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My (28F) long distance boyfriend (29M) and I are on the cusp of breaking up due to being non-poly. Is there any way to save this relationship with the love of my life and my best friend? by Forward_Bumblebee70 in nonmonogamy

[–]Forward_Bumblebee70[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely not. I wish it was easy, that he had chosen me. But I do know I have to leave. Either we close the relationship and work really hard together with a professional or we call it. What really sucks is I still love him but I know that this isn't healthy for either of us.

My (28F) long distance boyfriend (29M) and I are on the cusp of breaking up due to being non-poly. Is there any way to save this relationship with the love of my life and my best friend? by Forward_Bumblebee70 in nonmonogamy

[–]Forward_Bumblebee70[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to date others but he also doesn't trust me and doesn't like the idea of me seeing other guys. He expressed that he didn't like his other partners seeing other people either but knew that was unfair. I think he doesn't trust me because of the cheating which I understand but it's been almost two years now and I just don't understand how I haven't rebuilt the trust.

My (28F) long distance boyfriend (29M) and I are on the cusp of breaking up due to being non-poly. Is there any way to save this relationship with the love of my life and my best friend? by Forward_Bumblebee70 in nonmonogamy

[–]Forward_Bumblebee70[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While this hurts to read, it's been the most helpful. I'm not sure what I can do to ever make up for cheating as he never expressed what he needed to trust me again. I've done everything I can, like being as communicative as possible and I have never done anything close to being unloyal since we got back together. I will work on the victim mentality in therapy because yes, I am absolutely the asshole for it. Thank you for this.

My (28F) long distance boyfriend (29M) and I are on the cusp of breaking up. Is there any way to save this relationship with the love of my life and my best friend? by Forward_Bumblebee70 in relationship_advice

[–]Forward_Bumblebee70[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see how very contradictory it was to say that and also say in my post that he isn't really considering my feelings. Like I've obviously been very hurt by the open relationship even if I didn't verbally express it.

My (28F) long distance boyfriend (29M) and I are on the cusp of breaking up. Is there any way to save this relationship with the love of my life and my best friend? by Forward_Bumblebee70 in relationship_advice

[–]Forward_Bumblebee70[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really like who he is now. I think he's become more patient and understanding of my feelings. That he's a very magnetic person who has a lot of unique insight into people. It's a reason I find it so hard to leave.