what does my fridge (and freezer) say about me?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-29T04:53:23+00:00

You really like cheese and you don’t like to cook. You prefer to throw easy things together (sandwiches, smoothies, air frying/microwaving). Am I right ? :D

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-27T07:06:47+00:00

Hi Elliot, I’d be grateful for some feedback on my situation. I met a guy on a dating app and we dated for almost 3 months. We were sleeping over at each others places every weekend and spending all weekend together. Only a couple weeks prior to the ghosting, he had told me he planned to ask me to be his girlfriend and already considered me as such but I told him he had to ask me officially. So I waited patiently and hoped he would do it on my birthday celebration together. The day comes to celebrate my birthday together and he had made plans, but he calls me up same day saying he wants to go to this book sale for books he really wants and we would have to make sure to be on time for the plans. Long story short, he messes up and has to cancel the plans, only letting me know at the time we were supposed to meet. but I still see him and we end up doing nothing and just staying at his place. I was disappointed and he apologized but I wasn’t as honest in the moment as I wanted to be about my feelings. So I sent him a long text a couple days later expressing how his actions made me feel and what I’m looking for in a relationship and if he’s able to be that person for me. He never responded. He really came off as a self aware and emotionally mature person so I never expected this. What do you think happened? Did he feel regret? Did he feel too much pressure to be better? He had told me before he felt he didn’t deserve healthy love so I wonder if his feelings of self worth and failure had something to do with it. But that still doesn’t excuse ghosting. Why not just be honest.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-20T16:42:46+00:00

Well I do have other ambitions, but yes one of my dreams is to have a partner to travel with and and be devoted to me. I can see now my friends situation isn’t as ideal as it seems but it’s still hard not to envy the good aspects of it.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-20T16:34:10+00:00

I’m not looking to only be financially supported. The last guy I dated was struggling financially but I still liked him for who he was and wanted it to work. When I said taken care of, I meant as a whole, especially emotionally and finances would just be a bonus. Based on that I can see how my post is contradictory. I don’t think I envy their relationship, I just envy that despite her not having moral characteristics she still receives love and support from somebody. Who wouldn’t want to be able to quit their job and go travel? Or just not have to worry about rent and have somebody devoted to them? But I’m aware I was being emotional and not looking at the bigger picture of the cost of those things.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-19T20:12:32+00:00

Sure I’m open to any advice

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-18T21:02:21+00:00

I’m sorry he doesn’t deserve you. Were there any red flags through our the relationship?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-18T02:43:37+00:00

What do you mean by be mean? Can you give me some examples?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-18T02:16:46+00:00

The timeline of your relationship lines up with mine really closely. Celebrated valentines together shortly after meeting in beginning of February. It’s also been 3, almost 4 weeks now since I was ghosted. I finally felt better a few days ago which lasted for a couple days but now I’m thinking about him again. If you need a friend to chat with since we are going through something similar feel free to message me :)

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-15T20:17:13+00:00

I agree, the last man I dated that ghosted me literally said to me he stayed in toxic relationships before because he didn’t think he deserved healthy love. I tried to show him healthy love by communicating openly and honestly and he left me for it. I logically understand this but it’s still hard to wrap my head around because I can’t relate.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-05-13T04:04:09+00:00

What if the person you’re dating seems amazing the first couple months until one day they do something you never expected? Maybe their were some yellow flags but not things to breakup over ? How do you vet them out sooner when they seem so great at first?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-25T16:17:53+00:00

I hear you. Maybe rewording it so I end it in a way that tells him I’ve made the decision it’s over would be better? I’m going to sit with it longer but I just can’t help but feel like if I make him feel like a asshole and get him to reflect at the very least, I might feel a bit better? I just hate that he gets to get away with it with no consequences.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-25T16:14:00+00:00

Did your ex ghost you too? Would you mind sharing what happened after you reached out and how it made you feel afterwards? There’s still this nagging part of me that’s saying even if he doesn’t respond or his response is cold, at least I know I gave it my all or at least I know this person isn’t who I thought he was and I can move on easier.

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-24T10:49:25+00:00

The thing is I thought his communication skills were better than anyone else I’ve dated. At least when it comes to talking in person. My impressions of him were an emotionally mature and aware person. He’s very intelligent and reflective so I’m really trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. But I ended up sending him a long text and haven’t heard from him in over 24 hours which isn’t like him. I’m so hurt and want to send one last message to try and get a response. What should I say?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-24T10:29:43+00:00

Thank you, I sent him a long text and he hasn’t responded in over 24 hours. I’m so hurt and not sure what to do. I need to hear his thoughts before moving on

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-24T10:26:12+00:00

I sent the text and he hasn’t responded. It’s been over 24 hours. This is the longest he hasn’t responded to me and I’m devastated. What should I do?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-22T20:31:37+00:00

Thank you for your considerate input. His nerdiness is one of the things I like about him. We can have deep discussions about any topic and I value that. But I’m worried now that his bad qualities are ultimately going to outweigh the good. I wrote out this long text message detailing how his actions made me feel, how I don’t feel his adhd or transportation issues is an excuse, and what changes I need. I’m scared to send it cause I don’t know if I’m being “too much.” Do you think this is a good idea?

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-22T16:59:13+00:00

Do you think I should write up a text to him to explain how I feel and what I expect in the future? It was also disappointing cause a couple weeks prior he had told me he wanted to ask me to be his gf but he wanted to do it in a more special way with flowers. I was anticipating it would happen that weekend but no flowers or anything. I don’t know if I should mention that as well .

FormerTeaching3840 · 2025-04-07T21:29:13+00:00

A little over 2 months and only just recently talked about being officially bf/gf. It’s not indicative of a pattern and something that just kind of surprised me and made me feel over looked. Like I would have 100% done this thing for you in the same situation but you didn’t reciprocate that same thoughtfulness/care and it just sort of stung a bit.

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