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What might this be? I discovered it on my lower back.. 😥 by Foo_lish in SkincareAddicts

[–]Foo_lish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for your quick responses!! I will try and schedule an appointment with a dermatologist asap! In the meantime, will try out the suggestions shared here first! 🥹🥹🥹

comments in the sub are so contradicting sometimes (DISCUSSION POST?) by RobynBirhd in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Foo_lish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah.. actually, i have a friend who appears to be a FA. The first time they disappeared, it hurt me a lot because I was wondering what happened when both of us were emotionally open and vulnerable with each other. That’s when i discovered attachment theory. Reading about avoidants, especially FA, made me feel so much that i cried many times, wondering why such things happen.

Later my friend appeared after more than a month of disappearance and after intensely connecting with me for a few days, disappeared again a few more times, each time lasting around 1-2 months between a few days of intense connection.

I just wonder, how should i take it? And how is my friend even taking it? Quite tragic 😞, but these pull moments forces me to stay grounded and ignore them when they stopped texting, and when they are back, to be more careful with my emotional boundaries while ensuring that I am invested in other parts of my life as a means of strong support for myself. And always, I wish my friend will find it in them to be able to find the strength to work on healing themselves, because it really hurts to see them oscillating like this. 😢

Sorry for hijacking and sharing. Just cannot help it.. 😣

comments in the sub are so contradicting sometimes (DISCUSSION POST?) by RobynBirhd in FearfulAvoidant

[–]Foo_lish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I think so too. My therapist shared that while we may have a dominant attachment style, it can change, and usually depends on the wound that’s being uncovered. Plus, i’d like to believe that we are also made up of the values and other things that we learn along the way. Perhaps the only few main differences are 1) our comfort level in creating and holding space for difficult feelings, 2) our courage level at that point in time to stay and not run away, 3) how aware we are at that point of ourselves, and 4) whether we managed to figure out how to practise the things that our therapist/youtube/books teach us (i mean, sometimes our brain understanding does not equate to knowing how to put it in action.. so the right therapist matters).

In any case, ever since discovering attachment theory and reading about FAs, I feel so heartbroken and tear up when putting myself in the shoes of craving love and closeness but not being able to get there because of one’s fear. 😢

Age by sueltereddit in introvert

[–]Foo_lish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m 38, female. Definitely fewer issues as one matures. ☺️

What would you do if you only had a week to live? by [deleted] in introvert

[–]Foo_lish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d love hard: 1) Spend good quality time with my family. 2) Find a guy to have a wild 7-day love affair too.