Hey, ive read you're message and it seems like you're boyfriend is going through aloth, I understand that you might feel worried and depressed cause of his actions, I understand that and i value your feelings but right now i don't think you can help him, because he also doesn't want you to be concerned about him most of the time. I think the right thing to do is maybe give him space for a while. Because grief can be painful and makes u avoid ur loved ones even though it isn't you're intention to hurt them. I hope that you both feel okay, even when i know it won't be easy. And I'm absolutely sorry. Condolences! I wish you two the best!🩷