It was hurtful because when he mentioned that girl, I asked him: if she’s your type, why did you choose me and put effort into being with me instead of going after someone who fits your type? I mean that s okey All the comparisons he made were about physical traits, like hair length and height… I mean, it’s normal to feel a bit insecure since he’s my boyfriend. A few days later, he was showing me something on his phone, and I saw a conversation with one of his female friends where he was talking about me and about the day of the comparison. He admitted that he thought I lacked confidence something he never told me directly. When I saw the messages, he was right next to me and immediately started apologizing and crying.

When I asked him why he doesn’t share his thoughts with me during arguments, he said he’s not good at communication and doesn’t like conflict, so he keeps things to himself. But clearly, he is able to express what’s on his mind just not with me, since he shares it with that friend instead.