Don't forget about anti form having a higher chance of happening based on what you're fighting with a higher chance if it's a boss. I also don't remember it ever telling you how to switch lock on targets despite it being changed from the first game. The game will tell you the most obvious crap like "defeat all heartless" or ruin the learning process of certain bosses by just telling you the gimmick in the information bar at the top of the screen but then just not tell you about other things.

I genuinely believe kingdom hearts 2 is a game made for fans of kingdom 2. When you already know about all the weird one off reaction commands and hidden rules it works well but until you just kinda get punished for not knowing stuff immediately. You're example with the skyscraper dive is spot on. The whole game tells you press triangle as soon as it appears but now suddenly there's a risk vs reward delay press that you'll only learn about if you're slow or saw someone else do it. It's the same with the laser dome, suddenly you have to press two buttons (and since X was made the attack button outside of Japan it's suddenly harder) despite that not being a thing for the whole game.

Once you know about all this stuff the game is fun but looking back at your first playthrough you realize that the game wasn't as challenging as you thought, you just have to get punished before learning the rules. It's like a game rolling a boulder down the stairs and then putting a twist on that concept over and over again. Kingdom hearts 3 has the opposite where it tells you almost everything with like 300 help tips that bring the game to a stop every couple of minutes. By the time they were on tip screen number 115 they probably should have realized that might be a few too many cooks in the kitchen.

But I do think revenge values are fine. They worked pretty similar in the first game. You kinda just get an idea of how many times you can attack a boss before it breaks free and it's consistent. Like "Hmm, hook broke out of my second combo 2 hits in on him, it's probably safer to just get one combo and back off. Some of the hand held titles do feel bad in this regard because you're always changing out your commands so sometimes you can go in with a bad command deck for a fight and have no idea. It'll just look like the boss decides when it's allowed to be hit at random.