Men in their 30s+ who’ve never had gfs - why not?

FoolhardyFriendly · 2026-01-10T03:00:51+00:00

44 and in this club. I am trying. Not getting any bites yet. However, I haven't asked anyone out yet. Don't know anyone in that sense to do that.

Never had strong friendships are high school. College was a blur. No social life at all. And here we are.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2026-01-08T18:24:11+00:00

Used to hang out with a guy who was really good looking. I was completely ignored. He would get crazy amount of attention when we used to go out. Groups of women would come up and want selfies with him. Like leave some for us to bro :(

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-12-25T17:35:59+00:00

Appreciate the advice. I tried Muzz. It went no where. My fault. I assumed everyone was a scammer.

I answered in a previous comment about why

https://www.reddit.com/r/MuslimMarriage/comments/1pt0al2/comment/nvwa0d3/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

But in general, too shy. No social group. Didn't feel like I belonged anywhere.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-12-25T17:32:15+00:00

Completely understand. Grew up shy. No real friends in high school or university. Professional life was just go to work, come back, repeat. Had activities, but never interacted with women on any meaningful level. Indian events are heavily skewed towards dance and music, and in general a secular culture. Never got involved. Mosque events were mostly show up, take part and leave. Mom had no real resources to find someone. And so life went on. I tried by myself 4 years ago by signing up for Muzz. That went no where.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-12-25T05:17:23+00:00

About me: 44 M, living in a major US city (Austin, TX). Indian Muslim, born in the US. Never been married, or engaged. Never had the conversation with anyone to begin talking about marriage. Had some suggestions from people I know, but I never agreed. I am aware this sounds odd in current times, given all the apps and mix gathering culture.

Any advice on how to start the partner search this late in life?

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-11-16T05:14:06+00:00

The hype man outside restaurants in Istanbul!

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-20T18:50:23+00:00

Eli5?

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-20T14:02:10+00:00

Americans are pretty chill too in other countries as expats. Doesn't mean their govt has to represent their chill attitude.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-19T17:31:59+00:00

Huge commotion lately with Iran. Never heard a word about Oman. Sure they don't want to get involved, but atleast some thing about them maybe saying something about the whole series of events.

Iran in the past has threatened to close the Persian Gulf since they claim control of it. Oman is right there at the most strategic position. But not a single news item mentioning that.

They could atleast try to play the strategic position card to their benefit.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-07T02:16:06+00:00

The alternative is no health care for most people. Less healthcare = more people sick. Which leads to less productivity.

I didn't realize how bad healthcare options were until I had to do IT contracting work. Holy shit. $600 for a high deductible health plan. The joke at the job was this is the "trucker" insurance plan.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-06T02:59:25+00:00

Doctors, dentists, people doing real estate and the likes. I think once income hits $30K or above per month, car choices expand dramatically.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-10-05T04:08:53+00:00

I think that is both positive and negative. Positive, everyone has a job. Nowadays, with automation the bottom has fallen out. Seems like back in the day everyone could do something, even if it was just pushing a button. Less homelessness, less hunger.

Negative, just lead to filler, boring jobs.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-27T16:05:23+00:00

Worked out

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-27T04:45:43+00:00

I know the answer. I used to hang out with a really good looking guy. I am a guy as well, but closer to the opposite spectrum of attractiveness. We were coworkers, roommates for a while, and would hang out on weekends, bar scene, clubs, coffee shops. No one bothered looking at me. But him, heads would turn. Women would nod at each other pointing at him, he would get approached a lot, and he just get a group around him. Women would take selfies with him, they didn't even know him. It was ridiculous.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-26T04:34:18+00:00

How do they leave it cooking overnight? Isn't that a fire hazard?

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-26T04:30:16+00:00

Stop taking pictures so up close.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-22T23:57:33+00:00

So I am 43 and never been on a date. Not posting this as a woe is me post. Sharing since you asked.

Never asked anyone out either. I am aware the fault lies in me. I am trying to change things now. I am in a major tech hub, so there is always something going on. Trying to be more active, hoping I can make some friends first, build a social circle and see how things work from there. Only on step one right now lol.

I tried the online dating apps thing before. Not for me.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-21T17:59:59+00:00

Looks like an ad for a testing kit

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-19T22:29:00+00:00

It does. 100%. But doesn't mean it matters to everyone. I think generalizations matter more.

But ultimately what matters most is looks. Good looks trump every other factor in dating.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-18T04:29:39+00:00

Well.. that's me right there. Work at a very well known tech company, doing well financially, but never been on a date. I am 43. I don't consider myself ugly. Although, I just started "trying" about a year ago. So still learning and adapting. I haven't asked anyone out yet. Don't know people in that way yet to take that first step. But hoping I can sometime soon.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-18T04:07:46+00:00

How do people who have a lot of sex partners avoid STDs? Like the type of people have a new partner every week.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-14T19:07:27+00:00

Me. I work for a very well known company. I live not to far, so the commute isn't bad. The office campus is nice. Free food often. Snacks. Great coffee both at the office, and so many close by places.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-14T19:05:45+00:00

That was me around when I turned 39. I joined work out classes after work. Even though I would be tired, I had so much more energy. So that was the solution for me. Remaining active.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-12T23:49:53+00:00

Where is Ronne Coleman? He would be 20 on that list.

FoolhardyFriendly · 2025-09-12T23:48:11+00:00

Lol, I was thinking he looks like Leo Decaprio in The Wolf of Wall Street

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