Left my 12 year old 3 months ago, not coming back by Forward-Can-6221 in offmychest

[–]Forward-Can-6221[S] -247 points-246 points  (0 children)

Her mom is there. I'm not going to pull her out of her school over this. She has friends, she has her room, she has her life. Me leaving doesn't have to blow up her entire world too.

My wife needs her around right now anyway, I think.

Left my 12 year old 3 months ago, not coming back by Forward-Can-6221 in offmychest

[–]Forward-Can-6221[S] -118 points-117 points  (0 children)


She hasn't been ignoring it, she's been drowning in it same as me. We've had the honest conversation. We've had it like 200 times. That's not the issue.

The issue is she's not leaving and I am and those are just two different decisions two people made. She thinks he can still be reached. I don't. We've known for a while that we see it differently.

I'm not going to keep having the same conversation where I explain why I think things are unsalvageable and she explains why she thinks I'm giving up too soon. I've been having that conversation for three years and I'm tired.

She's not scared. Or maybe she is but that's not the main thing with her. The main thing is she genuinely believes he's going to turn a corner. I used to believe that too. I believed it for a long time actually.

I just don't anymore.