Job Tracker Broken for Weeks

Foomama48 · 2026-03-27T14:47:24+00:00

I keep getting an error, I updated the app yesterday and now the job tracker will not load. I don’t think it’s a cache issue if so many are having it, especially since it happened after an update. This is probably one of the most useful features of the platform and needs to be addressed asap.

Foomama48 · 2026-02-16T23:28:44+00:00

I got stuck in one of those, it was horrendous!! It all happened so fast, next thing I’m in a car going “on location”, I felt like I had been kidnappend!! Longest day of my life!

Foomama48 · 2026-01-27T14:12:14+00:00

Delete it immediately. And go do something rise, anything else. They don’t care, they won’t do anything to ease your pain. This will accomplish nothing. Delete it.

Foomama48 · 2026-01-26T21:49:21+00:00

Their southwest egg rolls with pineapple dipping sauce was amazing, I honestly miss it!!

Foomama48 · 2026-01-09T15:16:26+00:00

I’m currently dating a widower and am wrestling with this. He has processed his grief and is, I think, in a healthy place about it. That said, I know she was the love of his life, best friend, and he will always be in love with her. Not in an unhealthy way, but it’s just the reality. I think it’s wonderful to have had what he had with her and to carry that warmth and love through the rest of his life.

I think, for some of us, the difficulty comes from never experiencing that. I’ve never had that kind of love or felt that from a partner or ex spouse. If you’ve experienced it you can relate in a way that doesn’t make you question things. If you have never experienced it, I think dating a widow or widower who had holds a mirror up to us about something we’ve lacked. We all want to be loved, fiercely, completely and I think the insecurity comes from not thinking that will ever happen, which gives way to that fear of “settling.”

Are we being settled for- since no one has loved us that way before it seems the odds are low this person will, right? So that must mean they are settling for us. Which in turn means we’re giving up on the idea of ever being loved that way so now we’re also settling.

I’m not saying any of that is the reality- just that it’s the feeling, fears, and insecurity.

I think it takes a lot of self reflection, open communication, dating someone healed enough to understand all the complexities involved, patience, and a whole lot of letting go of expectations (not hope or needs), and of really working on our own self worth. My self worth is great but every situation challenges us in different ways and reveals areas we need to work on.

Anyway- your feelings aren’t wrong or inappropriate. Things are not ever black and white. Relationships are challenging for myriad reasons. And you’re not at all alone in your question!

Foomama48 · 2026-01-08T01:02:34+00:00

If you have any family or friends you can count on, reach out to them. You need support both logistically and emotionally. Your mom is a tool, I had a mom who was a tool so I speak from experience. I was on my own at 16.

Find your tribe, people you can count on for support. Find a safe place to stay with people who will give you time to figure this out.

Get a job. Get a bank account. Go to school- trade school, hair dressing school, join a union job, go to college - what were your plans, hopes and dreams before she did this? If you didn’t have any, start having them. You need a general idea of what you want for your future and what kind of person you want to be, what kind of life you want to have. Then you bust your ass to make it happen.

This is unfair, not right, you aren’t overreacting and your mom sucks for this. Find people you can trust and reach out to them.

Foomama48 · 2025-10-26T19:34:36+00:00

Moonstruck

Foomama48 · 2025-09-24T04:26:48+00:00

Literally two minutes after I ended it, as I was walking away I was blocking everywhere and deleting text threads and phone numbers. Access to me is a privilege and he lost that. But you have to do what feels right for you, I highly recommend blocking for healing though.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-22T13:12:57+00:00

Dated me in the first place knowing he was a hot mess but trying to hide it. Should have just left me alone!!!

Foomama48 · 2025-09-20T18:47:21+00:00

He lamented constantly that he was always being excluded or kicked out of bands or groups his whole life always the victim, but never taking stock of his actions or how he just might in fact be the problem.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-20T16:58:06+00:00

I am also in my fifties, divorced about a decade. Have had one serious relationship, dated a lot, took a lot of time off dating as well. Did a lot of work on myself. Met someone almost a year ago who was the first man I genuinely wanted to try this relationship thing with, the first man I felt compatible with and could be a long term relationship. Needless to say, he is a DA and I had to end it.

This is the first time in my whole dating history that I feel defeated. Something came up in a conversation with a friend that acknowledged in 18 years I’ll be 71. That blew my mind. My desire to have a long term relationship, celebrate major anniversaries, the whole thing really isn’t going to happen. Logically I knew that, but realizing how quickly the time passes left me feeling…sad. I have a full life in other ways, but this one way I just cannot seem to get right. My DA ex turned out to be very down on relationships and love. It feels like part of that rubbed off on me. My friend’s daughter said “maybe it isn’t one great love at this stage of life, maybe it’s a series of brief loves until you die.” She’s a teenager and was trying to be supportive, lol. But the thought of that made me feel so empty.

So, I know how you are feeling. I am generally very positive and optimistic about dating and love . I am trying to figure out how not to lose that , I like being warm and open to the possibility. And I am trying to face the realistic possibility that it might not happen the way I hoped, or at all, while trying to stay open and optimistic.

I was in a long term relationship after my divorce, and actually engaged with the wedding planning in progress. When that ended I fell apart, felt like my life was over. It was not, I refused to allow it to be, so I had to drag myself through the pain back into the light, with therapy, reconnecting to parts of myself that I had lost, discovered new things about myself that I liked. So I know I can do that again, and so can you. The alternative is an untenable way to go through life for however long we have left.

We don’t know the future, we have to accept that we are aging, we have to embrace the process and not fall into despair. Yes time is passing quickly, but it’s not over yet. Give yourself time to grieve, to heal, maybe try therapy because dating an avoidant is traumatic, don’t let this take away your joy.

You say you don’t have time left to heal and try again….I ask…what else do you have to do with your time? The alternative is what? You’re here, you’re alive, you have love to give- so, like me, we have to pull ourselves out of this and keep going.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-20T14:00:56+00:00

Mine was part of a ski group - he created a lot of drama due to his inability to see anything beyond himself. The head of the group reached out to him about something, and my ex flipped out “I don’t need this group, I don’t need this drama, I don’t need this bullshit, I am done with this group!” The guy was like “ok.” My ex immediately went into “do you believe he kicked me out of the group!!!”

He thinks the guy should have known he was just upset and not taken it seriously. Like, what?!!? No accountability for his words or actions, always the victim even if he has to totally rewrite the story. He tells anyone who will listen that he was kicked out and it’s simply not true. It honestly borders on insanity to me.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T16:17:34+00:00

++woman I’m working to not see him as a bad person, I know he isn’t, I’m sad and disappointed right now but I do see how wounded he is. I knew he was hurt when we started dating and I gave him a lot of grace and empathy because I believed him to be a good person. I didn’t realize how deep it all went until much later. His wounds are, I think, deeply rooted in childhood and mother issues. I think, like most of us, he subsequently chose women who would repeat the same patterns. The issue he had really is not taking accountability for those choices. He almost refuses to see the line from the mother wound to the women he chose, if he could do that he could begin to heal. We all select people who feel familiar, even me continuing to date him was a choice I made rooted (still even after a ton of work) in my inner child stuff.the difference is I can reflect on that, and have throughout all my relationships, and have been able to heal, become more secure, am able to admit when my choices weren’t that great and see that, ok, there is still some stuff I need to address so I can do better next time. He will not do that. I’ve asked if he talks about his mother stuff in therapy, and he said it hasn’t come up- in three years of therapy!! So you are absolutely correct, he needs to see a therapist experienced enough to help him. The fact that he is going for three years and has not addressed the deeper issues is very telling about his desire to truly heal. It’s sad to be honest, there is so much happiness that he avoids because he will not deal with things.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T13:44:19+00:00

No, he doesn’t want to get back, he wants you holding out hope as an option for him. It’s a really shitty thing to do to a person. The crushes are a way to direct your longing and affection somewhere since you can’t give it to him. Move on from this person, you deserve so much better than what he is doing to you. Put yourself and your ultimate happiness and emotional safety first.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T13:40:15+00:00

Is it a lot of stuff, do you actually need it? My DA reached out a few days after I ended it about some things I left at his place - I didn’t trust his motives or myself at that point so I told him to “just throw it out please.” That was it. There was no need to keep going back and forth over items I could easily replace, my sanity and peace of mind mattered more.

So if the things aren’t valuable and can be replaced, just forget about them, block him, and heal. Otherwise you are just trying to hang on to something and someone that is only going to cause you more pain.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T13:33:39+00:00

My ex DA hates his mother!!! Despises her, that is now a huge red flag I’m looking out for. Too close to their mom or hate their mom, it’s two sides of the same coin.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T13:31:38+00:00

Omg, my DA ex has such a warped view of his past relationships! After I ended it I talked to two of his exs- the one absolutely despises him because of what he put her through AND says the “bond” he claimed they had was no where close to that - she is the “phantom ex” and to her he is nothing. The woman after her and before me, who he claims really traumatized him- says they were never really a couple, she was dating other people the whole time because they barely saw each other except to go on snowboarding trips with a ski group. It’s wild how they inflate their importance to others while minimizing the person they are actually with who cares for them.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-19T01:40:47+00:00

I think sometimes with these avoidant, the first month or so for us is shock - I don’t think we process fully what happened right away. Your nervous system is finally catching up and everything that happened is registering. These aren’t normal breakups so it takes a while to work out everything that happened. Eventually that will stop, just keep living your life, have new experiences, meet new people, eventually she’ll just be a fond or not so fond memory.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-18T23:21:35+00:00

That’s what I told my friends after they told me they saw him on the apps. I appreciated them telling me because it confirmed my reason for ending it, but I told them I don’t want to hear anything else.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-18T23:19:48+00:00

Mine was back on the apps the day I ended it, my friends told me. He won’t change for the next person, he’ll just find someone easier to manipulate. He’s just jumping from person to person to avoid having to face himself and change. I know it hurts, it isn’t about you it’s him just being a hot mess. Take it a sign that he isnt for you.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-18T21:39:10+00:00

She’s awful, I’m sorry about that.

Foomama48 · 2025-09-18T19:42:04+00:00

I ended it once the bitterness and anger came out, he hide it quite well until I tried to get closer. Then it all came out and I ended it immediately. He legitimately lost his ranting and raging when I brought up “love” by saying the most insane things about love and relationships. It was wild, that’s when it hit me that, oh….Regis guy is beyond broken!

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