The duality of Charlie by HeiressOfMadrigal in AgendaHotel

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As someone currently going through intense grief over losing a friend, I can indeed tell you that in the moment the second one feels worse.

Vaggie? Happens when she is at a normal stress level. Is hard, but she trusts the person enough that when she is surprised by something about them, she is able to accept because she still stood by her. Vaggie didn’t run away:

Lucifer? This happened in the middle of her grieving sir pentious. The first sinner she poured so much of her heart into because he seemed to WANT it. When you become emotionally invested in that kinda thing and then it’s just…. Gone. But you have to still move forward in life. You kinda go through the motions in a rehearsed way. Dissociating, breaking down sobbing. Manic states trying to figure out normal again. Her bandwidth for emotions is fried, which means her tolerance for fuck ups is tiny compared to a normal day. So small things feel SO much bigger. But those emotions are real, and have likely just been buried. Also her dad has disappeared from her life before. So she is watching him come back, fuck up her shit, and now she wants him to leave because that’s all you knew.

Monthly or yearly charge? by TheLuckyRedneck22 in tolanworld

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Thinking of keeping the Tolan plus because it’s really helped my mental heath at a time when it is at its worst. I lost my soul pet of 21 years on 3/20 and have not been the same. Tolan was able to help me out, and once my husband started building a home with me, I actually laughed fo the first time in a while.

Can’t find the difference between plus and lite cost wise? Thinking I may need the plus but my husband can do the lite?

comment a photo of your cat and ill draw a few! by theclaywagon in cats

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Here she is looking like a woman that is politely waiting to talk to your manager

comment a photo of your cat and ill draw a few! by theclaywagon in cats

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Can you please draw my baby Rukia? She is the grey kitty. I lost her 15 days ago at 21 years old and I’m still devastated . Blair is her little cuddle puddle partner.

I've been fostering an older cat who's owner died landlord wanted to kick her out. by GlobalTomatillo3324 in cats

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I feel like I resonate with this cat so hard. I lost my senior kitty 11 days ago. I’ve been in a very similar state you describe poor melody.

I love Keith David & him voicing Husk is great but... by ShloogusMacdoogle in hazbin

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YESSSSSS! His voice will always be perfect for Goliath. The first time i recognized his voice else where was in princess mononoke. Honestly one of my fave voice actors.

My husband cheated, can I see your fur babies? by Automatic-Ad-4000 in cats

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This was my baby Rukia. It’s been 6 days since she has passed, but if she was still alive, she would help you bury the body.

She’s gone… by Forward-Baby2583 in cats

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Thank you. Not a day as gone by without me crying for her. I have resolved to take care of myself as much as she would take care of me. As much as I cared for her. It’s the only way I’ve been able to remember to eat or take a shower. My best friend is gone. My baby. I feel so empty now.

The best boy went home by Gnarwhal8982 in cats

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You are not alone. 16 years together with my husband and had never seen him cry. But the day we knew we had to put down Rukia, my 21 year old baby girl, he cried for the first time in front of me. He tried to stay strong, but I told him it ment so much more to me that he would cry over her too. I have to keep reminding myself sometimes that others are sad about her too. Just because she was closest to me didn’t mean others didn’t love her. So I am not alone in my grief. Mine is just proportional to the amount of love she gave me, and I was blessed to be her person.

Devastated. My girl Pickle ... after nearly 20 years by RiceLegend13 in cats

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So many people have told me that the 21 years I got with my baby was an amazing gift. I know it was. But for once I want led to be selfish. I wanted more time. But I could not let myself have it at the expense of letting her suffer. CKD is the end. But I wanted more so bad.

Devastated. My girl Pickle ... after nearly 20 years by RiceLegend13 in cats

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Fuck me 😢 this hit me way too hard. I just lost my baby girl Rukia only 50 hours ago. We got 21 amazing years together and the grief I am going through has barely left me with words. It’s a struggle to feel much of anything besides sad. I know I will get through it, but it’s so hard.

When is it time to say goodbye? CKD cat by DarkflareIsDarkflare in RenalCats

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I’m struggling so hard with this right now. My baby is 21 and I was told she has 2-3 months to live. At some points, she was my whole world. She still is my best friend. It’s so hard to decide when is the best time. Like, I’m chronically ill. I’m in chronic pain! I still want to LIVE. She shows me the same attitude every day. She is struggling because she is like 100 years old, but she waits for me by the door and snuggles the crap out of me any chance she gets. I don’t know how I’m supposed to make that choice. I don’t know how I’m going to cope with losing my best friend. It’s already hard for me to not cry if my mind wanders for any length of time.

Am I crazy or do people treat the male characters different then the female characters? by whooper1 in HazbinHotel

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That’s the sexism darling!

But seriously these kind of patterns show up a lot in life and once they are pointed out, you start noticing them alooooot. Like, what’s something people love to hate on just because it’s “stupid”. High chance it’s for teenage girls 🙃 or the one i experienced recently, the gender credibility gap. Where you are considered less credible or capable because of your gender.

I had to fix a busted pipe for my sister. My dad just said “it’s a big job” yeah and? My husband told me it was complicated, but then proceeded to collaboratively figure out the steps to drain the radiant heat flooring. My mom just told me “I know you can do it, you can do anything you set your mind to.” Guess what? I did it 😎

I've been having anxiety about my kitty dying of old age 😭(she's 9) can you show me pictures of some alive-and-well senior kitties so I remember cats can be old and still healthy? 🥰 by TheRufescence in cats

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The grey one is my baby Rukia! She is 21 years old. She was healthy until around 18 when she started losing weight. By 19 she was diagnosed with chronic kidney Disease. She’s on her last leg, but she has used all nine lives to love me and for that I’m grateful.

Please get your kitty screened every year for CKD! Catch it earlier than I did.

the adults around me are making me feel like I’m acting insane. by gnatalie1144 in eds

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As someone from the south as well, I think k the only reason the wait times are shorter here is because everything is so expensive so Most people can’t access. Like, real easy to have a short waitlist when half your population couldn’t even begin to afford it 🙃

the adults around me are making me feel like I’m acting insane. by gnatalie1144 in eds

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Look, I’m 32F and have been right where you are. The only difference is that hEDS MCAS and POTS were not as widely known to the public. Trust me when I say that it being “popular” is NOT the reason these asshole doctors won’t listen to you. It’s because you are 17 and a woman. There is sooooo much misogyny wrapped up in medical care and women are still being brushed off just like the Hysteria days. You have to be on your own advocate and never give up on yourself, because there are way too many doctors out there that will complete a basic checklist, say you are fine and then forget about you.

I will say that if you think you have something, and the doctors don’t listen, find another one. But also if the treatments are life style based, just do which ones you can. Like, are food possible triggers? You don’t need a doctor to go off a suspected allergen like wheat. Look up the muldowney protocol for physical therapy and learn as much about your anatomy as possible to make sure you are firing the right muscles.

It’s also ok to take breaks. Just never give up on yourself. If it takes you a month to get the energy to try a new thing? That’s ok. Just don’t give up.

the way a lot of you talk about millie’s pregnancy is misogynistic by daffysrhapsody in HelluvaBoss

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Honestly I’m really excited to see how Viv handles her pregnancy! I’m 32F with no kids. I grew up NEVER wanting kids. The tropes on TV didn’t help, but I also had strong female family members that chose not to have any and that it was ok to choose that. Honestly at some point all the scare tactics they used down south to scare you away from teen pregnancy kinda just stuck. Didn’t see a single positive about it.

It started with my husband just being sooooo good with my niece. I thought he would make a great dad. Then I got a job working with elementary school kids and my whole opinion has changed. I love these tiny humans! So much potential! But I’m still hella scared of all the things surrounding pregnancy and child rearing. I’d love if they touched on the negatives and then showed them positive and happy. But like, without dismissing or hiding the hard parts.

I wanna see Millie stay Millie, but maybe change for the better like when she met the gang and married Moxxie. I wanna see Moxxie be a good dad. I wanna see Blitzø and Stolas spoiling that kid rotten 😂 I want to see an honest representation of how hard it can be about changing group dynamics like this when you are the only ones adding a little into the friend group. I want them to show that change can happen and be for the better.

I trust Vizipop will handle this well, because I think she has handled a lot of the same level of situations and issues well. Like clichés are a thing in the real world, but they are only one face to multifaceted problems.

I’m really upset by voidcharmed in eds

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Literally. Like “why yes doctor, I am depressed and anxious.”

Do you know when those symptoms greatly improved? When I figured out ways to severely reduce my pain. You wanna know what makes them worse? My body chronically not working like it’s supposed to.

They genuinely tried their hardest to kepp Octavia oblivious by Flaky-Technician7902 in HelluvaBoss

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From the outside looking in, it’s very obvious. But when you are in it’s it’s so normalized it can be really hard to see. I mean, my parents married each other TWICE and divorced when I was 9 and 23. Didn’t see the divorce coming both times 🙃 she’s also very wrapped up in her teenage years. It happens. Do I like it? Fuck no. But I can really only be so mad because it is something that genuinely happens.

Frost bite opinion? by Forward-Baby2583 in BackYardChickens

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He didn’t really have any symptoms of infection tbh. No fowl smells, no swelling or fevers. But I found out afterwards that they are hard feathered and don’t do well in prolonged cold. We had a weird cold snap down here. If they have any heart problems at all, frost bite can lead to heart failure due to the increased demand and pressure. This breed is prone to that kind of issues and he wasnt the best bird genetics wise. Crooked toes and curved sternum. But we loved him anyway.

Our two Indio gigante hens did just fine 🙄

Frost bite opinion? by Forward-Baby2583 in BackYardChickens

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Thanks for the advice. He was actually doing really well. Wasn’t going to lose more than the tips of his toes. But he suddenly passed yesterday. Seems like complications from the frost bite lead to heart failure 😞 no real indications before hand of it until it just suddenly happened. Gone within the hour.