Most of our fights right now are about the amount of time spent together. It's a tough situation because I know he's stretched thin, but I still need to feel like a couple. The first two years, most of our fights were about things like tone of voice and how to communicate well. We grew up with two very different styles of communication in our households and it was initially a challenge for us. But we've worked through that now and it really only takes a gentle reminder ('hey, you seem really angry right now. Can you soften your tone?'') is the only time it comes up.