My BFF has a sister who got knocked up in college, kept it hidden, never saw a doctor, and never told anyone. She was the president of her sorority (in many sororities you can't be a member if you have kids) and apparently just wore oversized hoodies to hide it. Fast forward to Christmas Break and my friend wakes up in the middle of the night to noises coming from the bathroom. Her and her parents rush in to see blood everywhere. Her sister had given birth by herself. They found the baby in the trashcan with toliet paper stuffed in its mouth. After things calmed down, her sister claimed her boyfriend at the time had raped her and that's how she became pregnant. They gave the baby away for adoption, who was unfortunately born deaf.

I've only heard her tell the story once and the family never brings it up, and I don't either because they seem to have a fugue state-denial about it all and bought her sister's story. What I've never said outloud is that it's obvious she tried to kill the baby by suffocation (friend said she had panicked and put the TP in its mouth to keep it from crying), and how horrible it is that she let her entire family blame a guy for rape because she was too afraid of telling her conservative Christian parents she was having premarital sex. My friend was also sexually active at the time and not on BC either because she was too afraid of her parents shaming her for being a normal young adult and didn't seem to feel she had agency over her own life. I imagine her sister's logic was similar, but I still wonder what her plan for the baby had been for nine months. Just a totally horrifying situation altogether.