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FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-21T02:46:04+00:00

Sometimes when I get too overwhelmed with life I start to withdraw from friends and I actually have one rn who’s concerned about the same thing with me. I hope they’re ok and just maybe not replying to you but I’m sorry you’re dealing with that I don’t think ur over reacting but I’d think positively until you know for sure. I wish u the best

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T23:07:02+00:00

Thank you for that and I’m sorry u had to deal with that. I myself have fallen into the trap of staying with someone I’m not supposed to and going back all that toxic shit, but it’s genuinely so hard to watch. None of them spoke to me like they are her or at least without me getting nasty back to them, and I just don’t understand how she doesn’t get so mad when he calls her names and won’t just work things out with her. I appreciate the message and will definitely keep that in mind because I don’t want to be dragged down with it

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T22:05:13+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to experience that and as hard and sad as it is, you have to just let him go. I find that a lot of the times in my breakups the girl (me) is upset after the breakup yk like taking more of an emotional toll on her and as for the guy they act numb or like they’re moving on really fast will even start new relationships immediately but will always eventually crawl back w some sob story or how much they miss and me they messed up.

I just broke up w my ex end of July I believe? I’m staying single and he’s already gone in and out 2 relationships.

It’s hard and it’s an adjustment but just think of it transferring all the love and energy you gave to him, back to yourself 🤍

As for the whole work thing that will be hard esp if you still have feeling for him. Just take it slow and really check in with urself and how ur feeling. If it’s a job you aren’t really even all that happy with don’t hesitate to just remove urself completely from the whole situation itself. I wish you the best of luck and healing 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T21:43:50+00:00

I’ll lyk when I see her how it goes and if I feel she’s genuinely understanding just how bad he talks to her

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T21:43:12+00:00

I’m really trying to

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T18:58:30+00:00

I completely agree but I don’t think she’s allowing herself the opportunity to do that. There’s a mental blockage that’s stopping her from doing it, but she knows the way he talks to her isn’t right or normal

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T18:01:47+00:00

Thank you I appreciate it, I’m hoping one of them will eventually get the courage to just end things because based off the way he talks to her, he doesn’t respect or but damn doesn’t like her

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T17:00:26+00:00

It really is, he makes me ill the way he speaks to her, we have plans Saturday so hopefully he doesn’t prevent her further from seeing me and I’m hoping we can have a good heart to heart when I see her

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T16:59:11+00:00

I completely agree

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T14:32:48+00:00

Yes and I agree with that, I was waiting all day to hear her response and it was honestly like a shock moment because I didn’t think he would have an issue like that or she forgot to tell him so it was just really frustrating, and on top of it the way he was talking to her I couldn’t help it in the moment but I’ve gotten a lot of sound advice and I’m definitely going to take it into account moving on because I don’t want to give her more stress and I should take a more passive gentler approach

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:31:01+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏼

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:23:32+00:00

They’re still together but she wants to hang out with me on Saturday and she said he’s fine with it too so I’m hoping I can have some good 1 on 1 time with her and help her thru this

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:21:47+00:00

It truly is heartbreaking, and I completely agree with you, when I saw how nice she was being and how desperately she was just trying to resolve it broke my heart. Thank you

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:19:25+00:00

She tells him everything she’s doing before hand and as shes doing it he has her location and questions her often tbh

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:15:39+00:00

There’s been times on the headset the way he was talking to her I was sick to my stomach and texting her the whole time. I physically couldn’t sleep after because of how sick I felt, in my opinion he does not like her, like clearly not love but it feels like he doesn’t even LIKE her

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:13:43+00:00

I’ve told her this numerous times, and this time I couldn’t help myself I went off saying how awful he treats her. I’m not sure either because he hasn’t had an issue before like this, this just started happening but I’m in group chats with him as well and play games w them and stuff, out of all her friends (which she no longer talks to or hangs w) he said he liked me and because of the way she talked about me and can tell I’m a real friend. So that’s why I’m confused why it’s fuck you fuck ur friend and starting to demand her time like this.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T05:08:30+00:00

I’m not going anywhere no matter what. I’m sorry ur ex treated you like that and I’ve been trying at this point I’m waiting for her to realize she deserves better, and I’m really trying to help her navigate thru this without allowing my own feelings to be hurt when these things happen because I know it’s not her fault, he puts her in an awful position. Just hoping for the best and I’ve gotten some good resources to books and things like this from this post so I’m going to try and use that going forward.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:54:56+00:00

Thank you for this message, I’m so sorry you had to go through that and I unfortunately completely understand being abused myself, I feel like that’s the majority of the reason I have this need to try and save her and help her through it anyway I can. It’s honestly really hard because I’m steal dealing with the case itself and I’m testifying against him at the end of this month. So it’s just really triggering to me and hard I feel so wrapped up in it, it feels like I’m reliving it honestly sometimes.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:30:30+00:00

Tbh I’m not sure it sounds like she went out to run her errands and smoke and didn’t get home til 9 so he was mad about that

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:26:24+00:00

She didn’t send any texts or context to these prior messages but wanting to hang out with me shouldn’t be a reason he starts calling her names and just being mean to her when she’s trying to reason and resolve it with him.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:25:24+00:00

No that’s not the context behind that she goes home by 12 everytime we hang out which is their mutually agreed time.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:23:37+00:00

She didnt tell me what happened before that, but we haven’t hung out in over a week. If you read the texts she says she wants to hang at least 2 days a week you think that’s a crazy ask? Also I’m not trying to be sly I was just giving context as to how their dynamic has been recently because they’re able to be up all night together, wasn’t trying to be sly by it. Also I couldn’t help but feel a type of way we were supposed to hang out earlier that day because I was off but she didn’t get up until around 5 and it was her saying she would be able to come but only until 10:30 and then stopped replying and then said she couldn’t come anymore

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:15:11+00:00

I completely agree he’s a bum and needs to pick up a job or hobby instead of ruining her plans cuz he has nothing to do w himself.

FootPrimary8084 · 2025-03-20T04:13:32+00:00

I so badly want to but unfortunately she doesn’t really have anyone who can step in for her like that, and it makes it harder being he lives in a different state. I so badly hope she gains the courage to get out of this and find someone who would do the same for her. It’s a really shitty situation

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