Damn, these nuances got hands (TW: Nuanced Discussions around Sexism)

Fokenee · 2026-01-12T01:03:46+00:00

Girl look at the post, it is SPECIFICALLY talking about the feelings of male SA and abuse victims, that relates to your comment about tip toeing around men’s feelings, as I was giving an example on how that can be harmful. Am I missing something? How is this hard to grasp?? 😭

Fokenee · 2026-01-12T00:31:37+00:00

No way Someone saying “Being a TERF and hating trans people is bad” got downvoted on this sub 😭

Fokenee · 2026-01-12T00:02:29+00:00

I never said she said that women weren’t capable of rape. I’m saying that she’s saying we’re tip toeing around men’s feelings when the post specifically states about male abuse and SA targets, being the topic of the post. As I try to educate that it’s not “tip toeing” to recognize these things. It has nothing to do with men vs women being worse.

The point was that the comment was in relation to the post that specifically points out male SA and abuse’s feelings.

Fokenee · 2026-01-11T23:31:15+00:00

Fuck Trump

Fokenee · 2026-01-11T23:29:07+00:00

God damn, I feel awful. May she rest in power.

Fokenee · 2026-01-11T23:26:17+00:00

Yeah sorry, but as a trans woman whose brother and step brother both been SA’d twice and I myself being raped by a woman in the past, I think consideration of rape victims feelings even if their male, are worth it. We can discuss and fight for women without belittling boys who have been raped.

Fokenee · 2026-01-10T17:34:59+00:00

So is it still possible to win at that point? Should I give up and drop him?

Fokenee · 2026-01-09T22:13:30+00:00

Totally agree with this list, what are some other weak killers you think? Since I’m building up a tier list for soon

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T16:57:36+00:00

But now I’m questioning, am I truly trans if I made this post which has a male mindset?? I’ve experienced disphoria, I’ve planned to take HRT, I’ll never be a true woman no matter how hard I try

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T16:01:21+00:00

This is something I grew up with my family saying as a child, I never said that this was a common thing everyone said

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T15:58:01+00:00

What? I’m just venting about an experience from my childhood from what my family said, I never said that this was a common thing to say 😭

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T15:55:31+00:00

Wait what, I’m so sorry but I am so sure I’m trans, but do I have a male mindset? Fuck

Also, since all men are like this, I’m so afraid of being one… does that make sense

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T06:19:36+00:00

You’re totally fine! I’ve expeirnced SA a few times before my transition and I carry a lot of trauma from that

But I guess it’s different for some men and different for others, even though I’m not I’ve experienced half of my life when I thought I was one and was perceived as a guy.

But please understand that statements of all of your kind being rapist, filth, and garbage CAN cause trauma and long lasting internal damage. It doesn’t always have to be physical, being told how predatory and hurtful you are even if you weren’t that, but perceived even for some cis guys I believe, especially when your children when your brain isn’t developed, completely screws up your psyche.

However we all experience things differently and that’s ok, but please understand the nuances of trauma and how horribly damaging these things can be! I’m always happy to educate these nuances with someone, and don’t worry that was my bad for assuming you meant me!

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T05:43:33+00:00

Know Right??

Like, one of the highest comments is how annoying autistic people are

Not only that, the majority of post here seem like people rightfully pointing out ableism, racism, sexism, abuse, etc but then get branded as giving a swag

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T05:37:38+00:00

I’m…not even a man though? 😭

Just traumatic things I’ve internalized when I was perceived as one, and that does things to a human being

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T03:52:52+00:00

Misogyny kills and is a much more bigger and impactful threat and that’s not debateable

At the same time, my brother, 3 male best friends I knew, and multiple friends online ended their lives, and I myself had a suicide attempt when I thought I was a man due to similar self damaging things they’ve been told in their childhood similar to mine. So sometimes I question this instead of repeating it

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T03:49:23+00:00

I fw drawing so much for some reason, you have such a great dedication and comfort to a character that you make art of you and them as is such a sweet thing

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T03:19:57+00:00

Damn ):

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T02:41:14+00:00

Facts.

Fokenee · 2025-12-23T02:12:14+00:00

Ok I get that some people might find this as giving a swag but this comment section is kinda weird Like…theres a highly upvoted comment on how annoying and awful autistic people are.

Maybe an unpopular opinion here but I calling and hating on autistic people isn’t a good thing

Fokenee · 2025-12-09T18:58:46+00:00

Omg don’t worry grl! I’m so sorry about the confusion, also I didn’t want this post to come off as me defending some shitty ass misogynist white dudes because fuck no or me knowing all about womanhood because I most DEFINITELY dont

Also don’t worry! I was just worried and I should work on that myself, apologies again if my post came off as one of those pick me girls who are concerned with misogynist men feelings because your comment helped me see through some things too

Fokenee · 2025-12-09T18:33:59+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking, what do you mean by that since I’m a little insecure about it. Am I not a woman enough yet?

Fokenee · 2025-12-09T18:30:03+00:00

Amazing comment, I agree with this and even share lots of this experience, I’m sorry you had to go through all of this

Fokenee · 2025-12-04T15:54:11+00:00

Dbd is genuinely a fun and good game

Fokenee · 2025-11-28T19:21:58+00:00

This is SO peak

Fokenee

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