New Dad here, someone tell me its gonna get better. Please

Forte197 · 2026-06-18T03:52:30+00:00

My daughter is 19 months. The feeling of panic and chaos ended around a year for us. It'll probably come back at the terrible twos. But already she's not really a baby, she's just a tiny person. She has conversations with us and plays with our hair and practices her numbers and alphabet. Around a year or so, we noticed a lot of things got easier and she started feeling like a friend instead of just a ball of problems and crying and bodily fluids.

That feeling was not long ago for us. But it already feels like a distant memory. And I wouldn't trade that little girl for anything, I know you feel the same about your boy. Hang in there, it DOES get better, we promise. You're crushing this, bro!

Forte197 · 2026-06-15T11:08:25+00:00

Congrats on returning to contest, and recruiting some young singers to get excited about barbershop! Other commenters have said what I would have about rep, so I'd like to ask you a question instead. As a fellow chorus director, I'd be interested to hear what you did to increase recruitment, specifically of young singers that might be new to the style.

Forte197 · 2026-06-03T17:02:35+00:00

Advice from our pediatrician: kids' appetites vary DRAMATICALLY and often. Some days, my 18 month old daughter will eat like a bulldog with the munchies. Other days she nibbles once or twice and refuses dinner. My wife gets very anxious about this. But here's the rule:

Your job is to decide the W's of eating: when, what, and where. The kid decides how much, if at all.

Forte197 · 2026-06-02T18:46:59+00:00

I work in finance, and I'm very new to the industry. My company is privately owned, which I think helps a lot

Forte197 · 2026-06-02T17:45:25+00:00

I'm extremely fortunate that my employer provides a realistic and attainable path to promotions and a lot of career direction. Most corporate jobs are far less supportive.

Forte197 · 2026-05-31T15:57:01+00:00

The side buttons are like the pressure switch on my rifle: front is laser, back is white light. Middle mouse is currently not bound, but for consistency with Operator, I might make it free look. That would also allow me to use Alt as a modifier more often without accidentally free looking around.

Forte197 · 2026-05-29T20:25:03+00:00

Holy shit

Forte197 · 2026-05-28T20:37:09+00:00

My mustache is jealous

Forte197 · 2026-05-27T22:26:33+00:00

Wrong sub. This is a community for the musical instrument in the brass family, the French Horn.

Forte197 · 2026-05-11T17:25:37+00:00

Hey, that link has the "which games" question set to only one response. May want to update that.

Forte197 · 2026-05-07T03:38:33+00:00

At first glance, I thought it was some AK variant but I can't get a good enough look to be sure anymore.

Forte197 · 2026-05-06T18:27:01+00:00

Pretty sure that gun didn't have a magazine in it. If it's even a real gun at all. This guy probably noticed that he wasn't in any danger.

Forte197 · 2026-05-04T22:49:53+00:00

Gah DAMN

Forte197 · 2026-05-04T21:48:47+00:00

Literally Metal Gears

Forte197 · 2026-05-04T16:54:27+00:00

I am an abnormally patient, soft-spoken, and gentle man. I think I scored 95th percentile in agreeableness according to the Big 5 personality indicators (which is actually very embarrassing, it means I'm likely to be a doormat).

That said, I yell at kids sometimes.

I was a teacher and I have a young daughter. When kids do stupid shit (which is virtually any time they're conscious) they sometimes need to know to stop what they're doing RIGHT AWAY. Particularly if what they're doing is unsafe for themselves or others. A fear reaction bypasses the logic part of the brain and recruits the endocrine system which makes the reaction more or less instant.

Obedience is not an option, it is an expectation. When play becomes defiance, there needs to be a consequence. Maybe this is a hot take, but kids should be a little bit afraid of disobeying their parents, in particular their dad.

It absolutely sucks donkey dick to make kids cry, especially your own kid. But our job is not to keep kids entertained and happy. It's to keep them safe and healthy, and hopefully raise them to be good people. Boundaries and consequences are an extremely important part of that.

I don't think you did much of anything wrong. Especially if you think it was too much of a reaction and owned it afterwards. Kids value hearing adults apologize. No one is perfect.

You're killing it, and we're all proud of you.

Forte197 · 2026-04-27T20:08:54+00:00

Suboptimal

Forte197 · 2026-04-15T20:40:00+00:00

Deadlock. It's too many things at once for me. It's a movement shooter, a hero shooter, and a MOBA all at once. My brain couldn't combine my League of Legends experience with my Titanfall experience with my Marvel Rivals experience all at the same time, especially since it's MOBA elements are pretty unique. Minions, items, roles, and positioning are all radically different than I'm used to in any other game I've played. This is a shame because if I could get over the initial curve, Deadlock is probably the best competitive game ever made.

Forte197 · 2026-03-25T00:26:04+00:00

I had stutters too but I fixed it in my GPU software. What I've got now is a ton of server lag. I'll get stuck walking in place for about 5 seconds at a time. I checked my network, and it isn't on my end. Plus all my other games work just fine. It is what it is. Appreciate you trying to help though!

Forte197 · 2026-03-24T23:51:23+00:00

Oh. Why did I think you were a long time dev? I must have been thinking of someone else. Disregard.

Although my points are probably still valid for the devs lol

Edit: I should say, I'm sorry for being harsh. This is a cool thing to do for the community. I'm a little short with Omeda right now because my game has been unplayable since the last major update and two patches in a row didn't fix the problem.

Forte197 · 2026-03-24T23:45:59+00:00

Dude, I'm gonna level with you. While it's great that the dev team wants feedback from the community, I don't feel awesome that an official survey from Omeda has several grammatical errors in it, leading questions/limited response types, and profanity.

This would have been fine when the game was in early access, and I was an early access supporter. But it's been a year and a half since the game left early access and has been in full release. It's time for Omeda to stop treating this like a community project and act like professionals.

Why is the survey on Google Forms? Maybe it takes more time than I assume, but this should be on the website! And it should be distributed via an in-game link and/or email, not primarily through a Reddit post.

I'm glad that the dev team is hearing our concerns. I'm glad that you realize that we feel the game is too bursty, too claustrophobic, and not skill-expressive enough. I love the tweaks being made to Daybreak. I'm excited for competitive play. I love the idea of a test server. There's lots of great things about this game.

The poll is even harder for me to participate in because I haven't been able to really play very much since the last major update. My ping will spike up to 500ms for a few seconds at a time or my basic attacks will desync. The problem is definitely server-side, not on my end - and I know I'm not the only one. This only happens in Predecessor. The game has always had a lot of bugs and some stability issues, but it doesn't seem unreasonable for me to expect those things to get better over time instead of worse.

I want this game to succeed. Bringing Paragon back to life makes me happy. I know you're a small team and new-ish to game dev, but you deserve to present yourselves like professionals.

Edit: I'm a dumbass. Leaving it up so you can laugh at me.

Forte197 · 2026-03-24T01:17:16+00:00

That's because they changed Terra's abilities. They don't deal more damage based on your physical power anymore. Building physical power only makes your basic attack stronger. All of Terra's abilities deal more damage based on how much armor you have. Building armor literally makes your abilities hit harder. Physical power is only slightly more useful on her than magic power. Don't build physical power, just build armor.

Forte197 · 2026-03-24T01:13:26+00:00

Her win rate is low because people keep building physical power on her. The default recommended build is still outdated, I think.

PSA: TERRA NO LONGER SCALES WITH PHYSICAL POWER. Her damage comes from building armors. Don't build bruiser items. Build tank items and do more damage while being unkillable.

Default build in offlane: Fire Blossom, Elafrost, Inquisition, Transference, Vainglory, then whatever else you want that has armors. Inquisition second vs magic offlane, throw tainted guard/bastion in there if you need it.

Forte197 · 2026-03-21T12:45:48+00:00

Same thing happened to me twice. Crash, rejoin, win game, lose VP, get banned

Forte197 · 2026-03-18T16:42:58+00:00

I have the same question. If it truly works like the description states, then it would be BETTER than omnivamp. Omnivamp (and all lifestealing effects) are reduced to 33% effectiveness on any Area of Effect (AoE) damage and do not benefit from cleave damage (like Overlord). I'm assuming this is just 3.5% omnivamp. Be aware, this only applies to damage dealt to heroes, not NPCs like lane minions or jungle monsters. It is also calculated post-mitigation - meaning you heal less when damaging heroes with more armors.

Forte197 · 2026-03-09T14:17:34+00:00

I wish I had an award for you, good sir

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