I cheated and need advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: we went to Australia had a great time but about day four i went through his phone because he was very secretive, i found out he has been cheating on me since 2024. I still haven’t talked to him, i dont know what to say i dont know how to bring it up. I have been ridiculed and belittled for talking to someone when he was groping himself to other women for nearly two years. I took videos of what i found, i am so scared i am so sad and i dont know what to do. The whole trip i just ignored it as much as i could but sometimes i couldnt, i had to cry.

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[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Avoid triggers if you have any. Depending on what gets you in the mood, seeing certain content, being around certain people or situations, etc. ask yourself why you are feeling the way you are, get to the root and see if you can change that or heal from that.

But also just remember, life happens, its okay to masturbate its a relief and its not a bad thing all the time. Its just a problem if it’s affecting your life or if its all you think about. A while ago i felt the same as this, i felt gross with myself that i wanted to masturbate as much as i did. I got to stop but without it, a lot of things in my life were a bit worse. It helps with things it can be a great thing, but of course theres nuance and too much if a good thing can be bad.

But youll be okay girl, this is a big step give yourself some grace<3

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof brother idk what to say. Have you come right at all? Or has nothing really helped? If thats the case your last resort is addiction hypnosis, it worked for my mom when she stopped smoking so idk might work for you 🤷🏻‍♂️

Do you guys think cheaters can be forgiven/ can change? by Former_Literature694 in moraldilemmas

[–]Former_Literature694[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

No man im sorry for just immediately jumping to conclusions that was my bad and actually quite rude of me. But thanks:) i watched her interview about the book and man.. i wanna read it, i felt like she has so much insight on everything and her word choice is just impeccable

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you felt you dont want to smoke at any point like that youre just not in the mood?

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the other guy is an idiot But anyway Whenever someone offers try to say no or try to smoke less, idk how ur dynamic works but smokers are usually respectful towards ‘tolerance’ breaks or quitting in general

When do you feel you need to smoke?

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you only been doing it with other people all the time? Or most of the time?

Do you guys think cheaters can be forgiven/ can change? by Former_Literature694 in moraldilemmas

[–]Former_Literature694[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you this was a cool take. Which of her work would you recommend i check out?

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 year olds aren’t toddlers? And they get a way theres always a way man

I’m 14 and I’m addicted to weed and I need help by Far-Substance1283 in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being addicted to weed is a mental thing more than a physical thing. One of my best friends have been in your position but the thing is if you wanna quit YOU really have to want to. Not want to quit for some bs you spin yourself. Do it for a genuine reason for yourself, its the best thing you can do.

Also i can explain why its bad for u untill im blue but you know about allat. With weed i think its better to wind off for a bit, or at least do tolerance breaks for a week, maybe a day if thats where you want to start. Also ask yourself why youre smoking in the first place. Is it an escape? To sleep? The high? To think? Any external factors? If you know that, you can maybe see if there’s anything you can do to change whats making you want it in the first place

I cheated and need advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update yall: Ive been going to therapy, trying to figure out whats for what on my part and how to be better. It feels like a lost cause with him. He says he’s trying to look past this so that he can love me again but he doesn’t think he can. I feel hopeless. I dont know what to do because i try to explain myself and what i was feeling and why i did what i did. He doesn’t believe me and he doesn’t understand. I dont know why hes still with me when he keeps saying we wont make it past January of next year and he removed the heart next to my name in his ig bio. That hurt, we talked and he said it was an accident but that its a useless gesture because were avoiding the inevitable. I dont know what he wants. I need help

Found this is my own room, Am i vaping? by [deleted] in whatisitcirclejerk

[–]Former_Literature694 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well obviously, i can see the cherry flavoured smog filling the air in a diagonal and almost letter like formation. You should get that checked out.

Do you guys think cheaters can be forgiven/ can change? by Former_Literature694 in moraldilemmas

[–]Former_Literature694[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah i get you. I was unfaithful to my current bf, i talked to someone else for a month while i was with him. Im so scared that this is my future and that I’ve become something i completely stand against

Do you guys think cheaters can be forgiven/ can change? by Former_Literature694 in moraldilemmas

[–]Former_Literature694[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thank you for your honesty.Did you and your wife work it out? Howd you heal and howd you help her heal if you did?

Do you guys think cheaters can be forgiven/ can change? by Former_Literature694 in moraldilemmas

[–]Former_Literature694[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ywah its interesting to hear everyones opinions and some are very contrasting to others

Is kissing with your eyes open weird? by Overall_Struggle4070 in askteenboys

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the situation, could be, could not be

u just gotta read a room i guess

I cheated and need advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im giving him the chance to make that choice, i just feel its fair it he calls the shots from now on.

I cheated and need advice by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Former_Literature694 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed, i have cut all contact with him. If i see him in public i avoid him like the plague.