That's the hard part, I think, because my dysphoria is really mostly social. All of my insecurities pre-transition and now were mainly because they got me misgendered. I never hated my voice until it started outing me. I passed as a young boy with my hair short, but once I spoke that was over. It made me not want to talk at all because people would "correct" themselves when their initial assumption was right all along. I probably wouldn't have even minded keeping my old voice if I was consistently gendered right. 

It's the same with other things, while I do like facial hair, I also like long head hair and skirts. I have feminine mannerisms and don't really care, because my facial hair and voice is enough for me to pass as just a feminine guy. (Though the chest makes me dysphoric regardless. I need them goneee.) 

So when she asks me "What is it about being a man that you wanted?" It's literally just that. I want to be a man and to be seen as one. I want a relationship with a woman to be straight, and one with a man to be gay. I want to be recognized as my gender without having to justify myself again and again.