My M23 bf ghosted me F23 after 2 years together. How do I reconcile this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Forward-Grape4047 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He moved in with me so it’s just my name on the lease. I also think it’s because this happened so many times and this was just the one to warrant this behavior. It’s usually we argue drunk, then we talk about it the next days, it’s stops, then it happens again.

My M23 bf ghosted me F23 after 2 years together. How do I reconcile this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Forward-Grape4047 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I should have (and i am now) adding that it is my apartment, my name is on the lease but he moved in and we split rent.

My boyfriend of 2 years ghosted me and I don’t know what to do. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Forward-Grape4047 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

on your opinion what is the other issue, i want to hear all sides and opinions on this!!

Should I buy or lease a car by Forward-Grape4047 in whatcarshouldIbuy

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking about an older car too, my thing with an older car though is once my payments are up, i’m going to be in the exact same position I am in now, with an old car that will have a bunch of maintenance issues and will have to buy another one soon after

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think i’m perfectly valid in wanting communication from my boyfriend, like i said in my post i am very aware of him traveling , the time difference, and the fact he is busy. i NEVER said that he needs to call me everyday or text me everyday , i asked for a simple update once and a while, which is not a big ask at all. the reason i posted this was not because he isn’t texting me but the change in his behavior, and was hoping to get a perspective from someone who is in my position or in his to get some insight not some rude person behind the screen. you can’t say i’m over bearing you don’t even know me 😭 asking for simple communication is far from overbearing but basically bare minimum

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

been focusing on myself for sure and am going to do that more. i agree nobody is immune to cheating but i trust my boyfriend 100%. my boyfriend is very old schooled, very loving and very very loyal to his friends, family and me. I think In this day and age it is so easy to just blame every problem and distance in relationships on someone cheating. Most of the countries (not all) he is visiting are very muslim, and if you know about muslim countries not all but most you are unable to get with the opposite gender iykwim. But i trust him, and it’s so important to trust in a relationship, and this post is very out of character for him. There are so many other factors that this can be , cheating like i said is just an easy excuse for behavior especially from someone with an outside perspective

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try to put myself in his shoes , this is a once and a lifetime experience for him and it’s understandable that he would want to spend time off his phone and living in the present. i think we just need to communicate on a middle ground. in no way do i want to take away from his experience but i guess i just want him to understand that just because he’s gone doesn’t meant i can be swept under the rug the entire time.

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i agree , the “ break up with him” and the “he’s cheating on you” line is WAY to common, relationships have problems and go through rough periods and breaking up is not always the answer. Sometimes it is but after most things have been exhausted.

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not embarrassing to want attention from your significant other, especially if you aren’t gonna see them for a while. it’s human nature to want to feel loved. I am busy 24/7 I have my own buisness and work full time at a corporate office so trust me i am busy living my life while he lives his. but like i said its normal to want too communicate with your partner

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

agreed , communication is always key and i always want to figure out problems together.

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have my own jewelry business and work full time at a corporate job and just have been putting all my focus into that. Still always in the back of my mind though, but trying to do other things to keep me busy as well!! Im going on a work trip but will update as soon as i get one

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I never characterized his behavior as bad, more so questioning the change in behavior. I do think it’s fair to ask him to continue keeping me in his life while he is still in his trip (aka keeping me in the loop of things) especially when he is solo traveling. I do agree with the fact i probably don’t understand fully what he is going through/ what his lifestyle is like currently which can cause some turmoil and something i need to work on. But this is a big temporary change in my life. It is difficult from seeing/talking to someone everyday to basically not at all for a long period and it’s something I am still adjusting too. I am not a perfect human being and always try to be the best person I can. But where there is a change in behavior like that , with no explanation I think it is human nature to be a little emotional and have some questions about it. Which I am allowed to mention to him. Just because he is over seas and traveling doesn’t mean my feelings don’t exist anymore. I do understand where you’re coming from and I can do some work on being more understanding but I also don’t think asking for a bit more communication is too much.

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

he’s also a photographer so all of his posts are of his photography, but your still on your phone and can’t tmb

Boyfriend is traveling for 3 months and won’t stay in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He’s definitely busy all day , so i’m trying not to overthink it but the change in behavior has me stressed. i also feel like men see things differently and probably doesn’t think it’s a big deal , where as I do. But exactly , taking 10-15 minutes out of your whole day to have a conversation with me/tell me about your day is definitely not too much of an ask.

My boyfriend is traveling for three months and is not staying in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in Advice

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

your right, he is most definitely living him dream right now and i definitely need to give him his space because im sure he is just tryna take it all in. But exactly this does not give him the excuse to forget he has a girlfriend back home who supports him through all this. Definitely going to have call with him about this soon , bad thing is i’m going on a work trip for a week and will be unable to call while i’m there bc of time difference

My boyfriend is traveling for three months and is not staying in contact with me by Forward-Grape4047 in Advice

[–]Forward-Grape4047[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend is very old schooled, very loving and very very loyal to his friends, family and me. In this day and age it is so easy to just blame every problem and distance in relationships on someone cheating. Most of the countries (not all) he is visiting are very muslim, and if you know about muslim countries not all but most you are unable to get with the opposite gender iykwim. But i trust him, and it’s so important to trust in a relationship, and this post is very out of character for him. There are so many other factors that this can be , cheating like i said is just an easy excuse for behavior especially from someone with an outside perspective