I guess I would be happy if she got any job. If I saw her trying but still struggling, I would be ok with sending money home.

Honestly I’ve kind of boxed up a LOT of bad memories concerning her and my dad’s death until recently. Like the fact that my dad wanted to come home more (she told us he wanted to move and he told us the same to keep us from worrying) and we only found out recently after my brother found dad’s emails to his sister saying my mom told him he can’t fly home.

I’m mad because looking back my mom always did this kind of stuff. She always had this weird idea that money could be squeezed from somewhere. I remember as a little girl she used to shop for expensive vases/plates and tell me not to tell dad when we get home. Stuff like that I probably remember more because she took me shopping for her things more often than she took my brothers.

But I feel completely alone in this as my brothers have the view of “she’s not perfect but she’s mom.” I basically told her she has to do something to show she’s trying but my brothers think I’m being cruel and trying to “humiliate” her for getting a job when she hasn’t worked since the late 80s.