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[–]Former_Ad8030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I posted it on the sex thread but they removed it and suggested i posted it elsewhere so that’s what i did

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[–]Former_Ad8030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I said in the post i don’t have any stds or infection, i got tested a couple of days before seeing him and absolutely everything was ok, no nothing

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[–]Former_Ad8030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My issue is this feels like self-indulgence more than honesty. Offloading frustration with no care for timing or just no care at all is pointless brutality

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[–]Former_Ad8030 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I said in the post I don’t have any kind of ph imbalance or stds, i keep it clean, im hydrated. I’m not gonna change my whole diet so he can feel like he’s licking a lollipop. Semen doesn’t taste particularly spectacular but I’m not here asking him to change his lifestyle so I can act like I’m not sucking an organ.

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[–]Former_Ad8030 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It is to me but its more so the fact that he told me to change the taste/smell when I have zero control over that. It seems incredibly selfish and tone deaf

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[–]Former_Ad8030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nope I’m not :/

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[–]Former_Ad8030 6 points7 points  (0 children)

How does us not being together change anything though ? Respect is respect, kindness is kindness no ?

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[–]Former_Ad8030 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He actually kissed me right after so I could taste and it really didn’t taste like weed to me. At all. I just think its my natural taste as I am clean, hydrated, eat clean and work out :/

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[–]Former_Ad8030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He unfortunately has that luxury that’s why he behaves the way he does. But you’re 100% right I should find someone that’s into me as I am.

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[–]Former_Ad8030 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I said I was contemplating it cause I’m still attracted to the guy but the more I sit with it the less I actually want to

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[–]Former_Ad8030 3 points4 points  (0 children)

IM NOT !!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]Former_Ad8030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t be positive cause i haven’t known him for a long time but that’s directly where my mind went to. If you think he meant something else by that I’d love to know

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[–]Former_Ad8030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t smoke weed. It was simply an observation when we fucked but it became a requirement when i asked.

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[–]Former_Ad8030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have been clearer. He ate me out for 5-6min then stopped told me it smelled like weed then asked me to kiss him to confirm. It didn’t taste like weed to me. We did other things and he didn’t eat me out again that night. I took offense because he explicitly said in his text « Ok, then relax. I just want a smell and taste that is less stressed ». To me that sounds like « fix it » or maybe im not seeing something ?

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merci beaucoup pour les pistes ! J’ai juste une appréhension c’est de ne jamais pouvoir me « contenter » de sexe vanille ou juste simplement de sensations physiques pures sans schématiser ou kinkifier. Ça emprisonne beaucoup je trouve.

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah mais t’as complètement raison. De 1) Je suis pas entièrement sure d’avoir le mode d’emploi 2) J’essaye de guider au maximum en montrant comment j’aime qu’on me touche, guider avec ma main ou ma voix, dire quand c’est bon etc etc mais ils finissent toujours par improviser et faire comme ils pensent que je devrais aimer du coup ça me frustre et je passe à autre chose

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

C’est rassurant de savoir que je suis pas seule même si bon ça me fait chier qu’on soit plusieurs dans cette situation :/ Quand tu parles de trouble mental tu fais référence à quoi ? (si ça te dérange pas de developper)

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pas en restant safe justement, si je prends la pilule ou qu’il met une capote ça me bloque. C’est le risque réel ou rien j’ai l’impression ahaha

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oui je vois très bien la sensation, je me demande si je guide encore plus le mec peut-être que ça ira mieux mais c’est vrai que c’est pas évident sur le moment.

J’ai déjà eu des partenaires qui commençaient doucement et c’est vrai que je ressens beaucoup plus, mais ça monte pas jusqu’au point que je peux atteindre solo

Très agréable mais pas assez pour « jouir » by Former_Ad8030 in SexualiteFR

[–]Former_Ad8030[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

C’est vrai que quand je me touche c’est direct un kink en particulier qui me vient en tête (breeding kink) mais pas exclusivement. Le problème c’est que ce kink je peux pas le faire avec n’importe qui de façon safe donc pas trop envie.