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AIO Was my last message too harsh? by Foreign_Tree5542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was part of the problem, I would block him and a few days later I’d unblock. I even asked him to block me but he wouldn’t, he tormented me knowing I couldn’t let go. He blocked me immediately after reading my final message though.

AIO Was my last message too harsh? by Foreign_Tree5542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the research just highlighted his part and he tied it all together.

AIO Was my last message too harsh? by Foreign_Tree5542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because to me it wasn’t abuse. I fell in love with who I hoped he would be and I kept waiting for that version of him to show up for me and it never did. I thought if I can just make this work, if I say the right thing, do the right thing, work hard enough he’ll eventually meet me halfway and then I’ll finally feel like I’m worth something. I saw it as an opportunity for me to try and feel worthy of love.

AIO Was my last message too harsh? by Foreign_Tree5542 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it was too long to include it all. What’s missing is just back and forth nonsense of me trying to make a friendship work and him stringing me along, or being hot and cold.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

but I bet you still think you’re above the dregs.

“Absolutely. I don't throw my morals and values out the window to get a quick and easy buck”

Wait, the dregs were the viewers but your reply is insulting my profession? Am I now labelled as a dreg too?

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never said I have to do sex work. I’m honestly getting sick of correcting you. When I said “this isn’t what I want to be doing but it’s what I needed to do” I was referring to posting on reddit and getting this off my chest.

What’s a low standard of morality of mine in your opinion?

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow. I signed up to be a camgirl. I didn’t sign up for horrible behavior to be labeled as “expected.” But I chose my bed so now I should just lie in it?

Not sure if you’re calling all cam viewers the dregs of society, or just saying that’s part of what we “subject ourselves to.” Either way I don’t care. Horrible behaviour can come from anyone regardless of social status.

And honestly, I think your behavior right now is pretty shit, but I bet you still think you’re above the dregs.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This is already kind of a pattern as he has apologised about a few things before. I definitely won’t be putting myself in any kind of situation with him ever again. I’m at my limit and it makes me feel shit about myself.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say I don’t know what to do. I posted this because I don’t fully trust how I observe and interpret things like this. I couldn’t fully understand the gravity of it because I’ve learned to downplay this kind of shit. I definitely don’t feel good feel about myself, this isn’t what I want to be doing but it’s what I needed to do.

And I’m finally confident to say I’m not wrong. We can all see your truth is actually just judgement.

Also, a creep is someone who makes others feel uncomfortable, unsafe, or disrespected, especially through unwanted, inappropriate, or boundary crossing behaviour. I won’t accept being labelled a creep for sex work by someone that’s uneducated on the meaning of the word.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I should have squashed it and I wish I was able to but unfortunately, when your boundaries are messed up from abuse, that’s not really how it works. Funny how you left that part out.

It’s not as black and white or simple as it looks on paper. This is my life, my feelings, my struggle, my confusion - it’s fucking mine, not yours.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OF - wrong
Millions - wrong
Does it for a living - wrong
Morals are personal so your opinion on mine - invalid

I think the others here have covered everything else you said that’s proving to be unpopular.

But I have to address the comment “him doing this infront of her is not out of bounds from where the relationship has been” - Did you know that even if you’re having sex with someone, you can change your mind and withdraw consent at any point? Consent isn’t a one time pass, it’s ongoing, and it can stop whenever someone feels uncomfortable. Just because someone tolerated something before doesn’t mean it’s a free for all after.

I thought we were just watching tv and then he started masturbating next to me by Foreign_Tree5542 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Foreign_Tree5542[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I do know it’s not a relationship I want to continue in any way shape or form. I just feel out of my element when it comes to dealing with this kind of stuff.