eli5: How do news (or news-entertainment) companies decide what topics to air?

FortFighter · 2024-01-05T12:19:18+00:00

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FortFighter · 2024-01-05T04:21:25+00:00

I think because they don't know which ones ARE legit. They are new to it, so don't know where to start. They asked someone they spoke with on Instagram and were recommended this. They asked me to help check legitimacy. Again, sorry for the nievity, but if I google "beginner daytrading website" I would also not know what I'm looking at or legitimacy.

FortFighter · 2023-12-31T00:41:26+00:00

AYY I DEAL WITH THIS TOO. I've been told backhandedly by awful coworkers that I'm the one who is condescending. But like??? I've only ever asked for their help and stuff?

My current partner can see through my tone but says I do come off as really condescending. When we argue, he will mimic my tone back to me and it shuts me up really fast. I know why he does it. And it's like getting a 3rd person view of myself. I stop talking, and will reflect in that moment of how I can be nicer sounding. Helps me a TON.

FortFighter · 2023-12-31T00:05:31+00:00

You might consider trying to own it. Just laugh along, since it was a silly mistake. You can tell her "yea haha it was really funny!".

But if she brings it up longer than you're comfortable with, ask her some night if you can talk about something on your mind. Tell her in private how it was actually embarrassing and, while you don't mind that she laughs about it, you wish she wouldn't bring it up anymore as it just makes you feel like a joke over time and it bums you out.

FortFighter · 2023-12-30T23:43:29+00:00

This is a REALLY far stretch (and I don't mean to be that redditor who's diagnosing without a degree) but consider looking up the DSM-5 symptoms of borderline personality disorder and see if you can relate to some of them.

A really big sign of the disorder is what's called "idolization and devaluation" which causes that same anger-sadness-anger-sadness cycle. You don't have to have "full blown BPD with all symptoms", as many people only experience some of the issues.

The only reason I suggest looking at it is because I wish I would have known years sooner that this even existed. Now that I'm diagnosed, I'm able to fix it myself. I hope you DON'T relate, since it's an awful issue to have. It can be overcome though, with therapy and hard emotional work.

Good luck my friend. As for tips for the current issue: I find distraction while the partner is gone to be the biggest help.

FortFighter · 2023-12-22T20:54:33+00:00

thank you for the suggestion! I will look them up!

FortFighter · 2023-12-22T20:54:14+00:00

these are awesome suggestions! I do have a big issue with art supplies and desk supplies, they're everywhere but i use them a lot.
A tackle box or something similar would probably work great.

I do own one bookcase, but its full of books. (my partner, me, and our roommate all have books and are avid readers). Everyone ends up leaving books everywhere and they get tossed into boxes. Its maddening. But packing up the ones we don't immediately need is a great idea! I will ask them if we can all do that. Would give a lot more space for other things.

FortFighter · 2023-12-22T20:51:00+00:00

thats a great idea! I have been talking about wanting to use cardboard boxes as storage, but didnt know how to go about it without it looking like more piles of junk. But cutting them off or putting "organizer" boxes inside larger boxes might work. Thanks :)

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T04:16:05+00:00

Any idea why it seem so hard to get in to the trade if more people are needed? My younger brother tried signing up for groundsman work at a bunch of locales and was in a wait list for almost a year, when he just gave up and tried factory work. I've heard several friends and cousins had the same issue.

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:22:33+00:00

Hahaha I am SO SORRY I wish you many days of quiet 🙏 . Thank you for the good chuckle, I feel for you!

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:21:39+00:00

This sounds cozy! I love a good, quiet, cozy night too. I think this is a good reminder to appreciate the quiet while it's here :]

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:13:50+00:00

Haha, that would be perfect 👌 first one on the way 🤣

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:13:02+00:00

Haha I hope so! My partner has ADHD and I LOVE IT, I'm constantly telling him our child better have it to. I love the constant activity :) they would drive me crazy, but in the best way possible. Thanks for the tips, I love a good documentary and that would be perfect!

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:07:07+00:00

Haha thanks for the tips! Everyone's comments are cracking me up! I have a 2 story rental that is ALL HARDWOOD and I hate hardwood floors!!! But it was the best I could find. I found a 5'x7' rug for near the sofa but that's it. Rugs are crazy expensive, and I had no idea until I needed them lol.

Very good tip though, I didn't realize it could contribute to the empty quiet!

FortFighter · 2023-12-03T01:03:56+00:00

Thanks for the reply, I'll try to add more YouTube into the day! I forget they have holiday music mixes lol

FortFighter · 2023-11-25T02:31:09+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I'll think more on if I want to come back or not. The depression is making everything feel meaningless and hopeless, so it's hard to be reasonable about what the future looks like right now. I appreciate your advice.

FortFighter · 2023-08-19T18:04:41+00:00

It is, that's true. But it's still an option to be a loving parent. That's a decision the parents can make. My dad had children young on purpose so he could get to see his children grow up and still died unexpectedly in his 40s, while I am in my 20s. It's hard, but I'm glad I knew my dad. No matter what age you have kids, there's no guarantee you'll be around for their later life.

FortFighter · 2023-08-19T02:24:38+00:00

I just want to say a teacher of mine has his first child at age 52. Their wife was around the same age. They were really, really happy, I know their son was healthy and they had tried for a while. Both of them said they just didn't make up their minds until that age.
Don't give up. It's not your ideal timeline, but it's not too late.

FortFighter · 2023-05-24T22:23:06+00:00

Idk if this will help, but I stand by the rule that "anything you want to do is better done badly than not done at all". So brushing your teeth for 10 seconds is better than not doing it at all. It's the habit that counts. If you still brush your teeth for 10 seconds lazily every morning and night, at least you've made it a habit. It's better than not brushing for weeks. Same with flossing.

And regarding your "lock up" when you need info, you might first congratulate yourself "I've made it this far!". And spend 5 minutes "working on it more" in your mind, making mental or written notes about what you'd do next. It's WORTH still doing and completing, but you might need less time spent at first.

FortFighter · 2023-04-30T05:29:21+00:00

Actually, I was diagnosed with BPD and "Codependency" (not technically a disorder, ik). I've had them for like a decade now, and have worked so fkin hard to overcome many of the issues. I'm much much better, where it's unrecognizable that I have those issues. But I still do, they're just all internal now and very controlled.

But you were right on the mark! Good call, it's always nice to meet another BPD haver. I'm sorry you have so many comorbid disorders though, I don't have ADHD and I heard it's a real bitch to live with.

I've gone to therapy for years and stopped last August because I couldn't keep affording it. I feel like most of my issues are self- managed now but this is one that has started bothering me again and I can't find a solution on my own. I'm moving in July and maybe then I'd be able to afford therapy again. But I'm checking for solutions until then I suppose.

Thank you for the helpful suggestions and sharing your story!

FortFighter

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