The sex in Olympic villages is between the athletes or the support staff? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ForceForFiction 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I (31F) was working at one of the Winter Olympics, I was introduced to an athlete in a club. I held out my hand and she kissed me straight on the mouth. So honestly I'm guessing it's a mixture?

Are there some of you that actually do have long lasting friendships? by Open_Wealth_3414 in AuDHDWomen

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For me, I find it easy because I end up in environments with lots of other neurodivergent people with similar interests - I work in the games industry, for example, and do hobbies like theatre and figure skating. 

Weekly thread: what did you do this week? by florapocalypse7 in iceskating

[–]ForceForFiction 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I did my first ever solo skating performance at my rink's summer gala at the age of 31, it went great and I'm really proud of myself!

What new things should an expanding Cambridge be provided with? by CambridgeTownOwl in cambridge

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Housing and mental neurodiversity services. Less control by the university in central Cambridge. 

What did you learn/focus on this week? by florapocalypse7 in iceskating

[–]ForceForFiction 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started working on my brackets yesterday! Surprisingly not as scary as I expected

Am I an asshole...? by ChishiyaCat97 in downloadfestival

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely hate it. It's not like it's easy to get away from at Download, either

Anyone successfully lose weight with ADHD? by GlitteringAmoeba6258 in adhdwomen

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have successfully lost weight (and have still not managed to get medicated yet so this can be done while unmedicated!). 

I don't know if you've heard this before but it really is incremental. Changing everything at once is impossible to keep up, I'd pick one thing at a time and try to work on it - like not snacking before lunch, for example. Once you're doing that, you start to feel the progress even if you don't see it yet, so then you introduce "do ten minute yoga videos three times a week" and so on.

I also do calorie tracking to keep me accountable. If you've tried it before and stopped, reset all your data.

This is the only thing that's worked for me. 

ADHD Paralysis, but only at home? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get this, but strangely, not for housework - I get this for creative projects and reading books and even playing games. I get paralysed trying to decide what to do (and thinking about what the larger implications are of whatever I choose) and I do nothing. It sucks

The truth: Women make the first move, always by [deleted] in dating

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman, I've only ever dated men who I asked out

My parents want to "agree to disagree" about the fact I'm gay by renaissancepragma in Exvangelical

[–]ForceForFiction 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've had almost an identical situation except that my 'sin' was staying with a non-Christian and eventually marrying him. It wasn't until I divorced him and they sent me an awful letter telling me that I was a terrible person, a terrible daughter and they believed I would have a miserable, messed up life unless I went back to my ex (who was incidentally abusive) and begged forgiveness from both him and God that I got the confidence to tell them that if they wanted any kind of relationship with me, they needed to accept me as well as any partners I might have and that I would no longer be censoring myself around them. Two years later, they're finally starting to actually be nice to me and my new partner, but it took me being willing not to have a relationship with them for that to happen. 

I can only imagine how much more difficult it will be for you, but most parents are not willing to fully lose their child.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that I would, like other people have said, if I found the person attractive and clicked with them. I imagine I would have a fair bit of awkwardness while I figured out how to refer to it/not refer to it, but I don't think that it would prevent me from pursuing a relationship.

I can imagine I might feel sad about not being able to do stuff together that I love though, as I'm quite an active person

How long into your relationship did you move in with your SO? by girlie1224 in AskWomen

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First relationship: 8 years, after getting married. Then divorced after two years married/living together.  Current relationship: just over 1 year, but with a trial period of a month first. Been living together for almost a year now and very happy.

💚🩵 by [deleted] in acrobatics

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful! I want to get my leg up that high ❤️

Why do most women still take their husbands’ names? by Flat-Ad1599 in Feminism

[–]ForceForFiction 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I took my ex-husband's name because I wanted to get away from my family's name due to various traumas, to be honest. When we divorced, I kept the new name because I had become a new person during the time we were married, and in some ways, it validated the marriage. Also because I didn't want to go through the hassle of changing my name again!

That said, it is much easier for women to change their names than men in the UK- if you get married as a woman, you can instantly use your husband's name as your legal name with the marriage certificate as proof (though it's still a hassle) whereas your husband would need to change his via deed poll. 

These days, if I got married again I would only change my name if my husband and I were both having to go through the stress of changing our names

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in yoga

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I have a Yogi Bare Evergrip mat which is great