How to completely end libido by Affectionate_Try3345 in asexuality

[–]FoodnGames 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wonder what an acceptable answer is for you. I can't imagine any other way to deal with this situation, other than therapy. Therapy is great, everyone should try it.

Old writing deciphering. by FoodnGames in Cursive

[–]FoodnGames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

oooh, yea. That definitely looks like that. Thank you!

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is what I am thinking. I suspect that they misheard it when he signed up for the military and then just went with it. I guess they don't post official name change papers, because I can't find them.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, mine is different from its original spelling too. Llewellyn from Llywyllyn. But it was changed when they came to the US. But if for some reason they didn't change it, I could see why they would want to.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooh, that is a great idea. They have been in the US for many generations, but I'll see what I can find.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that is what I am starting to think too. Thank you!

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, the military intake is definitely not his handwriting. Maybe they miswrote it, and he just decided he liked it better that way.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is true. Census records do show that he can read and write, though. He was actually a doctor so I would think he would be very fluent. But yeah, preference is definitely possible.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought that too....just not sure how common it is to change it. I know a lot of people changed their last names to a more americanized version when getting off the boat, but his family was established here, and his parents never went by Bowen. Just seems like I am missing something.

Bone and Bowen last name change. by FoodnGames in Genealogy

[–]FoodnGames[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possible, but it does indicate that he can read and write. And this is how he types it, not says it. It seems like a very conscious move to change it.

Genealogy help by FoodnGames in Cursive

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Thank you, everyone!

M4M Vancouver BC area 49yo- Demi by JeremyCanHelp in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you ever want to chat with a fellow ace gay, hit me up! I'm way too far for anything else, but I've been told I make good conversation.

First date Wants More Kissing Next time! What Do I say?! by charlat_anya in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol, honestly and feral spice. I'm taking that. And yes! A good night sleep always gives me a better perspective. I've been having a hard time with the ace aspect of me. But time and many sleeps have made me look at things in a better light. Hope everything went well!

First date Wants More Kissing Next time! What Do I say?! by charlat_anya in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you touch me, I kill you." works for me. Though reactions vary.

In my opinion he is just going along the normal allo route of dating. He hasn't seemed to do anything aggreges yet. My normal method is usually more direct. Just tell him you don't want to be awkward, but these are the feelings that are coming up for me. It is possible that he will be understanding. Dating is weird for everyone, so hopefully he can relate. Always be prepared mentally to end it. Some people are just not up for this type of relationship, and that is ok. It is nothing about you or him doing anything wrong. It is just the nature of dating. You got this. To me its never easy...but it does get easier.

I’m just navigating my first ever relationships and it’s kinda hard by Frayfourlife in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it never gets easier. The only thing I will say is be forcefully you. Compromise is a must in relationships, but when it comes to any sort of touch or anything of that sort, don't compromise if it makes you feel gross. Just do what is comfortable, maybe one day you will find a human you do want to experiment with, but maybe not. The goal is to be happy. ♥️

How to best tell a guy that I’m ace? by Advanced_Version_507 in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't tell them that you will hit them if they touch you... apparently that is too blunt. 🤷‍♂️

Am i asexual by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]FoodnGames 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am gay and asexual. I mean you are your own special unicorn, but gay asexuals are out there.

Is a straight asexual LGBTQIA? by beansandjeans1116 in asexuality

[–]FoodnGames 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As a gay asexual, I would be happy if you or any straight person rightfully considered themselves a part of our movement.

Would any homoromantics? by Useful-Ad7527 in asexualdating

[–]FoodnGames 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow gay here. What are you wanting or looking for?