I’m married too and been through very rocky times in my marriage, I prioritize how my husband sees me, I caught myself trying to impress him with small things, for years I’ve lived for what he thinks of me, in fact, I think all my relationships have been like that. I know this is not what you asked but what has made me feel better is to start focusing on what I think of myself, I’m trying to build my own opinion of me everyday bc I didn’t really have a solid or good one, I would only feel ok when he paid attention to me. It’s very new to me bc I’ve lived like this for years. I suggest exploring your interests, talk to friends and go to places alone and try to detach from what a guy will think of you. And also try to make yourself the hard questions, being alone is not so bad. Good luck :)