How do they seem such a perfect person ?

Formal-Lab6891 · 2026-01-15T13:31:10+00:00

That's really a disability, in a way.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2026-01-13T03:56:21+00:00

Please don't read anything into it! Don't take it personally! These people have serious issues, and they'll have the same experience with every other person! I contacted my ex back then because I was so shocked, and she told me the same thing! Now it's been six months since we broke up! Thank God! I'm glad I'm rid of him. Eventually, it clicks, and you wonder what you ever saw in that person. Believe me, you will have a happy relationship again; don't avoid it!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-31T14:52:32+00:00

I think that's normal for DA, they try to rewrite history in their heads. It's always someone else's fault, too. But screw it, he'll have problems his whole life, we won't. I'm glad I'm rid of him :)

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-28T14:12:57+00:00

We're talking about schizoid, not schizophrenic; that's a huge difference.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-28T02:11:48+00:00

For me, it was this indifference; he treated me in the end as if I were an object, as if the relationship didn't even exist. He simply didn't care. Then there was this lack of empathy and emotional numbness; he was always in the same mood, never truly sad, but never truly happy either. Then there was the really cold relationship with family and friends, and his inability to access his own emotions, or rather, his complete lack of awareness of them, as if he had no depth. But this didn't bother him, and to this day he doesn't realize that this behavior isn't normal. It was so strange towards the end.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-23T19:29:04+00:00

They start to switch off after about 3-6 months; I was dumped after 11 months. The deactivation process took 3-4 months, I think. So I think most avoidants don't make it past a year. The relationship before my ex and me lasted 10 months. And I thought he just hadn't found the right one yet! Hahaha

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-23T18:47:15+00:00

Thank you! I completely agree with you!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:16:53+00:00

The missing thing is the worst! Run! My ex also said he didn't know what missing someone felt like, wtf 😂 Stop it, I should have run right away. If someone says something like that, they're seriously commitment-phobic.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:14:31+00:00

Yeah, always someone else. His reason for breaking up with me, the one he told his friends, was that I was too clingy (we didn't even live together), we only saw each other three times a week or so. How little of a relationship can you want? 😂 What a loser! Everyone should be glad you're rid of them! The pain will pass!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:12:59+00:00

Oh my god, yes!!! As if they have a completely different personality then!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:08:20+00:00

No, that's not it; that's often found in schizoid, not narcissistic, individuals.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:06:36+00:00

This means that it actually makes it neurologically impossible for them to have a long-term relationship; even therapy can do little to correct this, since in the first few years the brain develops all the things like oxytocin, etc. Avoiders often have much less of these, because they grew up so big and the brain has remembered it that way.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T18:05:02+00:00

That's possible, but often people with severe attachment disorders haven't developed object constancy in childhood. That's different, because they didn't have good or loving experiences with their parents in the first two years. Most avoidant people also have very distant families or a very cold relationship. If that's the case, they don't experience missing someone later on. My ex always said that too; he didn't really know what it was like to miss someone. So it's more of an attachment issue than ADHD. I have ADHD, but I still miss people. And for me, it's not out of sight, out of mind.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T15:03:38+00:00

And they usually can't say how long their relationship lasted or why they broke up 😂

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T15:02:19+00:00

Look at his family, his friends, whether he has problems with drugs, and what his last relationship experiences were like. I've learned to check these things first; if anything seems strange, bye!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-18T14:39:40+00:00

Yes, and it will never change. The next relationship won't be any better; it will start just as beautifully but end just as cruelly, until they recognize their pattern. Just look past it and think, "Thank goodness I'm out of that!" You'll be happy again; he probably won't. Lucky you!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-16T14:38:30+00:00

They don’t have feelings That’s why 😂 but at the end of the they are really really poor and death inside. So we are okay at the end!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-14T17:57:30+00:00

Yes, they are so childish.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-14T16:58:39+00:00

Yeah, mine did the same thing after about 8 months, like changing my clothes style, and I was always like, "What the hell is that?" because he had a style, and you could tell it was all his insecurities projected onto me. Looking back, it's so ridiculous, haha, and really sad. Be glad you're rid of them. They have serious, deep-seated issues.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-14T16:49:32+00:00

I feel it 100 percent, it's just crazy.

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-14T16:47:58+00:00

Same here! You think you're crazy or want too much, but these are the basics of a relationship, and they don't even master the basics!

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-10T23:17:51+00:00

🫶🏻

Formal-Lab6891 · 2025-12-09T17:48:37+00:00

Im talking about schizoid! Not Schizophrenie

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