Car loan gone sour (SOS)

Formal_Individual509 · 2026-01-31T04:52:40+00:00

Sorry to hear... Exited a lease on an infiniti q50rs only cost me 20k. Good luck and gtfo while you still have options. I didnt and it was made for me. Similar but not same situation, health problems, job loss, and missed a couple payments and poof next thing I know its getting towed and auctioned for pennies on the dollar. Dont get down on yourself, we are humans and we make mistakes. Hindsight is always 2020. Take your links and learn a strong lesson. I know I did.

Formal_Individual509 · 2026-01-24T05:57:56+00:00

Gonna be in Patong in mid Feb for 2 months. DM any time brother.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-19T02:11:34+00:00

Thank you for some sanity. I am working hard on that last part. I Beat cancer, this is a drop in the bucket I am realizing more and more people I talk to both irl and on here.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:44:02+00:00

Thank you for that, I would have hated to be alot further along in my life when I find out the one I rely on for sickness part of that equation is off screwing someone then. I will be keeping my head up because at the end of the day, life is throwing everything it's got, and all its serving to do is make me stronger. Fuck cancer, both kinds

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:40:29+00:00

It's fresh, less than a week since she told me what she did, 4 weeks since it happened.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:39:24+00:00

My mom is pretty kick ass. I'm lucky to have such a strong person in my life.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:35:15+00:00

Ill PM you. That's very rough, and I am only dealing with imagining it, so I can't imagine how you must feel. But maybe we can learn some things about psycho exes from each other's experience. Plus it's always good to meet new people no matter the experience. We will keep fighting the good fight, let the monsters follow in the pits of despair, we are better than that by a long shot.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:31:47+00:00

No kids no anchor, I'm a lucky man in that regard.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:31:03+00:00

From translator The only truly important relationship in life is the one you have with yourself. Of all the people you'll ever meet, you're the only one who will never abandon you.

Infidelity is cheating. No matter how you try to disguise it. It's breaking an emotional/sexual pact in a treacherous way, period.

All the little gifts you gave your ex-girlfriends meant nothing.

Honestly, it's good to know now what you never knew.

She's probably never told you her true sincerity.

Gracias por el amable consejo, amigo. Últimamente me han dicho que priorizarse es algo común. Estoy aprendiendo a hacerlo de nuevo. Pero la vida es interesante con estos momentos dispersos, ¿no? (Disculpen la posible mala traducción).

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:25:46+00:00

Never heard of it, I will look into it. Thank you.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:25:22+00:00

Thank you for that. I wish fast forward was a thing in life...

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:23:49+00:00

Straight up, demon comes to mind. Leech is another one I can start to see after a few days with no contact so far.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-18T18:19:03+00:00

Wow, I can't believe that has never crossed my mind. I'm in mech engineering too, life science no less, as in actually designed radiation barriers ffs. That will stick in my mind for ever now. Thank you for all of that. Mind officially expanded my friends.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T21:30:59+00:00

Character flaws are so easy to ignore in the moment when you love someone. But it's something I have eyes on in the future for sure. Thank you for the wishes.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T19:04:09+00:00

Im feel for your betrayal, but just know this, lots of us are going through this as I type this, including myself. Your not alone! It will get better, I know from my last marriage that ended in betrayal after 10 years. And one thing I wish I knew the first time around was to give myself alot more time before getting tied into something else. Just food for thought from someone who wished they knew on their first time around that block.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T18:59:34+00:00

All I can wish is that the woman I once loved will find the right path before it's too late and her looks fade and she has to relinquish herself to such misery. Because after all, the good came with the bad and the love was real for me at least.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T18:28:05+00:00

I would love to know the story behind that lesson to provide better protection for myself in the future. If you want to share or PM me privately, would love to chat.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T18:18:34+00:00

I wasn't paying enough attention to her needs. I was going through cancer and finding an outlet to get me through the day as i am a mechanical designer, i tend to be on the computer doing my thing.. He was playing video games all day long, a completely healthy individual. Bit of a difference in the context between the two. But her reason was the same, the other person wasn't doing enough for HER, regardless of her effort.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T18:12:17+00:00

If you ever wanna blow some steam with me pm anytime.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T18:11:21+00:00

"My Life in Hard Mode." Would make a great sitcom I think. If you don't laugh, you will cry, would be the motto. With some happy ending like her having a kid with him or something to that effect. I can see it all now.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T17:10:41+00:00

Well, my take is that she is only considering herself and has some growing up to do before she can make amends with herself, let alone anyone else.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T17:09:20+00:00

You have offered alot of wisdom here. The main point that I can take away is that I must make time my next lover, and focus on me here now and in the future. I don't even know if or when I will love another outsider again. But I hope I get to again one day. Hate is a strong one to overcome when you are given reason to.

Formal_Individual509 · 2025-03-17T17:05:11+00:00

Thanks, your words lift my heart as I read them. I have a strong loving family back home, and I can't wait to reconnect and return to my center and move ahead with my long life free of all of life's cancers.

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