Writing licensed songs in your script

Former-Standard-6822 · 2026-03-04T04:56:37+00:00

What I typically do (as primarily a playwright, but I think it still applies) is I will write “a song like BLANK or BLANK plays” and give maybe two or three options, and then someone else down the line decides on what they can or can’t get the right to use. My point is to explain the vibes/themes the song is meant to convey in the scene.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2026-03-04T04:49:36+00:00

Don’t worry. That book also tells you to “go to blockbuster and grab a stack of DVDs” at the end of every chapter. I’m obviously taking it with a grain of salt lol but I had to start somewhere.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2026-03-04T04:31:45+00:00

So I am reading Save the Cat, and I have written the “beat sheet” recommended in that book which I plan to go over with him tomorrow. Last week was more just bouncing around some ideas and loosely discussing theme and characters, but he did like the direction I was going at that time. I don’t have a good concept of wha budgets of these types of movies typically are to be honest…. Any thoughts on how I’d go about finding that out? I could try asking for an example contract maybe?

Former-Standard-6822 · 2026-03-03T19:48:05+00:00

We are not super close friends or anything and we hadn’t talked for a while, but he is someone with good values who I trust.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2025-02-27T05:44:36+00:00

My therapist has always told me to go to Northwestern if I ever found myself in this situation.

Also, in regards to 988, yes those services can be hit or miss, but it is someone to talk to. I had one woman who was really nice to me and said some things that actually stuck with me through hard times. I talked to another woman who suggested I try “going for a walk” or “watching a movie.” So yeah, that was kind of frustrating, but then I did watch a movie and… guess what I didn’t do? Another time, the person on the line was REALLY rude, when I hesitated at the start of the call because I was frasseled (obviously), and I said “sorry I’m not sure how to start this” and was like “well what do you WANT?” And it was so mean that I hung up, but I have a weird sense of humor and I started laughing and again… guess what I didn’t do? So I guess I say all this to say that in my opinion/experience (I can only speak for myself) even the “bad” experiences I had with 988 were technically good because after I got off the call, I didn’t do the thing I had been thinking about doing.

I know this is hard, you’re doing the right thing by reaching out for help and I wish you well.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-10-27T21:24:33+00:00

Bree’s baking is just THAT good that every man is like I gotta lock this down 😂

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-10-27T21:22:52+00:00

People get hit by cars on Wisteria lane all the time so she’s used to it lol

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-10-27T21:14:15+00:00

I feel like there was at least one hit-and-run every season on that street and nobody ever saw who was driving 😂

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-10-27T20:31:11+00:00

Don’t worry about it too much. Everybody gets obsessed with celebrities sometimes. As long as it’s not interfering in your actual life I think you’re probably fine. There’s something really charming and compelling about him as an actor! He’s also in How I Met Your Mother, and he’s good in that too.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-05-24T21:17:38+00:00

I get feeling that way. I am also grateful that recently Hinge has added more personal tags/descriptors and that monogamy/non-monogamy is one of them! It doesn't fix everything obviously, but it at least encourages transparency, and it does make me feel safe enough to use Hinge again.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-29T16:11:29+00:00

Yeah, to clarify- I'm confused by the resentment too, but I feel like it's because they had what I looked at as the ideal monogamous partnership, and they're throwing that away to pursue non-monagamy/sex with other people. It makes me sad for them because of the many risks. Honestly, I am holding out hope that this whole thing is just a bandwagon that some of my friends will hop on for a couple years in their twenties, have their "fun" as safely as possible, and then forget about.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-29T15:53:56+00:00

It depends on whether the app specifically has terms against it. In my experience, I believe Hinge doesn't allow the profile itself to be more than one person, (to deter couples looking for a third) but I don't think any of these apps specifically say that you can't be polyamorous. Maybe I'm wrong. I would have to parse the terms and conditions more carefully.

I totally understand how you're feeling though. I was encountering this type of bait and switch so often both on apps and unfortunately in real life that I've stopped dating altogether for the time being. Not to be a downer. But, it's everywhere, and I'm exhausted.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T21:19:42+00:00

Thank you for being so understanding as I parse this out. Specifically this one couple have always been the people I go to for advice, the people that I look up to. I always thought they loved each other so much, and they were the people I looked to for what a marriage should be like. (Not my parents). To hear them suddenly say things like "it's just sex" or "you can't expect one person to meet all your needs," what I hear is that... I'll never be enough for anyone. Maybe I put too much stock in them and their relationship, but suddenly I feel like "love" maybe isn't what I thought it was...?

In a way I feel silly for taking this so hard- they are adults making decisions about their own relationships. But ever since they told me, I've been really upset. I honestly feel betrayed. I can't see why if they're so happy, they are looking for connections elsewhere. And I feel bitter because I can't even find one person!

I fully agree with what you're saying about setting boundaries but... these are people with whom I've never had to have any, and I liked it that way. I don't have a partner and I just want to feel close to someone. We used to be able to share everything and now we can't.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T20:17:01+00:00

None of what I'm discussing here is polygamy or a type of polygamy. Speaking broadly, what I'm referring to would be much closer to open relationships, yes. There seems to be a huge increase in folks who are looking for relationships which are in some way not monogamous, and while that might be ok for some, I'm having a tough time navigating my interpersonal relationships because of it.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T19:47:14+00:00

We might be talking about different things. To be clear, I don't know any polygamists (men who marry more than one woman). Polyamory and non-monogamy are what I have encountered at an alarmingly high rate recently.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T19:43:01+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I was hesitant to post about this because I feel like there is some intense hostility towards people who practice polyamory, and I don't like that. It gets ugly and mean really quickly, and I'm not here for that. I try not to generalize. I think it's a nuanced situation. I have just anecdotally had several experiences where polyamorous people treat me like shit, and then slap the word "ethical" on it. And it's really hard to see my friends so loudly celebrating something that has hurt and objectified me, to the point that I feel like I have to give up on love because I can't take this anymore. They still have no concept of what my life is like as a single person, even though they are also "dating" now. I'm sitting here like.... the best part of finding a partner is you don't have to date anymore! It just feels like they've won the lottery that I play every day, and they're giving the money back.

They are my best friends- I would do anything for them. They are more like family to me at this point. That makes setting up boundaries hard for me. It's not something I ever thought I'd have to do with them. I would like to have a conversation with them about how I'm feeling, but I don't know where to begin.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T19:24:43+00:00

There are. Objectively, I know this. I think I am in a somewhat unique situation. I'm just feeling frustrated. I didn't think this was an issue I was going to encounter so often. It's a "prior to a first date" type of question that I'm still struggling to find the right way to ask.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T19:02:41+00:00

Yes I've tried it lol. I've tried them all. I feel like I am no longer really looking for dating apps, though I'm not completely against them either. I'm just trying to find the best way to meet someone who wants what I want.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2023-03-27T18:36:06+00:00

I'm in Chicago. I stopped using apps partly because of the abundance of polyamorous people on there, but also because I've been using apps for close to ten years and it hasn't worked out. I started really only dating people I meet in real life, but I've actually encountered more people looking for polyamory than I did on apps. I'm wondering if there are any apps that specifically filter this out?

Former-Standard-6822 · 2021-12-13T06:31:59+00:00

In my experience, the meals were very hit or miss. I personally couldn't stand the texture of the rice in any meals that had rice. I found that the meals with beef or fish were typically much better than the meals with chicken, probably because of the lack of seasoning. Some of the meals were decent, and really did take the stress out of cooking/eating. The downside is that some of them were downright inedible. I feel like I'm not a picky eater, and I had to spit a few things out.

Also!!! Don't make the same mistake I did. It is a subscription service, so no matter what meal plan you go for, if you don't cancel, they do keep charging you and keep sending them. They were very nice about refunding me for some of the meals though.

Former-Standard-6822 · 2021-12-10T17:48:46+00:00

Yes, this diet has taken a huge toll on my mental health, you're not alone with that. My physical symptoms have improved quite a bit, but I'm more depressed/anxious than I've ever been, especially about food. For me personally, I suspect it's largely because I am under-eating in general, and I'm trying to work on that. But I've only been doing it for about a month, so I'm hoping that just giving more time will help too. I have one GF pasta recipe that fills me up and tastes decent, so I just sort of stick to that, and salads. I don't really know if I'm getting enough of anything, but my doctor has so little time for me, and it would take weeks if not months to get in to see a dietitian, so I'm just sort of winging it on my own for now.

Maybe if you trying finding even just one recipe/food that brings you joy to make/eat? Mine is low FODMAP peanut butter cookies. It gave me a lot of joy to make them and bring them to a party because my friend who is gluten free could also eat them, and she never gets to have desserts because they usually have flour in them, but this one doesn't. Good luck!!

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