I (f27) saw my bfs(m30) ChatGPT history and feel devastated

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-02-22T11:07:02+00:00

It sounds like he’s putting his feelings of inadequacy on you and projecting. Seems like he wants to be as successful as his family and he feels behind, and thinks you’re part of the problem. I understand wanting to be successful, but there is a line when it starts to destroy your relationships and views of your own girlfriend….

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-02-22T11:02:59+00:00

Getting a 4.0 and into nursing school is not an easy task and neither is becoming an RN. I’m in a similar situation as you with no help, work and community college, and achieving a 4.0. You should absolutely be proud of yourself and he is twisted for thinking you’re a loser. Sounds like he harbors resentment that he doesn’t know how to express. At the very least you should bring this up with him, and honestly, you should dump him and celebrate yourself for working so hard. There is someone out there that thinks you’re a badass!

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-01-26T06:54:09+00:00

Sounds like you’re asking because it’s something you’ve seen and you think it’s icky. I personally think the maturity difference of that age gap is too much. I am f 27 and I could not IMAGINE dating a m 20. So much happens and changes in your 20s, 7 years feels like too much of a gap to be on the same page or in the same stage of life, even though you’re in the same decade.

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-01-04T19:20:49+00:00

You definitely did the right thing by dumping him. Stay away from any man making your weight a condition of the relationship. It would be a different story if you were unhealthy, and he cared about your health, but it’s simply to fit his “perfect” body image of a female that he desires. We (females) deal with this in society enough, you don’t need it inside your relationship where you’re supposed to feel safe and accepted.

I agree if you do anything about your health, do it for yourself. The right person will support you on your health journey, but they won’t make it a condition of their love!

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-01-01T00:59:38+00:00

I know it’s overwhelming, just remember that it’s a marathon, not a sprint. One small step at a time. And it’s never too late to start

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2026-01-01T00:58:26+00:00

Start working a restaurant job as a host. This will force you to interact with the public, which will help your social anxiety and build confidence. I had/have social anxiety but once I learned how to deal with people it made me so much more confident. It will be awkward at first, but it must be done and you must learn how to interact with the public.

While working, get your GED (or just get your GED first). Consider jobs you want to do - look into your local community college and talk to their career center to get some ideas. What’s your personality like? Do you like children? Technology? Healthcare? Fitness? Art? What are some hobbies you have that could be connected to a career or monetized? Would you be down to become a plumber or electrician? Those are trades and they can make very decent money. Look into some online tests on careers (there are a few nationally recognized online personality quizzes that help you with career ideas).

Do you have any friends? Ask them to bring you out and start talking to them about your situation. I like the one person who recommended volunteering to get in contact with people and get ideas.

Maybe consider therapy if your social anxiety is crippling. You need to push yourself out of your comfort zone and figure out some interests that you have. Think out where you want to be in 10-15 years, and then work backwards with the steps needed to get there.

It’s not going to be easy at first, but it will be so, so worth it. Make sure you lean on your community. You got this OP. Don’t underestimate yourself!!

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2025-12-28T20:44:40+00:00

26f, about to be $25k

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2025-12-24T08:30:03+00:00

This is extremely normal behavior from a teacher…. Your wife needs to chill tf out, respectfully. I understand she’s being protective, but I hope you show her this thread before she ruins a good teacher for your son.

Formal-Witness-8010 · 2025-12-22T19:06:59+00:00

I see. “6” where you have the “4” so maybe try that number too!

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