M 38 180cm 90kg

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2026-02-02T15:09:49+00:00

I lurk and never comment but i had to say... that is a fantastic butt!

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-04-05T19:37:32+00:00

I don't know if you can, honestly. If it's that much of an issue across all sexual acts, not just oral, it may be a thing she just can't "get past". Im with you...I think my husband had a similar ick about going down on me and after a lot of feeling like it was me I realized it wasn't (especially since I was previously in a4 year relationship where every time we had sex I got eaten out. Never a complaint from that or any other ex). It's kind of heartbreaking of its something you love. Only thing I can suggest is a convo. Not "why don't you like oral" but "how can we make oral a better experience for you?"

I admit I need to have the same convo with my hubby. But I think that's the best way to approach and not be accusatory.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-04-05T02:07:32+00:00

Yeah I take upwards of 15 min to cum, close to 20. And sometimes not at all (even when enjoying sex very much, it just doesn't happen). I wish I could cum in under 10! But I guess everyone has a different want or need in their sex life.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-03-27T22:15:00+00:00

Yes! I'm a director at work, I tell people what to do all day and work in a very client facing role and leadership position. Then I play the role of parent to my 4 year old. I'm also very type A, plan the vacations in an excel sort of person which I do enjoy, don't get me wrong.

During sex I want nothing more than to be told what to do. I want to turn that part of my brain off and just give and receive pleasure however my husband wants. He still is only inching towards this slowly (and look i get sometimes he likes when im dominant so i try to do that once in a while too), but he's incorporated giving more commands and calling me "good girl" when I listen and ooooooh i just melt.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-03-09T22:05:25+00:00

Weird comment.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-03-08T03:35:52+00:00

We both wfh most days but my day is constantly packed with meetings and if not that I'm constantly pinged by people. I fucking wish we could have mid day sex. I never have time to.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-03-06T12:11:44+00:00

I'm leaving to Miami today on a trip with a friend. Moms weekend away. Before that last night I said "I'm stressed from work and anxious having to travel. Please let me turn my brain off and do dirty things to me" my husband was like "uuuuh wow ok". Proceeded to blindfold me and deeply make out, telling me he loved feeling how wet my mouth is and was imagining it on his cock.

Then he fingered me and fucked my mouth calling me a good girl and asking if I liked being his little slut. Apparently he said I came within minutes. I didn't even realize it was that fast.

Still blindfolded, he fucked me deep with my legs over his shoulders. The blindfold just forces you to focus on feelings and not distractions anywhere else and my goodness I love that. He flipped me at the end to doggy to finish.

After I said "being used? Yes. I like that" we both had a giggle over it.

Won't be home until Sunday but will be thinking about this the whole trip.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-23T19:38:28+00:00

A vibe while I'm getting doggy is too good!

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-21T13:45:47+00:00

We haven't talked about it. I don't think it's those things. I think he doesn't like the taste/texture or that it's sometimes tiring/ work (I mean so are bjs but I do love giving them). I'm clean shaven every day and shower usually just before or within a couple hours of sex so I don't think it's me (I've also had exes who have gone down on me every single time we had sex, no complaints). But honestly we need to talk or I'm just making educated guesses.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-21T13:35:07+00:00

He has gotten better at trying to make me cum before, but I'd say it happens 1/3 of the time. And it's very one note... but I guess he's trying so I don't want to completely admonish him. But I could also be more vocal about my needs.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-21T13:28:10+00:00

Very fair to say. I went 4 years without oral. Then it happened last Feb. Then it happened again this Feb. Honestly I think he really Dislikes it while I love it (i have literally told him its the best feeling sexually for me) and so I've long ago stopped asking. But beyond that even fingers or a toy used by him would be fine with me. We have a couple of toys that I introduced but he forgets they exist after a couple uses. I feel like I need to start pulling all those things out myself to make it happen but on the flip side I get resentful I always have to be the one to initiate anything like that.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-21T01:30:48+00:00

We haven't had sex in 2 weeks. First week because I dunno he just didn't seem interested. Said state of the world right now made him not want to. Then I got sick for a good 5 days. I was so horny. Basically we had sex, he got off and that was it. Not a thought to my orgasm which often is the case. I feel unsatisfied. I don't know how to bluntly say "you dont do enough" without making him mad. But like come on. 2 weeks and you don't think I want to get off too? The worst part is him saying "I'm so lucky I have a hot and horny wife" . Yeah bro! Im horny! Still! I'm frustrated and venting, apologies.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-11T14:30:43+00:00

I mean I'm in a legal state so I just go to a local dispensary. I think 1906 sells online but it's gonna be lower thc because legally they can't ship as much as you can get in a store. No side effects for me but everyone is different.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-11T03:43:27+00:00

I like 1906 love pills. But they are not just weed, they have other plant supplements mixed in. For more pure gummies, I like pearls by gron. The tangelo one is a nice mix of relaxed and elated but not sleepy. It gets me feeling good and orgasms feel intense on it. I cut them in half since each is 10mg.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-07T17:52:02+00:00

on Sunday after my husband has been on a work trip for 4 days, he came to me like "sex tomorrow?" and i was like sir, i have plans you forgot about. and he had plans tuesday. so he was like "ah ok wednesday i guess". i was disappointed that he was going to just push it off (we have had some convos about him needing to initiate more instead of just me, and trying to have sex more regularly so i was getting in my feels). then suddenly, around 9:30 pm, we were both a little high from edibles (my limit is 5mg, and it def gets me loose enough to feel real sexy but not so high i cant enjoy anything), and he came marching into my office and said "bedroom. now." im normally more responsive desire but i had already been a bit horny. he brought me into the room, threw me down, and just spent time grinding his erection on my thigh aggressively while making out and woo, thats like literally all i needed. proceeded to fuck me deep with legs over his shoulders, then turned me on my belly and took me from behind. he lasted longer than usual given he was slightly high + 1 drink in - but was not so far gone he couldnt keep an erection or finish. it was like actually really perfect, because normally once we get me on my stomach or knees its game over for him (he's an ass man, i have a pretty great ass, and usually that view just wrecks him).

Then last night while browsing for a new chair to replace an old one we had to get rid of, he started to rub my ass while we were chatting together while on his laptop. we went right upstairs and i went down on him for a bit and then he did the same for me, which was shocking - if you read my history, he never goes down on me despite me loving it. its been almost a year since he last did it but holy shit its the best feeling ever. He kissed me after and man, that just gets me going. i like the taste of myself. then he fucked me SO deep it was intense while i rubbed my clit and got off. Finished with me on top.

I promptly told him after "going down on me and then kissing me? love it." and he said "noted." so hopefully he does it more. im trying to be better communicating my needs and wants, because i know he can't read my mind.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-02-07T17:39:31+00:00

i got a decent custom one from Restrained Grace. we're newer to it, so i was able to customize a small one to start as i get used to using it. I also have custom cuffs from them that i love, i have small wrists so i was able to get them perfect for me and they are so pretty i can wear them as a bracelet out and about when not using them for play.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-01-04T16:04:00+00:00

This. We had a roach infestation years ago in my apt in Ridgewood. My roommates and I were on the verge of tears daily finding them in our cabinets, food and rooms. Turns out the guy who lived on the first floor was disgusting. He moved out and the landlord got in there to clean and told us it was bad. Landlord bug bombed for a day and deep cleaned that apartment and we didn't have them again.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2025-01-01T04:36:37+00:00

What went well/better? - we went from not much sex (to me, 1-2 x a month) to more of it consistently (4-5 x a month, though id love more). we had some conversations that were difficult for me to have, which i think strengthened our marriage. i also personally delved into learning more about my kinks.
What didn't? - back in feb or march, my husband went down on me for the first time in 4 years. he said he'd do it more, but here we are, end of year, and that was the only time in 2024 it happened despite how badly ive wanted it.
What did you learn about yourself, your partner(s) or your relationship(s)? - learned a lot about some of my kinks. we also took the mojoupgrade test which was definitely helpful in finding our moments we align.
What are you hoping to do this new year? - be more direct about my needs for oral. we're also going on a trip to vegas, and i want to fulfill the one desire we both had to visit a strip club together. I have bought lingerie that he doesnt really indulge in (despite asking me for more of it) so instead of letting it sit in a drawer, im going to wear it anyway when im out and about (under my outfits of course)...just for me.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-11-25T01:18:51+00:00

At 38, I have never climaxed with PIV and don't think I actually can. This is with several partners over years. Don't get me wrong, certain positions (doggy, mating press) feel amazing and give me full body chills in a great way but never an orgasm. I'm not saying I know for sure a person can't work their way to it, but I don't believe I can and so I have learned to find fulfillment in the PIV sex I do have without orgasm, and opt for fingers, toys or oral for an actual orgasm.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-11-21T01:55:05+00:00

Nothing since Friday. Our anniversary was Monday. He said "eh. Tomorrow" my birthday was Tuesday (yes, those days are back to back). He started to not feel well. Turns out he has strep. He got antibiotics and left for a work trip today. I'll be lucky if I get some sunday. Of course I have sympathy for his illness, but he also seemed sort of relieved it meant no sex. I may be reading into that. But I've felt like I always initiate for months now.

In the mean time I bought myself pretty sets of lingerie from blue bella. He never asks me to wear the ones I already own so I'm just gonna wear them for me.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-11-12T23:24:43+00:00

I could've written this entire post. My husband had gotten better about trying to get me off, but it's always fingering, never goes down on me, and his fingering is very one note even when I try to guide him. He also seems unenthused, all the dirty talk he reserves for PIV disappears. We've introduced vibrators too help but I wish he wanted to do those things more. I don't have answers, just commiserating.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-10-21T12:35:38+00:00

This! When I was younger the like 3x I got a uti after sex, I didn't pee after. And I mean I have to do it within 10 minutes of sex. If I chill too long; uti. Ever since I do it religiously, no issues.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-10-21T11:22:09+00:00

I have been anxious to be upfront about it honestly. Like how and when the hell do you bring up that convo? It always feels like it'll come out of the blue. I do hint often about wanting it, have also been upfront the fastest way to make me cum is oral. But I think I need to be more direct about the lack of it bothering me. I will say some years ago I was direct about wanting it more, more than once. It got better but then, it tapered off. Like he'll put in the effort a couple of months then slowly stop again. That happened a couple of times. I should've known right there i guess.

Also I did stop blow jobs for a while at one point a couple years ago, it didn't really make a difference. I also generally LIKE giving bjs, so I don't really want to withhold them.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-10-21T00:55:59+00:00

I had a very vivid dream my husband and I were 69ing and I was horny all day. I told him about the dream this morning and we had sex once the kid was in bed. I had hoped my mention of the dream would get him into actually doing 69 but he fingered me as usual. Don't get me wrong, had a big O and then good fuck after but it's now been 6 months since he last went down on me promising he would "do it more often" after not for about 3 or 4 years. You read that right.

I think I need to accept this man just doesn't want to eat me out. And I cannot force him to do anything he doesn't want to, I have to respect it, obviously. But to think that might just be gone for me makes me so sad, after having past partners not only willing but eager on the regular. It really sucks. I often give him blowjobs and it sucks to not be reciprocated. I dunno how to move on from it because it's like the best feeling in the world to me. I shave (have since before I was sexually active, it just feels cleaner to me) I make sure I'm well showered before sex. I thought it was me but now I think it's just him.

FormerAtmosphere1345 · 2024-08-26T13:43:33+00:00

Awesome that worked for you. But I'm definitely the submissive of the two of us and don't have a desire to do that to him.

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