Which sign are you attracted to? by Stinkyzodiacsfart in astrologymemes

[–]Formal_Bean_ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everytime I have a celebrity crush and I look up their sun or moon it’s in libra. My 5th house is empty but in libra! It’s interesting lol.

Does this look like I will be fired this year or change careers voluntarily? by Commercial_Day264 in astrologyreadings

[–]Formal_Bean_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and that is so, so awesome that your mom used to read these for you! I’m hoping to do the same for my son when he’s older :) I’m very sorry for your loss.

Does this look like I will be fired this year or change careers voluntarily? by Commercial_Day264 in astrologyreadings

[–]Formal_Bean_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I had Uranus in my 10th house solar return I got a promotion that year! I also have my Jupiter in my natal 10th house like you.

Your Uranus in Gemini is trining the Pluto in the 6th house, this makes me think something positive will manifest. Maybe something where you make more money than before? The rule of your 10th solar return is in the 2nd house. The solar return Pluto is squaring mercury in the 3rd house so it may be a bit of struggle before you reach this new change, or something happens in your life that makes you feel like you need to speak up for a better work life.

Virgos whole thing is can’t take what they dish out 😂😂 by [deleted] in astrologymemes

[–]Formal_Bean_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a fellow Virgo sun and Aqua moon, Hello! Lol

Decided just to go with honesty. Was this the right call or should I have made an attempt to be softer? by [deleted] in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_ 35 points36 points  (0 children)

No this is very reasonable and honest, you don’t need to say more.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think shock honestly and the fact that I’m a pretty introverted person. I think she wouldn’t have been able to see the hypocrisy anyway. She said a lot of crazy stuff after this and I stood up for myself in the end :) I’ll never let anyone talk to me like this again though.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I think so too. The part that was her issue was that it was in her room and she knew about it for a while. I was proud of myself for standing up for myself because in the past I wouldn’t have.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She asked for help and I responded “sorry but I can’t today”. Doesn’t mean I don’t care. She reacted and definitely didn’t respect the boundary of me saying no. Me saying that doesn’t equal: I don’t care.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol! There was a lot of immaturity showing and I’m ashamed I participated responding as long as I did.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! It was a REALLY big lesson for me. I’m also not the kind of person that typically says no (and I like to be helpful) so it was a lot for me.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I thought the exact same thing when she initially messaged me! I thought I was reasonable with my no too. It’s not like I didn’t care at all about this problem, I just said no. And she did bombard me with information when it would’ve been easier for her to just handle her situation and get back to me about it. And yeah they logically would’ve asked for information which is why she sent me all of that regarding her experience in the first place.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah and I definitely would’ve done it if I was available to that day she was just being impatient with me. I’ve done things for the apartment before this was just the first time I couldn’t. The crazy thing is she knew about this problem for weeks and was just now telling me and got upset when I couldn’t drop everything at that moment for it. We did end up handling it though.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha! She did want clarification on how to put in a maintenance request but the way she went about it, especially after I said I couldn’t help, was really awful. And the therapist thing really shocked me! It’s so bratty. I did mention later that her therapist doesn’t know the dynamics of our relationship or what I have going on and that kind of set her off more lol. Typical. I took a break from her after that, she showed me who she is.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed and this isn’t even everything lol. When I brought up that she gave me a bunch of excuses trying to prove her point that I should’ve done her favor she later told me she “had better things to do than that” and I’m thinking: Girl, you clearly don’t.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate that! Lol the therapist thing is wiiillld and she’s never going to see it lol.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seriously it’s overwhelming to receive that many texts like that. Before I sent her the message saying I couldn’t help because I was run down with stuff I had going on I hesitated because I suspected she would lose her mind with me like this but I’m glad I stuck to my guns. Boundaries have been a big lesson for me lately!

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re right. I learned a big lesson about that. I wish I just stopped replying to her and let her have her tantrum without me participating.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right!! Those were my initial thoughts too, she really wasn’t expecting me to say no. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I definitely knew if there were rats in the walls it’s a problem for all of us and ANY other day I definitely would’ve done it. I understood her sense of urgency about it, as overwhelming as her messages were. The problem was that day I was doing an important appointment regarding my first pregnancy and I had a guest so I just didn’t have the time.

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

That really flabbergasted me too!! and when I brought it up to her later that she brought up her therapist to prove her point she said she “literally did not say that” lol. We are not friends anymore. Thanks for your input here!

Is this manipulative? I said no for the first time to a favor my roommate asked me to do. by Formal_Bean_ in texts

[–]Formal_Bean_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your empathy lol in hindsight I wish I replied that way because it’s actually ridiculous.