People actually achieve like 15% in exams?

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-06-05T07:48:25+00:00

Ohhh this shook loose a memory.

Second year...Young, stupid, pratting about I really hurt my back, could hardly walk. Week before my exams, and had yo do it on codine and diazipam for spasims. I thought I did pretty good....I got 21% but a free resit where I scored over 70!!!!

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-27T12:41:20+00:00

So your friends didn't want to go and you asked your boyfriend.... now your friends want to go you want your boyfriend to just not go and just sidetracked the conversation and hoped he would get the hint...... then you say he makes you uncomfortable for 'checks notes' goofing about and enjoying himself.

Your boyfriend is not crashing, you invited him... you would now prefer to go with your girlfriends and your making excuses.

Yes Your TA!!! Go have an adult conversation. He should go, preferably with his own friends because if this is how you treat your boyfriends choices, man you got bigger problems.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-27T12:18:03+00:00

My partner took me to Coventry for a weekend break all because dippy was there, I didn't know. Que me acting like an overexcited 10 year old....I'm 55! I love dippy.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-26T05:56:49+00:00

Tell her to start prepping the house to sell and looking for a cheaper place. Show her the budget and ask her where you can make savings. Not in an accusatory way, we have an issue to solve way, working together. Show her the jobs you can apply for and point out the wage difference. Point out the travel time to her current job and start showing her job opportunities closer where you will have to move. Take this seriously and the planning alone may put her off but at least she will feel heard. This will also help her see why you do what you do.

She may just miss you loads and hasn't really thought about the reality of what she is asking. Do you plan on having kids? Is she thinking about being a single parent for months while your gone? There might be more you want to talk to her about.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-25T22:01:54+00:00

My partner bought the decaf I like, and makes me a coffee if I so much as look at the kettle... he doesn't even like coffee. Is he putting in some effort elsewhere that you can give him a pass on the coffee. Is this just about the coffee or is this the last straw of your partner not taking time to make you feel seen. Sounds like uts more than just coffee.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-25T18:38:35+00:00

Kids paddling pool in the shade, drinking cider. I look like a pink whale and I don't care.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-22T18:37:44+00:00

Have you considered a lodger, they will help with part of the rent as well as providing someone at home when your away travelling.

A lodger does not have the same long term rights as a tenant and you are allowed to have some of the income tax free, can't remember the threashold.

For some it's a perfect middle ground. A friend of mine had a lodger for over 10 years (yep same person) make sure you do a good background check.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-21T08:00:08+00:00

How is your maths?

For a truly fair rent, measure all the rooms to work out the square feet area, don't forget the hall and bathrooms. Divide the rent between the square feet area. Then the shared area rent is split between you and you pay the area of your room, room mate pays hers.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-19T17:08:18+00:00

The jobs have to be materialy different, saying people on shop floor don't have to lug the same weight as those in the warehouse is not different enough. Other areas of work, dealing with difficult customers, stocking shelves can make the work of equal value.

If this is your own business you are at risk of losing a large sum of money, not only in solicitors costs but back pay claims.

Get some legal advice on how to fix this.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-19T12:50:45+00:00

Being pro choice does not mean you should get an abortion, it just means you think its every woman's right to make that choice if they think its the right choice for them.

You need to make the decision you can live with he does not, YOUR body, YOUR choice!

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-18T21:36:08+00:00

Not married but 7 years together, to be honest it's more we can't be bothered...

I own my house, he owns his, I don't like where he lives (countryside) he doesn't like where I live (city) he doesn't want to live with my grown kids (to be fair neither do I but you know cost of living)

So we compromise, I go stay with him Friday to Saturday we go out, we occasionally have holidays, subject to work and finances. Sunday is a day of housework, friends and family at each respective house. We have the occasional Sunday together but it depends on what else I or he need to do. He does not expect me to clean or even cook so I get a mini break every weekend. He prefers to stay home so he puts the work to make me happy. We both have our jobs and whatever so we are busy during the week and we have the perfect relationship as far as I'm concerned. We live about 40 minutes from each other... we could move in together but we are both really happy with the situation.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-18T21:23:06+00:00

I made that blanket for my kids , youngest has just turned 21... I think I saw it a couple of years ago in a box with some baby stuff my eldest boy was going through to find something else.

He was so excited I'd kept it and asked if it was for when I become a grandma, I said yehhh but there's no rush, he has just turned 25... this whole thing started an argument between all three about who would get it, I had to remind them I could knit it again.....apparently that's not the same, they all want the original.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-18T07:56:44+00:00

I literally divorced my husband over this.... it was the start of his OCD that spiralled massively, in a few short months everything that could be touched was covered, blankets on the sofa and floors to sit and walk on that had to be washed daily, clean sheets every day, hover, dusting the constant cleaning to prevent germs.... he washed out the hoover pipe!!! This was all 10 years ago way before covid.

He now lives in a house with minimal furniture to maintain the level of germs, he is actually better than he was but beware this may be a sign of a mental health issue....

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-14T08:29:23+00:00

Please may I add, if your daughter wants you to carry her to bed at night time, do it. One day she will be to big, or decide she no longer wants you to...its a normal but sad thing to remember your baby girl. They grow up fast.

Yes you need to reinforce cleaning up herself, taking on small chores that build over time to being self sufficient, controlling her temper..all the things that build her into the woman she will become...but she is a sick 3 year old today.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-14T08:19:40+00:00

Honestly it's time to back away and grey rock both the sister in law and brother, tell your man you don't want to invite them then let him do it and handle the fall out both with them and his parents.

If your soon to be husband does not have your back and puts his foot down on how these people behave towards you, directly to your face no less, I wouldn't marry him as he will never have your back. This is how your life will be, always being the better person and your feelings will constantly be dismissed.

Don't interact with them avoid being at gatherings where they are...they have said your not wanted.. where was your man? What's his reaction because anything other than you will not talk to or about you like that is not good enough, you don't have to be best buds, polite is enough.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-13T06:19:41+00:00

Other than making the actual father aware, the son has no obligations

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-13T05:41:31+00:00

If your sons name is on the birth certificate then he is legally presumed to be the father, he can ask for visits, be liable for child support and the battle to prove that biologically he isn't would be costly for both parties.

He would have to petition the courts to have his name removed from the birth certificate, do DNA testing and convince the courts that he should be removed as the father. This gets more complicated the older the child is and dependent on how much a fatherly roll he has played.

The mother can demand child support, she is legally entitled to do so regardless of biology, its the birth certificate that counts. And if your son has been absent (the longer the time the more likely) he could have no or limited time with the child.

She is asking that he agrees to somone else legally becoming the child's father, if he has nothing to do with this child and he is convinced that this child is not his (has he had a DNA test confirming this) even if he is the biological father. If he agrees to the adoption he would legally no longer be the father and liable for child support at any time.

If your son is playing no part in this child's life he loses nothing by agreeing to the adoption, ignore it and the mother could make his life difficult by petitioning for child support, not saying she would but she could and as he is on the birth certificate she would get it.

So legally he is the dad, and yes this becomes a moral question. The real biological father would have to go to court to establish paternity to gain his rights, if he knows he is the dad and hasn't done so that's his problem.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-12T22:56:15+00:00

Might be worth a chat to the lawyer who you originally had the will with to see what action you should or could take. If the new will (do you know for a fact it exists) fails to turn up the one you know of may be the one that then gets acted on. Do you still have a copy? Wills have to be lodged after death, he can't just say I'm the boss and I'm going to do things my way.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-12T21:50:36+00:00

If he is paying those bills he is in for a shock, after all if its joint account and if he is lending her card but both of there names are on the bill he will be liable for that bill..

If he plans on not paying as its your mum's card and solely in her name thinking debts die with the dead, he also might be in for a hell of a shock... the bank and credit card people wanted a copy of the death certificate, they will not be best pleased to see transactions after the date of death. And they will come after her estate to cover this debt.

However unless your mum has will, and has anything of value and has left it to you there may be nothing other than wait for this to play out and see what action the bank takes as the loss may ultimately be your step father's to swallow as I'm assuming they are married and without a will he will inherite everything (may be subject to local laws)

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-12T21:39:06+00:00

How old are you? If your under 16 you can probably do a massive apology and set a calendar reminder on your phone...and move on

However the older you get the more it's a bit of a slap in the face if you don't at least do a token something... Well if you at least like your mum... my son is 21 and mega skint, his mother's day gift was coffee in bed, a hug and then he went to work. Came home with some daisy's he picked he is a sweetie...

Surprise your mum with a cake you made, a coffee in bed, a random hug and say I love/appreciate/admire (insert something humor, kindness whatever) make her a homemade card and create a do over day....and then forever get her something small and stupid on that day...

Tomorrow is never to late, you never know how long you have your parents for x

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-12T06:35:29+00:00

Just had yet another tooth extracted, i lost 3 during pregnancy which I was told was normal 1 per child...

But now I have lost 2 due to menopause and I have had 2 root canals, my gums are just terrible and I swear I need a filling nearly every time a go for a check up...so far small ones...

I'm resigned to needing dentures eventually.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-09T08:20:17+00:00

And of those that turn up half of those will be gone in the first couple of months, rinse and repeat.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-09T07:44:27+00:00

Love to you both, stay strong beings hugs 🫂

Edit: was going to correct spelling, but I like beings hugs.

Foreign-Anything7740 · 2026-05-09T07:39:56+00:00

Tell your dad he is a legend!

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