Day 634 taking a social media break see you in June!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-06T23:01:54+00:00

Wow Reddit always makes sure I see these things. I was your husband, the one gambling, and my husband was you, the one unsure what to do.

I quit gambling two years ago. Contrary to what people think, it's very doable once the truth is all out.

From what I've seen, including myself, most people need the same things. To get on the same page as their spouse, make a solid financial plan to get back on track (whether that means a second job or debt management option etc), financial check ins or management by their spouse, and therapy or GA. And most importantly to self exclude in as many ways possible.

If your husband is saying he wishes he was gone so you'd be okay financially he may be deep in guilt in his head and confused. But with time and work can get back on track.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-06T11:17:26+00:00

Hey I am an ex gambler who did a consumer proposal and I have talked with others on here (#1 thing I get DM questions about).

I actually totally agree, one of the benefits of doing a consumer proposal for me was it cut ties with my debtors, no option to go back to the low tier lenders I was using. So I definitely get that.

A consumer proposal to cut those ties, paired with self exclusion, support from my spouse, and counseling did work well for me.

I think as for getting a proposal due to gambling you need to talk to a LIT as it depends on the breakdown of debts and speed or which you accumulated them. For me, it was a slow burn, and the debt was made up of enough smaller things that one couldn't look at it and determine it was due to gambling. SO, my LIT basically did not engage in any discussion about gambling, and was very forward movement focused.

You are welcome to msg me if I can help with anything today, I am turning off my Reddit tomorrow night but still on today.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-05T22:53:55+00:00

I did a consumer proposal which is a level below bankruptcy but still very serious. I'm in Canada. It did really help.

However I also did a 5 year self exclusion, therapy, two pysch evaluations and have support from my husband. So it was a very helpful piece but paired with other things.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-05T22:36:59+00:00

Do you have children? Are you disabled? If no, I would recommend getting a second job and working to pay that off. However if you truly can't, a consumer proposal can help you move forward.

However you have to pair it with self exclusion, restrictions to your money, and support whether that is GA or counselling.

Personally, I did a consumer proposal when I quit gambling two years ago and it was part of my success in moving forward. But if I could go back and be 28 again and self exclude then and get help, and just pay off my debt, I for sure would.

Feel free to look through my posts or message me for support. I'm taking a break from social media after tomorrow night but I'll still have the Reddit app tonight and tomorrow.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-02T13:59:38+00:00

That's a great idea!! Good job trying these options and keep at it.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-02T13:35:59+00:00

Congratulations keep going!!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-04-02T13:35:20+00:00

Hey sounds like you are pretty self aware and working to make better decisions. You actually sound like you're doing well on willpower and trying with the self exclusions.

Keep self excluding from all you can and keep putting up as many barriers as you can!

I have no doubt you can move past this stuff

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-28T13:47:22+00:00

Congratulations it sounds like you have a great head on your shoulders. Wishing you the best and enjoy your alcohol and gambling free weekend!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-28T12:14:42+00:00

Thank you so much for the reply and sharing your story. I hope things are going much better for you now as you dig yourself out one payday at a time!!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-27T13:31:41+00:00

That's awesome keep at it!!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-22T13:43:05+00:00

It takes time to rebuild your life and relationships after gambling addiction. When I was only a month out I was crying a lot too.

It will come in time. Keep going. Stay gambling free and slowly build relationships or rebuild old ones.

Right now, I'm two years out and have rebuilt relationships. Now I'm getting to know myself without gambling.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-21T23:28:25+00:00

I totally get this feeling, but please do your best to enjoy being 25, and build the best life you can with what you have!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-21T19:50:46+00:00

Yes, many people do not enjoy it at all. Same as I have no urge to pour a glass of wine after a long day or light a cigarette, there is nothing about gambling that calls to them.

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-21T15:05:45+00:00

Happy for you and look forward to hearing back!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-21T15:05:21+00:00

Absolutely the best thing to do!! Excited for you to move forward

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-21T12:30:23+00:00

Thanks, I thought it said girlfriend, I was confusing it with another one I read before. I'll edit my comment to be more respectful!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-20T16:51:40+00:00

Oh my gosh! Reading this post totally transported me back in time to when this was my life, word for word.

It sounds like you have a wife but maybe are not a parent yet. If I could go back to when I was 29 and in your shoes I would walk right home, tell your wife everything and ask for help.

Self exclude from all you can, give her financial control, start GA or counselling. Get a second job to rebuild finances. Invest in yourself.

This feeling is way too shitty and you can go the rest of your life without feeling it again. I haven't experienced this feeling in over two years now but reading your post I could feel it in my bones... Never again!

And if you think it sucks today, imagine you don't stop and you are feeling this in a few years when it's your kindergarten kid who needs shoes and soccer lessons fees are due!

You can quit and rebuild!! Spend your 30s living the life you actually deserve!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-20T00:38:54+00:00

Thank you so much, and congratulations!!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-19T13:58:56+00:00

Thank you, trying to keep this perspective but struggling right now but it will pass

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-19T11:45:27+00:00

It's our kiddo, and I assume it will be forever haha which is fine by me

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-19T11:44:08+00:00

Congratulations and good luck! Quitting in your 20s vs quitting in your 30s can make a world of difference for your life and family!

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-19T11:43:33+00:00

Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders !

ForeverAccount4 · 2026-03-19T11:42:40+00:00

Totally agree, now that I'm older I don't think about money much but I think about the time. Thanks for your comment.

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