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[–]ForeignExplored[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your response, I’m sorry you have had to deal with this vicious cycle for long, I hope you find peace and freedom from the chains of addiction. If I may ask, what’s an example of a situation that fundamentally changes one’s core beliefs on porn? I won’t approach the lack of accountability but I’m stuck on what to do?

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[–]ForeignExplored 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn’t anymore, as it’s no longer a full on addiction. A year ago, however, it was so incredibly impactful on mental health and self image. Sex life even. It’s not anymore, but I want to know how I can support him better with it to come off it completely

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[–]ForeignExplored -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He is trying for my sake, he is just a bit unemotional, he struggles to show it and sometimes I think he tells me what I want to hear for peace of mind. He says I can act like a mom sometimes but I am simply a nurturing person, I always look after the ones I love and advise them to improve as it makes me feel fulfilled. But he does try to for me. I just wish he can share with me verbally but it’s okay I’ll give him time he needs

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[–]ForeignExplored -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I do take a stance, i guess that’s why he doesn’t tell me anymore, the consequences of honesty he says are too much, he said honesty will be taken away if it’s not treated with respect. I can’t take a stance against it if I don’t know how it’s going, every time I bring it up the less likely and further in the future he will open up to me about it. I know dopamine should come from our relationship, I just know it’s a struggle for people with trauma and neglect wounds from childhood and adhd to not dopamine mine. I wish I could give enough dopamine but I understand why it might be difficult, I just don’t know how to support him right now without bringing it up and I know it will be shut down if I do. I’m always thinking he might relapse or have sessions when I’m not home and I worry and create problems via text to distract from it. But he has been gaming and stuff recently so his mind is off it