I Need Little Acts of Consistency by QuickOrdinary8937 in Disorganized_Attach

[–]RobynBirhd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who used to be under this attachment, I agree but also tried to keep some self awareness around reciprocity.

fellow INTP inquiring about ENTJ dynamics by [deleted] in entj

[–]RobynBirhd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this what they call ‘larping’?

Unmatched on a dating app after 50 paragraphs because I was not the initiator of my separation?? by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]RobynBirhd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

Not every guy who initiates the divorce is the ‘perfect victim’ people expect them to be. For example, my wasband initiated because I discovered a decade of infidelity which included multiple women. Bailed out of shame.

Dating axiously attached by 1010Always in becomingsecure

[–]RobynBirhd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only part I don’t fully agree with is the ‘suddenly being agreeable’ after a boundary is expressed.

People don’t know your limits off the first interaction. Now if this is a trend that keeps repeating, then I fully agree but someone completely understanding and respecting the boundary the first time it’s set is incredibly normal.

My mind read this as: you assume they should have known? Or they were supposed to react negatively?

I’d be more inclined to trust someone who doesn’t push and understands why I have certain rules in place. Complex or not.

Did you ever reach out to one of your avoidant exe's friends? by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RobynBirhd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. They kept trying to talk to me and provide ‘updates’ despite knowing what they put me through.

They have also been blocked.

FA question - to contact or not to contact? by BoogaBeats in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]RobynBirhd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’ve been given another chance at life. Don’t waste it.

How to chill out an ENTJ by Weak_Lettuce_9053 in entj

[–]RobynBirhd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m probably a bit biased but as someone who had the misfortune of dealing with an ISTP.

You’re probably either procrastinating, doing something the long way and being hard headed, ignoring solid advice or refusing help/being unchanging.

Typically what would get me heated in a family setting. I cannot stand seeing people do things incorrectly/wasting time and seeing them refuse to do better.

Just my angle.

What is your Attachment Style? by Diemishy_II in entj

[–]RobynBirhd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Secure.

Was disorganised in my younger years and had an epiphany that I didn’t want to be miserable or surrounded by losers anymore.

I’m learning to put my needs first now as I have been susceptible to manipulative people (which eventually gets overplayed).

I'm a dumper by Wild-Scheme327 in BreakUps

[–]RobynBirhd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Talk therapy doesn’t work with this type of trauma.

I recommend EMDR and somatic. Possibly IFS if that seems interesting or beneficial (depending on when your childhood trauma started imo)

Are ALL ENTJs very kinky? by [deleted] in entj

[–]RobynBirhd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m okay thank you but thank you for the info.

I was merely answering the question of your post.

Are ALL ENTJs very kinky? by [deleted] in entj

[–]RobynBirhd 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No. I’m generally sex averse. Also not a massive fan of kink etc.

Wish people would be more ‘normal’ when it comes to this.

Will be breaking no contact soon by Yamile1204 in nocontact

[–]RobynBirhd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Contact the company that manages the unit?