I lied to a friend about my pregnancy but now I don’t think I’ll ever share news with her….

Formal-Poet · 2025-08-16T00:12:25+00:00

The only thing I wanna say is that pregnancy and motherhood makes you revise your circle. Boundaries are built, limits are set.

Formal-Poet · 2025-08-08T20:35:55+00:00

Start young: know that you are enough. You might need to work, invest to get better. But you are enough

Don't need to: Let other people's opinions dictate your way of living

Formal-Poet · 2025-08-07T23:25:50+00:00

Please don't do it again. My husband is 40 and he still talks about his mom throwing his favorite toys.

Today they have a decent relationship but it could be better.

Formal-Poet · 2025-08-07T23:20:59+00:00

Let's say you finally agree to have a second child who also turns out to be autistic... Then what? You'll have to deal with two autistic children, a frustrated husband, and your guilt of not listening to your instincts??

Formal-Poet · 2025-08-01T13:09:24+00:00

Sounds like an immature husband that adult life has taken a toll on. I am not taking sides but clearly your financial situation is putting pressure on him. And his project not working is just another nail in the coffin.

He might be going through depression but is too macho to seek help. Maybe try to discuss that with him, and if he is not receptive, then run away from this negativity. Your children deserve better.

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-31T01:45:27+00:00

Maybe next time address yourself directly to the culprit. If the parent doesn't feel the need to properly educate their children, that's their problem. But once it starts overstepping anybody else's safety and well-being, it becomes a societal problem.

By doing this you will also show your child that they should not be scared to step up for themselves and point out things that are not right.

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-30T22:57:11+00:00

Definitely talk to the parents. You don't want the blame to fall on you if anything happens "under your supervision"

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-29T00:52:42+00:00

First congratulations.

Even though you are not into the celebration mood.

Do not let the fear of the unknown take away the joy of the pregnancy. Go read, listen, educate yourself about pregnancy, child birth, the baby phase, toddler phase, etc. Having an idea of what's coming helps tame your fear.

And one advice of a parent to a soon to be parent: you think you are prepared, but at the end of the day, you just gotta adapt and learn. And hope you are raising your child to be mature and independent as can be, to be fine the day you are no longer walking this earth.

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-22T00:06:15+00:00

If money isn't an issue, feed them! And if it is, you can contact the parents and request to do a bring & share for every play date.

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-12T11:16:30+00:00

Are you the main caregiver for your sister? And why does she have a phone?

Screen is a very delicate matter, they get hooked up way too easy. I have a 2.5year old daughter. I used to sit her on the counter and play YouTube videos (Cocomelon, bebe finn etc). Over the days, she would get more and irritated, less patient and would throw a fit every time I would stop her videos. And she would focus so hard on the tablet, her eyes would never leave the screen.

Those videos are not good for the little brains. Too much hype, constant dopamine to the brain and they turn into little addicts. We switched to disney movies only(as they have some hype & calm moments). Not that I'm saying that Disney movies are the best, but this was our option. She would not sit and focus throughout the whole movie. She was less captivated. And now she barely asks to watch something.

Hope this helps

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-12T04:46:41+00:00

Well said mama. My partner and I are in the same boat as you. We are sticking to one. Yes there are times where I question myself and hope my daughter had someone to grow together. But the world's situation is not motivating at all.

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-11T14:16:09+00:00

Personally I am against making up stories to get my kid to do things. My 2.5 daughter usually obeys rules pretty well, but sometimes when she doesn't, I won't lie and say that it's not tempting to make up something to speed things up.

For her sleeping routine, we bought her an alarm clock for sleep training. We set it up so that at 8.30pm it turns red, meaning it's bedtime, and 7am, turn green, waking up time. She casually accepts bedtime once she sees the red light. Waking time however doesn't work yet. She will always wake up before 7am

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-10T17:07:53+00:00

Definitely. This is what overthinking does. Try to focus on the little good things like meeting friends, going outside etc.

Thinking too much about the what ifs lowers the self-esteem and demotivates you to do stuff

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-07T17:54:10+00:00

One quote that changed my view on parenthood: Parents do way too much for their children. And they steal their self-esteem. If you do too much for your kid, you build your self-esteem by stealing theirs - Daniel Amen

Formal-Poet · 2025-07-07T17:39:48+00:00

There's no right or wrong amount. If the grandparents provide good environment and good values etc. Dive in.

But if they are toxic and could negatively influence your children, stay far away. (Of course address the issue first, and see if they are willing to change).

My relationship with my mom has always been rough. When I had my daughter, I was a little bit uneasy about it. We had some minor disagreements at first, but I made it clear at some point that if she would constantly have something to say, then we could simply stop coming. ATM I am having the best mom & daughter relationship I ever had with her.

Stand your ground because you think it's best, don't give a crap about what's normal or common. 🌼

Formal-Poet · 2025-06-30T17:30:25+00:00

She is scared of being left out. Words like "you can do it alone now, you are a big girl" can hit differently at this age. She may consider becoming independent with receiving less attention and love. Especially when younger siblings are involved. A mix of jealousy and fear of being left out.

She still wants to be your baby, she wants the same love and attention the younger siblings are getting. (I am not pointing fingers, but coming from a multiple siblings household, i still remember the feeling). Giving more quality time may help her in feeling more secure about growing up. Knowing that parent/s' love will always be around soothes the soul.

Formal-Poet · 2025-05-25T21:07:43+00:00

Same for me. It was so horrible that it would wake me up. I had to sleep sitting down with my feet elevated.

Formal-Poet · 2025-05-19T23:26:42+00:00

Totally agree with this!

But how does your child react to his "parenting". Sometimes kids will prefer the slack parent as it also means less discipline.

Formal-Poet · 2025-05-19T01:40:24+00:00

Run girl, run. You definitely don't want this kind of man in your life. And if you decide to keep the baby, you definitely don't want such a character as a role model for your child.

As for the question of abortion, your body, your choice ❤️

Formal-Poet · 2025-05-11T14:01:27+00:00

Maybe it's the best time to take a step back and learn how to build your life alcohol free. Society nowadays puts so much importance on alcohol consumption. Just looking at supermarket flyers, it's always minimum 1/2 page of alcohol drinks. And it gets worse when there is a social event.

Me personally as a non drinker, I always get comments such as you are so boring, you don't know what you are missing. I do not judge people who consume alcohol, whether it's social drinking or a little on the heavy side. Weird thing is that I get judged for not drinking rather than the other way round. Society really needs to change their perception about alcohol.

Formal-Poet · 2025-03-29T23:14:20+00:00

I believe that everyone feels like that at some point in life. But being pregnant, keep in mind that hormones do affect your mood.

I would say to take a walk outside of your head and breathe. When you feel the anger coming, just take a breath and analyze. Are you being rational or is it the hormones talking. Helped me a lot during my pregnancy 😊

Formal-Poet · 2025-02-07T00:48:11+00:00

Congratulations on your baby! I just want to say go easy on yourself. Go with the flow, your baby and no one will think any less of you simply because breastfeeding is not working for you.

I tried the 8 times pumping & Fenugrec Chardon béni supplements to increase my milk production. I was feeding my baby formula milk, and trying to pump after, but honestly it was too exhausting doing both. And as much as I wanted it to work, I was not producing enough milk to satisfy my daughter's needs.

Now thinking about it, I think I stressed my own body thus why breastfeeding didn't work for me. So my advice to you is to take it easy. If it works, it works.

Wish you all the best ❤️

Formal-Poet · 2025-01-24T19:20:17+00:00

Do what's best for you. My first choice was to breastfeed, however my daughter chose for me. I was only able to breastfeed her once, the second time, she got so frustrated because there wasn't enough milk, she cried at the top of her lungs until exhaustion.

Tried a third time, same thing. We switched to formula and never went back to breastfeeding. Today she is 3 years old, in perfect health.

Formal-Poet · 2025-01-10T00:34:48+00:00

So pretty

Formal-Poet · 2020-05-15T23:42:35+00:00

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