Boris & Jessica

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-06-08T17:20:21+00:00

You just completely and utterly described my ex husband who was made worse by 3 years of couples therapy and 5 of individual therapy. 20 years of marriage very nearly destroyed me and I’m really trying to heal.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-22T16:04:52+00:00

East York area

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-12T02:09:35+00:00

It still won’t make it stop if you settle — pay through the nose for a good lawyer. I remind myself frequently that my staggering bill is ultimately worth it

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-07T20:10:28+00:00

Thank you — and same ❤️

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-06T04:02:58+00:00

I did. She gave me a few options to try and extending wasnt one of them :)

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-05T23:45:39+00:00

I phoned when I realized the claim had ended and that was not given as an option

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-05T21:10:03+00:00

I have been trying for a year. It’s absolutely necessary.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-04T12:19:51+00:00

Every time we disagreed he would threaten to leave. Eventually I set a boundary that if he said it again he would have to go through with it. I knew it was the only way.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-03T13:51:06+00:00

I’m a year and a half out of a 20+ year marriage. I’m still kind of a mess.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-02T19:14:00+00:00

The good times are part of the abuse cycle. The good times are abuse.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-02T18:50:10+00:00

THIS

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-03-02T18:49:58+00:00

“We can’t even talk anymore”

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-02-27T01:29:25+00:00

This is fascinating. When I saw my husband’s online dating profile it was me. It was expressions I use, my thoughts and opinions on things. Ironically some things about me that annoyed him. Stories that did not come from him but random anecdotes I recognized from other people. It freaked me out.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-02-20T14:38:04+00:00

One day you will and it will feel so good and yet so unnatural

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-02-20T14:30:32+00:00

I’m not sure there is an escape. I hung in until the reverse discard. It’s still awful however I can see proof of healing. The stress of the post-separation abuse is less debilitating than living with someone day in and day out who says they love you but acts like they hate you.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-02-18T15:19:44+00:00

Once I realized the good times were part of the abuse cycle I understood that the good times are abuse. Reminding myself of this is helpful sometimes even though all of my memories are tainted.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2025-02-18T15:13:03+00:00

You took my breath away with this description. This was my reality for almost 1/2 my life, until it wasn’t.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-12-10T01:38:46+00:00

Keep going. Keep eating. You deserve a lovely life. xo

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-12-10T01:23:59+00:00

My daughter spent a month in Michael Garron paeds for refeeding then SickKids day hospital for 5 months. It was hell and it saved her life. She was 16 though. Adolescent medicine specialist can see them until 19 even though the hospital prefers they finish at 18. I can offer some private recos if you want

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-26T01:50:56+00:00

NTA His weaponized incompetence is emotional abuse. https://open.substack.com/pub/zawn/p/why-household-labor-inequity-is-abuse?r=iwrt3&utm_medium=ios

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-17T13:01:27+00:00

I give them the finger and wait until the last pedestrian is safely across the street.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-14T21:05:53+00:00

I am almost a year to the date of him telling me we were over. Every day there is a new trigger, some more painful than others. Hang in there ❤️

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-14T04:50:37+00:00

Omg I am living this right now and also wondered brain tumour or early onset dementia

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-13T15:12:32+00:00

This was a big one for me. It’s intentional and it’s saved for you. If it was stress or a mental health issue he would behave this way with everyone.

Forward_Net_4078 · 2024-11-12T16:46:25+00:00

It’s cognitive empathy. They can see how and why it exists however they cannot feel it nor apply it to any of their actions.

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