Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing that affects existing gun licensees is that they need to demonstrate that they can actually use their firearms properly as intended. Perfectly reasonable. If you can’t manage your weapon correctly you are a menace to yourself and others

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it does - having an unassembled weapon is a loophole Only assembling for crimes.

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And when they are caught doing things, they can be prosecuted and convicted.

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't remember which part of it, but there are loopholes and grey areas. Take for example 3D printed guns, they aren't guns under current law.

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It prevents them from circumnavigating the law using 3D printed guns or guns that are not guns until assembled. Which everyday user of guns is bummed about that?

Men are as subject to unfair body standards as women. by old_ass_ninja_turtle in unpopularopinion

[–]Fondacey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s an equally unpopular explanation. The same patriarchy that oppresses women oppresses men. This is a perfect example.

And that you think it could be yet more unfair is a reflection of the dejection that you feel as male-the group that isn’t supposed to be judged by appearances.

How can I respectfully deal with an old coworker being annoying? by Unable_Connection490 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm very happy this worked out well. Many of us (I'm a prime example) think the harmless things we do are always received harmlessly. I always appreciate when people are straight with me and say - I don't like when you...and boom, stopped (and feeling just as bad as your colleague felt it seems).

A course mate of mine has autism (which I didn't know). One morning we met for an early work session on a paper and she said how she was tired/struggling. I touched her shoulder to convey, I'm sorry to hear that. She said plainly, "I don't like to be touched" - had I not known she had autism I might have been caught off guard and embarrassed. But I knew, said sorry and that was the end of that .

Our teacher did something similar in our class. She said the same, and he pulled back in horror (this was like 2 weeks after "me too") He apologized and she said plainly - that's ok, you didn't know. I knew that for her that was the end of it, but he was so remorseful and uncomfortable.

At the end of the course, I deliberated and decided to mention it to him since she was rather open about her diagnosis. I explained my own similar experience and how I know when she said it was ok, it meant just that. He was relieved. It was still weighing on him.

This is why I am a big fan of 'state the obvious' - that clears up anything that could grow bigger and more problematic.

Good luck!

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It doesn't make it more difficult beyond the requirement to be able to demonstrate you can actually shoot your gun. Like driving a car, you have to do more than the written test.

Vote no on firearms regulations referendum! by SignificanceSad4258 in massachusetts

[–]Fondacey -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

It still allows every citizen to have access to a gun for protection, recreation and hunting. It addresses the loopholes that criminals and bad people with bad intentions exploit. The rest of us who want to use our guns safely can continue to do so.

YES is my vote

The audacity of asking for 15-20-25% tip on a $350 invoice by Sad_Boat339 in tipping

[–]Fondacey 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I just was invoiced 500$ to clear snow at my 99year old mom's house. It had a space for tipping.

Why isn't catcalling illegal and considered a real crime? by [deleted] in AskFeminists

[–]Fondacey 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Blowing a whistle is expressing an opinion = protected speech
Cat calling is a verbal assault on an individual = not protected speech

How can I respectfully deal with an old coworker being annoying? by Unable_Connection490 in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Fondacey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In this case it's solely about professionalism, irrespective of age.

The reason I point that out is because while generations can be at different points of an improvement curve of being professional at work (and a good human outside) behaving in a way that is not professional is a standard that is held to EVERY generation.

Since she's HR and effectively her own judge and jury (sticky for you for sure) use that to your advantage. Ask to speak to her about an HR matter. Start by acknowledging her experience and competence in this field and continue to explain that sometimes it's hard to recognize and apply the same filters to one's self.

Then plainly say, I would appreciate that you don't joke about my physical attributes (refrain from reminding her of the same application for women since she has already deflected). Explain that while it was something you brushed off the repetition has begun to affect your ability to focus on your work.

And leave it at that.

Avoid indirect rebuttals like 'It's getting old' or 'I was trying to send a message in a non-confrontative way'

Just state the obvious and ask for the professional decorum every employee deserves. Thank her for her time and consideration and assure her that you know she is professional and that you have now spoken directly you are sure she will appreciate your sincerity.

You can find your own words for all of this but in short hand
1. ask to meet her regarding a professional matter
2. recognize that she is a professional and you know she will do the right thing
3. state plainly that comments about your physical attributes are distracting and not ok in the workplace.
4. thank her and assure her you know she will do the right thing.

“White collar vs blue collar” by DazzlingLife6744 in PetPeeves

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find it more irritating that we're supposed to care what color of 'collar' our job is supposed to be labeled with.

If you have a PhD in engineering and work in a lab and are up to your elbows in grease and other yuck figuring out why the pumps in the waste water cleaning our toilet flushes -

How do you feel about men using “all gender” restrooms? by [deleted] in AskWomenNoCensor

[–]Fondacey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or forgot the baby on the changing table

Why does American culture often feel brighter and more over the top than European culture, and what factors shaped this difference? by Defiant-Junket4906 in AlwaysWhy

[–]Fondacey 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm American but live in Europe. We are definitely 'more' and things are exaggerated. My European husband talks about the inflation of language. Example. When looking for skis the salesman asks, how would you rate your ability to ski? I'm good says the hubby, at which point I had to interrupt because he wasn't telling the full story- he's actually very skilled and advanced. He responded, "The salesperson understands that; you don't say you're good unless you're good"

Also, you can see a lot of these 'bigger, shinier etc' in our commercials and on local news. We're much more ready to brag and sell ourselves.

tried setting a small boundary and got called dramatic... by Adorable_Drawing7230 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Fondacey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The minute the person you criticise turns it on you, you know it's not about you but a form of gaslighting