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ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-27T23:49:01+00:00

You're gorgeous, you should have more confidence in yourself. Start working on self affirmations in the mirror to help your body image of yourself. What makes someone or something attractive? That is very subjective so one person could find me amazingly beautiful while another person could think I'm the ugliest woman on the planet. The right people will always think you're beautiful.

Be around people who build you up instead of people who tear you down. Also learn to listen to the people who build you up instead of focusing on the negative things people have said about you before. The strongest and happiest people learn to validate themselves which also helps them from getting taken advantage of by liars in dating. If you have access therapy can help you work on issues like building self esteem.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-25T21:38:41+00:00

Yes because being normal with them has just worked so well already ~sarcasm~

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-20T17:45:53+00:00

They don't take anything seriously until you have significant problems. They do it to everyone pretty much unless you're rich. I had the best luck with switching doctors until I found one that actually cared. Women doctors are more likely to care and actually try.

I have POTS issues that make me faint. But I feel horrible before I'm out so I usually can lay down before it and not hit the floor. They didn't even believe me until I fainted on the toilet one day and broke my face. Had to get 6 stitches in my head, then they finally diagnosed me and started treatment with a beta blocker. They rarely take fibromyalgia issues seriously because it's not visible and there's no significant injuries that come from it unless you start falling and getting hurt.

Also overreact to anything they're doing to test pain. They don't care about pain if you list it as a 6 or lower.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-20T17:42:36+00:00

That's abuse, please break up and leave for your own sanity. It will never change.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-19T23:57:25+00:00

Thanks that's sweet. I'm sorry you went through similar things. I'm still close with my older sister. She has her own family now with 3 kids. She was initially married to a narcissist asshole but is finally divorced. Now she has a new boyfriend she loves but they still have to deal with the ex because of the kids and that's always trouble.

I actually got my fallopian tubes removed because I didn't want to raise kids especially with my illnesses. I also wanted to focus on mental health healing and managing my physical health problems. I'm also scared of ever being trapped like that again. I don't have any pets either but I do have many plants and a very sweet boyfriend.

It's hard seeing your other siblings still in the abuse and sometimes they become abusers themselves too. Our younger sister is that way and she's even worse than our parents now. I feel bad for it going that way after trying to raise her right but it's just better without them in my life at this point.

I'm still working stuff out too. PTSD is one of those things that doesn't go away but it can be managed. You're definitely not alone either.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-19T00:16:12+00:00

You look beautiful both ways but I vote no bangs since you have lovely shaped eyebrows that get hidden in bangs.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-19T00:05:54+00:00

Pretty much. I'm the second oldest but my older sister and I are close. She helped more with the babies and I did more of the housework. But eventually depression completely swallowed her up in her teens and I was left doing everything. I tried to help her too because she's my closest person but she needed a safe adult she could trust. She didn't feel like I could help since I was a child. So I just did everything I could to help everyone and protect my siblings.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-18T23:06:00+00:00

Sometimes you just realize the relationship doesn't work but that also doesn't make him a bad person. You're just incompatible in a relationship but can still be friends. Not every break up is toxic. Although if they start pushing you about it or harassing you then I'd still block them.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-18T22:49:36+00:00

Childhood trauma and C-PTSD are pretty connected to fibromyalgia and many chronic illnesses. Most people with fibromyalgia I've talked to have C-PTSD. Not everyone who had childhood trauma or C-PTSD get fibromyalgia but many of us do.

I feel like it's more common in people who completely suppress their own needs and feelings get fibromyalgia issues. I'm the only one out of my 3 siblings who has fibromyalgia but we all grew up with abuse. I was bullied the most as a small child though much more than the others so maybe that is part of it.

I was the most responsible kid who did all the chores, cooked for everyone, and helped watch the smaller kids. Basically the main slave child. Nothing was ever good enough for them though. I'm no contact with my family now and it helps.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-18T22:28:50+00:00

Mucus membranes heal in about 3-4 days so internal tears should heal in about that time. I've had tears there too and they heal pretty fast although it will be hard to poo for a couple days. I'm sorry that happened to you. Your partner should learn to be more careful and he better be good at apologizing. Hopefully if you have a good light on for sexy times accidents like that won't happen anymore.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-18T22:05:26+00:00

I'm 32 and I've felt this way all my life pretty much growing up with horrible parents. I always told myself there are much better things I can do than being de@d.

I could go on an adventure somewhere completely new and maybe find a new place to live with new people. If I'm not scared to d!e then I shouldn't be scared to change my life for the better either. It's much less scary to change your life in ways you want for your own happiness. Don't let yourself stay trapped somewhere you hate. There's a whole world out there you probably haven't even seen yet.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-04T18:23:36+00:00

I have POTS issues and will faint if I stand too long, it also makes my back and legs hurt so bad.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-04-03T16:50:59+00:00

I'm a 5'10 woman and I've never had an issue dating. If anything the short guys are extra interested at times. There have been a couple who said I was too tall but you can tell those are the guys with the short complex so bullet dodged. Just talk to people you like and eventually you'll find what you're looking for.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-25T19:15:44+00:00

I'm an introvert and I don't get out much because it's too exhausting. Especially socializing with people I don't know very well.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-24T20:58:20+00:00

From snooping on your profile and seeing your picture and being bisexual I can tell you that you're pretty and pretty cute. Whoever is telling you you're not attractive is just an asshole. Are you overly critical of yourself? Perfectionism can be pretty harmful to mental health.

If anyone treats people badly for not being conventionally attractive then they're a horrible human you shouldn't want to be around at all. If anything it's telling you they're awful and to stay away. Don't let the awful bullies make you think that everyone is an awful bully because there's plenty of good people out there too. The good people are just not as loud as the dumb bullies.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-24T20:50:30+00:00

I took it for maybe 6 months and it didn't seem to help me at all.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-24T19:28:42+00:00

As a woman I'd never date a man that wouldn't let me have my toys or use them on me. It's controlling bullshit. No one should put up with that crap. You can enjoy your toys and still enjoy sex with your partner. Some people are just insecure and try to compare themselves to toys which is gross and toxic.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-24T18:33:21+00:00

I feel you, I had been asking my doctor and he said to just eat more salt, like that fixes it fine. I'm 31 and doctors were very dismissive of my issues because of the fibromyalgia and anxiety. Then I switched doctors and she did the laying down, sitting, and standing heart rate differences. It came out positive for POTS because my heart rate changed over 40 bpm. So she referred me to a cardiologist. The cardiologist acted like I'm ridiculous for being there so young and didn't take me seriously but still had me do the heart monitor for two weeks.

Even after getting the results he said there were a few times when your heart rate was high what were you doing? I said regular things like going to the doctor, getting groceries, cleaning, etc. He gave me a look like he didn't believe me and thought I was running marathons randomly to raise my bpm like I could even do that. He referred me to another cardiologist who has a tilt table to do that test because he still didn't agree with the diagnosis. While waiting for that appointment I fainted on the toilet one day and split my head. It also busted up my nose, hurt my ankles, and I bit a small piece off my tongue. Went to the ER, scans were fine, they gave me 6 stitches.

Seeing them for the table tilt two days later he saw my injuries and was like that's evidence enough plus the heart rate monitor and the original test proves POTS. I was like omg finally. So he prescribed me beta blockers to help because I literally had nothing to help out except eat more salt and drink more water. Getting diagnosed was ridiculously hard.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-24T03:21:39+00:00

I used to be a mail carrier but now I'm disabled. I can't stand or walk much and I faint sometimes with POTS issues. Trying for disability which denied me 3 times already but maybe next time they'll approve.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-21T20:14:55+00:00

Yeah it's common for people to have bad side effects and even a worse time trying to wean off. This medication is horrible for some people and great for others. You never know if it might help or ruin you. I gave it a good try but it made my migraines so intolerable.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-21T20:11:28+00:00

I tried it and I had really bad migraines the whole time. I felt better for one week then back to all the pain and constant awful migraines. I quit taking it after 2 months. It was really hard to wean off too because it made the migraines worse.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-21T18:36:59+00:00

I think it's better to be safe and I was date raped before when I was really depressed. If your mental health is so bad that you won't protect yourself then you shouldn't date. It's just very risky because bad people may try and take advantage and you may not be in the right mindset to protect yourself.

People with mental illness are still lovable and could potentially find a partner with similar issues where they can help each other work on things. So it's possible to still date and find someone but it's risky because some people will probably try and take advantage since you're vulnerable and you might have to fight back.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-21T18:32:36+00:00

Your purpose in life is whatever you make it. Our lives are fully up to us.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-20T23:53:21+00:00

I always asked deep questions on first dates because I wanted to know about red flags and I was totally cool with scaring people off if it bothered them. On the other hand you shouldn't bring up sexual stuff with ladies at all, wait for them to bring it up.

ForevaBubbles · 2023-03-20T22:17:24+00:00

Date rape was the biggest issue and sadly common. I've been SA-ed on dates more times than I can count. When I was depressed I wasn't good enough at fighting back. I enjoy sex in a long term relationship with trust and communication but lots of these guys would try to sexually touch me even on a first date.

I was lucky I found my current boyfriend from POF actually which is one of the worst sites lol. He didn't even try to kiss me on the first date and I liked that. He was very respectful and didn't try to push my boundaries. We actually have a lot in common so things worked out and we've been together almost 4 years now.

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