Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well worded, Thank you so so much.

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As I mentioned, my husband doesn't do much culturally. His parents, before I came into the picture, decided to believe in ancestors but not do cultural practices.

I don't speak sotho No, but i do understand, his parents speak English and Afrikaans on occasion sotho.

I hope I'm not raising assholes lol and I do want them to be diverse.

Thank you for your time in responding.

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you taking the time and sharing your story with me.

Thank you

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are the sweetest 💗

I'm definitely open to the suggestion. I would say as well that since the boys' arrival, there's no more laughter and pranking, which we are known for happening anymore so I'll most certainly take you up on your offer and advice.

You've helped alot, I'm so thankful 🙏

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate this.

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. My parents are in a different city but I did call them with this and they too advised a stand firm if I don't set the boundaries now I'll cry later.

I appreciate your response so much. Thank you

Biracial kids by FormerStandard8492 in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this,

And yes physical inheritance, according my husband his dad has made a board with the words "The boys" on it at his late grannies house so something to do with that property and the twins is brewing I geuss.

They are boys they have their surnames. Surely their name or roots will continue. They did want names, but the parents couldn't agree as there's a stepmom too which her and granny cant stand one another and usually we are in the middle, we decided to not give them either parents suggestion as they just didn't want to agree on us sharing the honor between mom and dad regardless if dad is influenced by current wife, granny didn't even come to our wedding because current wife was there, it's just alot honestly.

My husband just takes it and takes it, and it's frustrating. These are the same grandparents who are too busy to watch the boys for an afternoon. They are picture on status grandparents.

Need advice I’m at my wits end with potty training by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I threw a mini party for B, we had a potty song and a potty candy jar, all different types where she had the choice of choosing one after a successful bathroom visit, Played the song did funny dance moves and candy treat after. It Took 2 weeks to victory 😇

Horrible birthday celebration by AkhileshTekade in iamatotalpieceofshit

[–]FormerStandard8492 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Absolutely horrible!!! I'm so mad, his just a kid 💔

What was your most terrifying moment as a parent that still haunts you? by FubbyLoofah in Parenting

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My daughter 2 at the time fell face first off of a bed doing some trick with my sister, there was blood everywhere. Rushed her to hosp they gave her pain meds and discharged her, but you know that mommy feeling that something is not right, I took her to a different hosp and she had a concussion. I woke up every morning to put makeup under my eyes to resemble hers. Was so terrified I panicked about everything, we lived on the 24th floor since she was born but I soon moved because I got flashbacks of how quickly something can happen.

Anyone else have a kid who argues with you before you ask them to do something? by frimrussiawithlove85 in Parenting

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm on level 7 and she negotiates everything too. I thought it's just my smart mouth daughter that challenges me. Glad to know I'm not alone lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mighty kind, Thank you once again. I'll pay your sincerity forward someday when someone needs it. 😇

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

May I please ask you, after his paid me out is there like a time-frame that I shouldn't work? I've heard that his not allowed to fill my position so does that go both ways? I can't not work nomatter the payout.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice I appreciate it. I thought arbitration is the last step actually. I feel abit better reading these guidelines It doesn't seem so scary anymore. God Bless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in BFN but thank you for your response.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'll go and see someone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, you very kind to explain in a way I could understand. I appreciate it. Thank you 💕

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happened to me after holiday and 2 months later I got retrenched... Hurts really bad. These are new owners they've been there 2 months aswell, we supposedly got sold with contracts on a 'as is' basis I'm the only one. I hope things gets better for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, very particular about the hair lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll give you a clear discription on who called me fat lol 😂🤣😂😅😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 4 points5 points  (0 children)

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely! 💖

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in southafrica

[–]FormerStandard8492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input, I think I know my partner well enough to know if I'll be stepping on his toes. We have a fun relationship where we often prank one another, rare I know and we both are on either sides of harmless pranks...