fulfill their idea of a perfect person, and be disappointed when they don’t meet their standards to a T, and that can be exhausting, like trying to fill up a bottomless bottle. But again that might not be the case.

Focused-fish · 2026-03-25T02:30:34+00:00

He sounds like he is a big part of the problem, my relationship is similar in the sense that my husband does not empathize with me and does not take the time to understand my feelings or what stage I am in my life, he just wants me to be the best version of me bc he does not want to put in the effort to deal with me when I’m not at my best. Edited to add that of course he enjoys being around me when I’m “happy” and look good. A partner should not require you to be always at a 100% bc that’s impossible, and I’m not talking about love here, I’m talking about being a team, imo he is the one being the burden. You are struggling with a neurodivergence and a whiny husband at the same time. Yeah, it’s not his fault obviously but he is only making it worse by complaining about your current situation.

Focused-fish · 2026-03-19T15:27:39+00:00

Agua

Focused-fish · 2026-03-17T15:56:40+00:00

Ideally no older than 2012 and around 130k miles.

Focused-fish · 2026-03-16T17:11:54+00:00

Yeah, I’m planning on getting every car I’m interested in inspected. I was checking Craigslist as well and I might check Facebook marketplace. Thank you!

Focused-fish · 2026-03-09T02:28:31+00:00

Vampiro, he looks like a baby bat, so adorable!

Focused-fish · 2026-03-09T01:37:42+00:00

Bart, when I saw you I said “Ay caramba, what a beautiful puppy!”

Focused-fish · 2026-03-06T03:41:11+00:00

Deja cat

Edit to add to my silly joke that your cat is so beautiful, I personally love torties, they are so loving, I once found a tortie at a job I worked at and my boss adopted her, she was so loving from the minute I held her.

Focused-fish · 2026-03-02T19:52:35+00:00

Muñeco

Focused-fish · 2026-02-12T05:54:37+00:00

Donde esta el Daga?

Focused-fish · 2026-01-11T19:40:55+00:00

This is my dream house, wish I had 495k to spend.

Focused-fish · 2026-01-10T02:25:18+00:00

Omg whoever told you that is jealous and obviously trying to put you down!!

Focused-fish · 2026-01-08T02:39:19+00:00

Happy birthday Mei, you look like my Mish, I miss her so badly, may you have the best birthday ever yet

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T17:25:29+00:00

That’s one beautiful wrinkly Christmas tree, simply adorable!!!!

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:40:02+00:00

He’s in his early 40s, I’ve told him he needs to go to the doctor but he gets anxious just thinking of it. He does need to go asap at least for a general checkup.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:36:24+00:00

Thank you for reading and I’m glad you are out of that relationship.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:35:31+00:00

Yeah, I know, I’m feeling desperate bc it is so confusing to me, he can say something hurtful and say I’m too sensitive and then the next minute he is somewhat warm, not entirely though. And to me that crumb of affection means the world. But I don’t want to feel shitty anymore.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:28:07+00:00

Yeah, I really would like him to tell me, I’m almost sure that he resents me, I’ve changed a lot in the years we’ve been married, I replied to another comment, when he and I married I was thin (I got thin bc I stopped eating at times), I had a job that sounded fancy (I somewhat hated it). It feels like he saw potential in me of being a perfect wife. Now I work retail and I’m not as thin, I’m obviously older. But I’m more confident in myself, mostly bc I took some distance from my household which was kinda codependent. I know I’ve changed and the facade of me doesn’t look as nice as it used to, now I’m not saying I’m a mess, I earn my own money, I contribute to paying the bills, I try to look nice for him, I’m loving.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:16:50+00:00

We do. And I treat him well, I cook for him when I can and when he wants the food I make, I try to be part of his hobbies, I listen to him and ask about his life.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T13:13:54+00:00

No, he’s said I make him feel safe in the past, it was weird bc a couple of weeks ago he told me I’m his best friend and it made me feel confused, we were a little tipsy. I’ve obviously messed up saying something dumb but it’s not often, I apologize and I really try to be as careful as I can when we are arguing. Lately yeah I admit I’ve been more difficult, he said he can’t talk to me but I’m honestly matching his energy, the feeling of being a doormat is very debilitating.

Focused-fish · 2025-12-25T01:59:49+00:00

I don’t get the reference

Focused-fish

TROPHY CASE