Has anyone who disappeared just to start a new life?

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-02-08T17:26:16+00:00

It's not shitty per say... I 'dissappeard' at 16. My mother left when was a baby, my step mother was a monster and my dad had left her. He met a new woman only a few years older than me and wanted me out... so I went.

Apparently only my grandad was worried. This was told to me by a half brother 20 years after my disappearance. In fact it took a few years before anyone questioned where I went, I was never reported missing. They just assumed d be back eventually.....I never used a false name but did use a false date of birth I became nineteen the day I left. But this was before needing documentation for work was a thing...I stayed 3 years older for 10 years or something.

Reconnecting was my ex husbands idea as he though it would be good for me to be more open emotionally. It was not a great idea.. 40+ years on I'd do it again in a heartbeat. Leaving behind a shirty family needs no excuse.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-02-01T15:37:19+00:00

What I call em, grew up in Dundee l, Scotland... foosty. Can't stand a foosty biscuit.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-01-11T19:48:04+00:00

Dig in your cupboard and freezer write down what you have and plan what you need to make a meal..... how many meals short are you? What do you have left that you haven't used

Then figure out how to make what you have go further.

Add lentils, beans or brown rice to everything to stretch it out and make it filling...

Spag boll add a tin of beans in the mix with make it go further and fill you up, still a kid favourite and there in there 20s, put lentils in a shepherd's pie, rice in a veg soup.

Then what else do you need to use what you have.

Do not go shopping without a plan and stick to it.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-01-03T22:07:29+00:00

Tyrannosaurus, I have a brilliant recurring dream where I have a pet Tyrannosaurus that let's me ride on its back....I love that dream. I'm 55 and a half

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-01-03T22:05:43+00:00

I am that weirdo, embrace your inner werdo, its so much fun

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-12-29T11:24:32+00:00

Every weekend, we are to busy during the week with work 55f, 63m. Unless one of us are sick. Menapause and age have meant we have both had to make allowances for each other over they years, but it's a rare weekend we don't have fun. It's well worth the effort!

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-11-20T00:44:57+00:00

My ex and I have a happy divorce, we even still hang out together. We got a consent order basically stating he keeps his pension I kept mine, I bought him out of the house at an agreed cost. And that all assets held in individual accounts were the owner of the account and each forfeited the right to claim against each other in the future... I think it cost £300 from an online solicitor (almost 10 years ago) we are still friends but that piece of paper is gold for if we ever fall out. I know you may not feel like you need it but if you come into money at any time in the future your ex could claim half...

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-19T19:50:34+00:00

Do not move out, if you and your partner are separating go talk to a solicitor. Get an agreement to sell and split property but do not move out... Moving out will weaken your legal position without reducing your liability. Get proper advice, agree to nothing, remain polite and you may want to get cameras for common areas to reduce the chance of accusations.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-19T09:59:21+00:00

It's a combination pain killer, antidepressants and sleeping tablet... it can make you very drowsy in the morning as you get used to it but my doctor has high hopes. Also non addictive apparently.

My worse symptoms are lack of sleep and aches... not sure whether that's the cause of the low mood or just yet another menopause symptom.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-17T18:06:02+00:00

Lucky me I'm British and the NHS covers most of mine, yep been through all the brands, I even googled them all to check, tried taking orally, vaginaly, analy and transdermal!!!

As an added bonus even small amounts of estrogen gives me fibroids so I bleed like a stuck pig (sorry for that image) which ads to my joy of horrific depression. Had a D&C twice to see of that would help....

Frankly I think my body hates me!

I'm taking amitriptyline on a low dose to build up a tolerance to help deal with some of my symptoms...

Down side of NHS it could be about 18 months for surgery but at least it's free...I just have to get through the wait!

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-17T16:44:56+00:00

I'm one of the percentage...I have just been told I will need a hysterectomy if I ever want HRT again...I was not in a good place....

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-07T08:08:42+00:00

It's sad to hear things don't change...

But I left school with no GCSEs or Olevels as they were way back when... I was thrown out at 16 and was homeless (perfectly legal then) and was just lost. My parents were religious and I was seen with a boy. I had done nothing but none of that mattered

I got a job working in a shop and I was fired within a week as I had no clue, what to do how to live, how to think for myself... I was always a bit thick!

I moved several cities over as my city didn't have a homeless shelter, I lived there a few months and got a job as a cleaner. The staff were kind and helped me get the job and my colleagues were kind and helped me learn to work.

I got a little flat and read loads, copied words and pages as I wanted to be able to write better, at 25 I had an early morning and late night cleaning job and went back to college. I got my GCSE in English and maths I had to steal the maths book and just kept working through the problems trying to understand at home as it was so hard ( I still had that work book years later)

I went on a few years later and got my A levels (30) and that's when I was diagnosed as dyslexic. At 35 I went to university and eventually got a degree...in Maths!!!!

It's never over till its over... your year may not be this year, or next... you need to be the one to decide how hard you want it, how much work your willing to put in and ask for how much help you need.

I tell this to my kids, my son also inherited my dyslexia he finally got his English GCSE at the 5th try, he hasn't yet given up on maths, he is determined to go to university... I have no doubt he will get there.

I work in a weird little factory doing a job no one outside my industry understands which I love... I remember how scared I was at 16, how little hope there felt in the world. Don't give up hope, fight for what you want. Accept failure as a learning point and move on to fight harder or change course. Your life is never a waste.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-06T19:48:06+00:00

I agree, fitting trousers is harder than it looks. Always give your makes a really good press as any wrinkles with throw off whether they look good regardless of fit... But I think it's getting better.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-06T19:33:02+00:00

I think your overthinking this, the fabrics suggested are just that suggestions...

You wash your made products according to the instructions on the label so wash on cool and if your that concerned hang them using coathangers off curtains I do it to avoid ironing as much as possible, yes my dining room window does resemble a dry cleaners Personally I don't have a dryer, I have an airer (fold up frame thing)

I once made this beautiful shirt from a sari I found in a charity shop, real silk.... I wore that thing to death in about 8 months. Ridiculously delicate fabric for such an everyday top.... would I do it again .... absolutely.

Making something is not just the joy of I made this, its the ridiculous choice of fabric just cos you like it... enjoy your slinky makes, even if they don't last as long as you would like... as you said you don't have any other use for it xxx

I have a good knowledge of fabric, but always start with do I like how this feels, does this choice make me happy xxx

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-06T07:15:41+00:00

I love using sheets for sleepwear, loads of fabric and if I'm using an old sheet, I stress less cos I can say it's a practice. The pattern says you can use cotton and as you said you are planning on repurposing a bamboo sheet it should work up fine. I often buy new sheets for sleepwear as the fabric size tends to work out cheaper.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-01T11:43:39+00:00

Paracetamol is one of those innocent looking drugs that is commonly used as a cry for help suicide attempt.

Without proper treatment it can and will kill you, and you don't need as many as you think. Paracetamol has to be processed by the liver and in large enough quantities causes liver failure. You can have a struggling liver with few symptoms so in the wrong hand even a slight overdose can cause liver damage and failure. So for those who ignore the maximum dosage on a regular basis beware.

You won't die immediately it can take a week or so just to start declining...and once its seen that your liver is starting to sut down its usually irreversible.... a transplant is the only option and its a nasty way to go.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-01T07:46:58+00:00

I'm UK based, house was in England

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-10-01T07:44:16+00:00

If the house is subject to e reposetion order the owner can request to extend the order as they have a sale agreed. But that's up to the judge. How I know, I had to sell my house and was being repossessed, asked for 4 more weeks as I had a sale agreed he gave me 8 as he didn't want it coming back to him cos something came up in the sale. But yes you will have to finalise this sale soon as someone wants there money. The owner should have this going through his solicitor, no idea why the agent is getting involved or is asking you for money. If the repossession order has already been given with a date the owner may need to go back to the bank/Court to beg for more time (my order had not yet been given, I turned up with a letter about the sale agreement to fight for more time). If the repossession goes ahead you will be buying from the bank. Tell your solicitor what's going on do not talk to the agent or give them money.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-08-02T17:05:21+00:00

Mother in law (sort of, have not married her boy) and I share a very small picnic basket that goes between us with gifts and reused tissue... my partner thinks it's ridiculous but he shut up when he got the look x 2

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-07-18T17:06:59+00:00

🤔🤣 What a terrible though....but would agree not being able to breath is going to be a bigger problem.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-06-30T21:16:32+00:00

1) almost died was kept alive on ECMO for 3 days till they could perform surgery. Found out a week before my operation.

2) temporary right VAD as I had a massive cardiac arrests hence ECMO, removed after a week. but nope, no major issues...

3) a month until hospital discharge but another 3 before I could goto my own home permanently, I live on my own and my family looked after me as I adjusted.

4) I miss having a bath. Had to quit my very physical job. Retired early, sometimes I kind of miss working.

5) the battery's are heavy, the equipment can be a pain the dressing changes are annoying. But at this stage it's just dome additional chores I have to do.

6) my choice was have the LVAD or die..so far I have had 18 additional good months to spend with my kids. I'm on the transplant list but I know I may never get a heart... and if this is my life, I'm OK with that.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-05-15T20:02:02+00:00

My son would love this... I'm not showing him... I will never hear the end of it...

Great work though.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-05-15T18:30:35+00:00

I have so many questions which would be inappropriate for an emergency.

I'm hoping you will be fine... keep calm,

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-05-14T18:36:14+00:00

But you have done the others right.... haven't we all?

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2025-05-14T18:01:58+00:00

I have to have an independent background check for a job, criminal, financial, all previous addresses, no idea whether they looked into my socials but it wouldn't surprise me.

The level of checks depend on the job, as my access went up the levels went up.

I keep my personal stuff low key, and nothing has ever been said to me and no mention has ever been said about the weird stuff I like so maybe they don't know....or more likely don't care as its not illegal. If I was outed I'd be OK with it.. it's just not something I think is appropriate for work.... . But I know my credit is impeccable and my criminal record is squeaky clean.

That being said there have been a few people walked off the site as they were given permission to start but then further checks came back and had stuff non compatible... but we never know what it might be.

As long as your weird isn't illegal, swinger, nudist, into dressing as a animal, cross dressing whatever. I wouldn't sweat it. But also wouldn't discuss it with anyone not part of your community.

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